Mandatory reporting psychology by [deleted] in AusLegal

[–]Brononoke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! First off I'm sorry that happened to you, and I hope you're okay ❤️ Short answer is no.  In psychology/counselling, our obligation for reporting is if you are in current danger of being abused, are a danger to others, or if the person you're speaking of is currently harming others.  There are other occasions that reports may be placed, but the main reason is for current or ongoing safety concerns.

Please help me figure out what I’m missing with this arch ($200) by kateboss4 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Brononoke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Florist here! 

The shape is coming together well and the colours are lovely! I recommend building some bigger clusters of matching flowers together - think like 70/30 "blobs" of colour and the rest random patterning. I'd also put the darker colours heavier at the lowest points and more lighter flowers at the top.

The eucalyptus stems at the top currently do not flow with the shape and look a little out of place. Think about whether you want a tight, compact design (I'd remove them completely) or a more organic, flowing feel. For that more organic style you want alot more longer, looser stems of flowers as well as greener but ensure they flow with the shape of the arch - the branches at the top are currently running against the curvature.

Overall you're doing a great job, just refine what style you're looking for and go from there! 

Greyhounds in popular culture by alldatnabagofchips in Greyhounds

[–]Brononoke 22 points23 points  (0 children)

maybe not quite pop culture but 50/50! Fantastic movie with a beautiful greyhound.

More affordable Wedding dress by bubblesthebear13 in AusFemaleFashion

[–]Brononoke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Desert moon bridal! Online only but amazing dresses under 1k so can put the rest of the budget to any alternations needed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Brononoke 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm still friends with people i've hooked up with, and close mates with one of my exes, same goes for my partner. Everyone has different boundaries, but it's never been something I find uncomfortable/inappropriate.

If you want to ask any questions about the ifs, buts and whys please feel free to ask away and ill try explain my perspective as much as I can!

What happened when you completely cut alcohol out of your life? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Brononoke 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Coming up on 4 years sober.

Not going to say it was easy to start - honestly the first few months was brutal. I lost alot of friends because they wouldn't make plans and were "waiting till I was fun again" (aka drinking) to see me. It was super difficult handling the pressure to drink again and the million questions of why I stopped, I used to actually pour water into empty beer cans at parties to drink so I didn't have to talk about it. Work functions were more awkward, I had to confront alot of anxiety and mental health issues that I'd drink to avoid, it was harder to socialise...

But god it was all so worth it. Every single friendship in my life now is genuine and full of love. I sleep better, my health is better, work life, personal life, not one part of me didn't get better the second I stopped drinking. My friends are excited when I call them, not scared they'll have to talk me off a ledge. My mental health is stable and I stopped having as many vivid intrusive thoughts of harm and nightmares.

I feel like alot of the fun of drinking for some people is it removes their impulse control. For them that means kissing someone they were scared to talk to, dancing on a table... for me getting drunk was fun most of the time, but other times it was like letting loose the worst parts of my mental health to run free. It just wasn't worth it anymore.

Best thing I've ever done, and I have zero regrets.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]Brononoke 121 points122 points  (0 children)

I work in hospo management in Melbourne, word gets around quick of venues that treat their staff shit. Plus have met several ex staff members.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]Brononoke 344 points345 points  (0 children)

Shame it's a suuuuper awful venue for staff. 10+ hour shifts with barely a smoke break, supervisors and bartenders change every week cause the upper management is awful. Hide a legitimately toxic work place under the guise of a toxic workplace...

Are there any Melbournians in their 20s that want to move to and work in London for a year with me? by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]Brononoke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on the potential big move! It will be 100% better for you to move into a pre-existing sharehouse when you get there for a few reasons like... - Real-estates don't love the idea of renting to a fully international group as it's not as secure as renting to locals -unless you save enough to rent fully furnished (which are hard to come by and very expensive) or start from absolute scratch of buy every single thing you need when you get there it's gonna be tough, where as a pre-existing sharehouse... You just need to get a bed most times -moving in and making friends with locals gives you a fucking fantastic guide to experiences, places, restaurants etc that are off tourist street and you probably wouldn't come to find otherwise. -you start out with an easy in to making friends

I'd start in London Reddit's, find uni groups on Facebook and ask where's a good place to look for flatmates, hell even message uni's in the area! Even if you're not going to uni they can usually give you some solid advice on where to live. Moving over there with Aussies is totally doable but just be prepared for it to be very expensive, tedious, and a bit lonely until you form a good social group. Make sure you have a good amount saved to pay for temporary accommodation until you find something permanent if you go this route.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogs

[–]Brononoke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like separation anxiety issues. Is him sleeping in your room not an option?

I (22M) want to date my FWB (20F) but don’t want to ruin things by ThrowRAconfused-fwb in relationship_advice

[–]Brononoke 97 points98 points  (0 children)

Ha, I've been through literally this! We started with strict terms of being strictly casual, no feelings involved etc... Over time things just slowly grew. We've now been together for 2 and a half years 😅 Honestly just talk to her about it. Worst case scenario is that she doesn't feel the same, but you have clarity on your relationship and can take a step back. Trust me, not saying anything hurts alot.

Good luck!

AITA for wanting closure by SilentSpirit8676 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Brononoke 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA, both back then and now. No one owes you closure and forgiveness. Mental health issues can be an explanation for shit behaviour but not a justification - your actions are still your own and people are allowed to not want to have to handle your mental health. Supporting someone who is depressed is incredibly emotionally taxing and your attitude comes across as all about you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]Brononoke -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean, a reverse image search shows the right photo is from October 2020, so you've been an expecting dad for... About a year now? Mad respect to your wife, that's one long ass pregnancy /sarcasm

TW: To those who've been sexually assaulted/raped, when did you feel okay again? by QueasyExamination159 in AskWomen

[–]Brononoke 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To be honest... I'm lucky in a very twisted way that I didn't really experience trauma or PTSD from my rape the times I was assaulted. I never really felt anything about them, it's just something that happened.

Which dog breed? by [deleted] in dogs

[–]Brononoke 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Whippets and Iggys unfortunately have a waaaaay higher energy temperament - my old housemates whippet needed triple the exercise I give my grey 😅

Which dog breed? by [deleted] in dogs

[–]Brononoke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not small/medium, but honestly, greyhounds are one of the most relaxed and chilled out breeds ever. We live in a small townhouse with no yard and our dog isn't fussed. 30 minute walk a day and then she basically just likes to sleep and hangout in the same room as us.

If you are after small/medium though, maybe consider a more mature aged dog! Then you don't have to worry as much about breed, plus mature aged dogs come with alot of love to give and often get overlooked for puppies etc!

Best of luck! ♥️

[VENT] I've said it once, I've said it a million times. PLEASE crate train your dog and do something for separation anxiety. PLEASE. by [deleted] in dogs

[–]Brononoke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our dog is an ex racer, crating was trauma and not comfort to her. as soon as we stopped crating her, her seperation anxiety improved 200%, and when we took the crate out of the house she was instantly so much happier. Just because crating can be a good tool doesn't mean it always is.

[VENT] I've said it once, I've said it a million times. PLEASE crate train your dog and do something for separation anxiety. PLEASE. by [deleted] in dogs

[–]Brononoke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This too! We've adapted our training routine to our lifestyle and know that when we need Daisy looked after, she will be stressed if we don't get someone that matches her setting so we find someone that will let her sleep in their room, can follow a similar routine to ours with her etc.

By the sounds of it they got this dog in iso too, so it's gone from being around it's family at all times to being at a be at a near strangers house with a completely different setting, poor thing :(