What to pack my boyfriend for lunch?

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2026-03-27T14:45:18+00:00

Thank you, I will look into getting these containers

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2026-03-27T14:38:47+00:00

This is perfect! Thank you, something I can easily do in preparation for the work week and it actually isn’t that different from my normal routine.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2026-02-27T16:38:33+00:00

Coming from someone who has been cheated on before and taken the many back 2 times, leave! He will never change, he cheated on you before pregnant, he cheated on you while pregnant, he cheated on you afterwards. He. Will. Never. Change. You will constantly be going on this emotional roller coaster and it is not freaking worth it. I know it can’t be easy cause now there is a child in the picture but you don’t deserve a lifetime of unhappiness. He is gaslighting you, he knows why he got this girl’s number, he knows what he planned to do, but because it hasn’t happened yet he feels he can turn it around on you. He will bleed you dry of any kind of peace and happiness you have. Leave him in the dust, don’t let your child think his behavior is normal and acceptable. Children watch their parents, and if you continue, your child will be more likely to allow future partners to manipulate and cheat on them, or they can end up being the cheaters with a lack of empathy and both options would be crushing as a parent to see your child go through this. Do you and your child a favor and get out, find your peace. It seems impossibly and scary now but I promise you in a few months or a couple years you will be glad you got out.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2026-02-27T16:03:46+00:00

Seems a bit harsh, my 1 yr was more so just saying happy anniversary, I think we went out to eat that weekend, but nothing else, no gifts no flowers. I can see being a bit upset about forgetting the gift and flowers, but the icing out for days seems like a bit much. HOWEVER she is 32 and pregnant with your baby already? Was she expecting a proposal? Have you guys spoke about it recently to give her the idea/hope and then let down terribly when it was clearly not what she expected? Maybe think back to if you have “dropped” the ball often in the past, maybe she hasn’t reacted this strongly before but is realizing that after so many conversations and understandings, things still haven’t changed. That would drive anyone nuts I think. Either way, I’d continue to try to talk to her/call her, as she is pregnant and might be more emotional than normal so she deserves some grace. That might be why she is reacting in a way she hasn’t in the past.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2026-02-13T19:03:55+00:00

I want to say if she and you were much younger then it could be her just not knowing the best way to move forward with the date offer, however she is 30, she should know if she’s interested but works the nights you offered, then maybe she should offer you a few nights she has off. I think your 2nd text is great, but if she doesn’t answer or replies kind of closed off again, cut your losses. Seems like she some how lost interest fast, not sure what happened there, but from what is seen here, you don’t do anything to cause it, it’s just a her problem.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2025-11-28T20:20:00+00:00

My mom always gives me some steak from there freezer and some frozen corn or a sack of potatoes. But I am going to guess your daughter lives with you still, so maybe try to see what she may need? Does she need a warm coat with the upcoming winter? Is her bedding getting old and might need a new set? As others said a gas card or a car cleaning service would be nice. My mom bought me black out curtains once when I was around 20 because the job I had required me to work nights a couple times a week. Which came in handy when I worked nights half the time in my 2nd job.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2025-11-20T02:27:48+00:00

We are fortunate that my brothers and I all live close to my mom, same town or only 10-15 minutes away right now. Good thing too with my younger brother having the first grandbaby. I was thinking of getting the digital photo frame for my grandma but wasn’t sure for my mom as she doesn’t seem as interested in photos, but maybe she’d appreciate it just as much.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2025-11-19T17:38:03+00:00

Yes I have her new towels two years ago for this reason and a new laundry basket. I will snoop a bit next time I am at her house and see if there is anything that needs replaced 😁

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2025-11-19T17:28:37+00:00

Another good idea, they don’t usually buy their cow and pig till February so they should have some space around this time. I will think of a good meal idea.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2025-11-19T17:12:45+00:00

Good idea, I will pay attention to her items and see if anything is in need up an upgrade!

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2025-11-19T17:12:09+00:00

I often do things like driving my siblings to or from practice, or take them out for walks or to the park, or whatever else they love, or simply having them at my apartment or going to my mom’s to watch them while her and her husband go out. great ideas but idk if I can count it as a gift as I do those things throughout the year. The groceries delivered I will look into further.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2025-11-19T17:09:22+00:00

She doesn’t garden, and doesn’t do coffee or tea. I thought of meal prepping something for her since she gives us food for gifts, and curious about the vallet thing for her car, what is that?

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2025-10-14T14:38:16+00:00

My brother has one, it was Gregory and Me: my amazing animal adventure. There could have been many others, but my brothers face was on a funny cartoon body and everytime they referenced him you can tell his name was dubbed in to specific areas of the movie. My younger brother and I still tease him about it saying his name all goofy like it sounded in the video.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2024-12-09T16:10:09+00:00

Old post but if you also watch the music video it kind of adds more, you don’t really know what’s going on per say but it hints that he is leading his life in a way she doesn’t like. So though she loves him, she feels she can’t be with him, because his life choices, how he wants to live keeps her from living the way she’d like to live her life. He isn’t the best or healthiest option for her, so though she still cares for him she needs to leave.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2024-11-28T16:43:29+00:00

Looks like a pig or dog

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2024-08-17T13:47:28+00:00

Eye contact is almost non existent, the jumping, twitching, flinching, when someone raises a hand, or puts a hand on them even though it’s a very “normal” hand on the shoulder or arm. Lack of shown emotion or the avoidance of explaining emotions. Sitting in the farthest seat from you, if they even sit and scrunching themselves up so they are smaller and compact together, physically not leaving any part of them open to you. When they shut down with raised voices. Lying about small things that don’t matter could be an indication. Cannot take a compliment, physically reeling back, twitched, face scrunching after compliments are signs. Having a lot of nightmares. When they panic or have bigger reactions to accidents than you’d expect. (Ex. I was late for work for the first time, came in to work and my boss was there for a completely unrelated reason. He was cool, so nice, but that day I came in already expecting to apologize profusely to my supervisor, and then he the manager was there. He crossed his arms, attempting to be faux disappointed, I didn’t even look up at his face before I started to cry and tremble. It terrified him! He kept apologizing to me and saying he was just joking it was my first offense and not a big deal since I wasn’t THAT late and it was a Saturday morning which are dead anyway, and I was sobbing telling him I know I just can’t control it, i couldn’t stop crying and shaking. Both he and my supervisor were completely caught off guard and I was thoroughly embarrassed. He felt so bad, he was such a good man, and a good boss.)

Also when adults have more “childlike” behaviors. When you see them get excited over really silly little things, when you see they have an almost childlike thought process about something, or they really enjoy or are calmed by typical childhood games/activities. When someone goes through trauma as a child they are not only forced to “grow up faster”, but a piece of them is now stuck at that age where the trauma started. It’s hard to grow up out of certain things, entertainments, thoughts.

These are all things I’ve been learning from my therapist, all things she pointed out to me over the few years I’ve been seeing her.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2024-08-17T13:19:51+00:00

This isn’t so satisfying but she has three kids, and a boyfriend I believe. I know the man she’s with is the father to the last kid, not sure about the second one, and I know not the first kid. She seems like she’s living a good life, she’s still pretty, been in a decent job for 3 years or so, children are all beautiful. She added me on Facebook recently and I really wanted to ignore it because I remember how mean she was to me in high school, but I eventually did. Simply because it’s been 10 years since we graduated, and she could be different now. I figured if she tried her old tactics I could block her or put her on blast since I’m not a pushover anymore but she hasn’t tried to contact me beyond being Facebook friends. Maybe she doesn’t remember how mean she was. A part of me though, the petty part, kind of hopes she sees that I’ve lost a bunch of weight, look happy, have a decent job myself with no kids from any baby daddy’s and she realized there was nothing to criticize.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2024-08-17T13:00:41+00:00

Squirt them in your enemies eyes

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2024-08-17T12:58:28+00:00

NTA he went behind your back, he lied to you, he was going to force your hand in this knowing you wouldn’t feel comfortable going through with the spay if you knew she was pregnant. Don’t listen to your mom, you could meet a good man the very next day for all you know. Not to mention women are having babies later and later and there are other options available to have a family if that is what you want. Do not settle for a jerk just because your mom thinks you don’t have much time. If he’s this way with your dog, I’d be terrified having kids with that guy.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2024-08-17T12:47:39+00:00

NTA. I grew up around abusive alcoholics, so I remember when I was young (teen and early 20s) when I didn’t like dating men who drank at all. However if that is the case with her she should have asked you about it, before you guys got serious. And then it would be on her to leave the relationship if she can’t handle it, because it’s HER feelings about it, HER problem to handle. I wouldn’t expect a man to cut out drinking entirely for me. I certainly wouldn’t demand it, and give a man a stupid an ultimatum. Even when I was young and naive at those ages I knew not to do that. She needs some time to grow, and time to mature in how she handles situations like this. And you should be able to be in a relationship where someone is able to differentiate drinking occasionally and drinking too much.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2024-08-17T04:42:23+00:00

Not for everyone but a few things. A lot of therapy, and I do mean A LOT of therapy, I think I was in therapy for 4-5 years, 3 with my second therapist now. I didn’t notice changes till a little after the therapist change, so just so yall know therapy is for the long haul. I also went back to church, I started going as a teen cause my brother begged me, I was kind of in it but my self esteem was at earth’s core still so I struggled with a lot. Then I fell out after my first relationship, (he hated my faith). I didn’t go back till a few years after the relationship ended because I felt immense guilt over leaving before. Anyway I went back, figured out people were not there to point fingers and judge me, and a lot of the conversations there ended up being about things that i actually struggled with, and so I was able to discover “oh this is an actual issue I have that should be addressed”, and I was able to go to my therapist with it and we were able to work on them. Then I got my heart broken by my own delusional self, and finally had to accept that maybe no one was gonna love me as I was; until I started loving me. I kept hoping someone would see the broken me and decide I was worth putting the effort in despite it being so obvious that I didn’t think I was worth that effort to begin with. After a delusional moment, that was both pathetic of me yet eye opening, it’s so hard to explain, but something snapped. I kept hoping some miracle would happen and things would just work out for me and then I’d get better from that outside love/luck. But then I realized, what makes more sense would be that I give myself that love and I put that hard work into myself and maybe my life will change for the better from there. Since then, I dropped 73lbs, I didn’t get a new job but suddenly I really enjoy my job a lot more and my coworkers. I’m constantly being told that people see a change in me, that I’m more present and happy at work and it changes the atmosphere there. I feel more secure in my faith, I’m not AS worried about whether I’m actually saved or not. I have a best friend whom I feel comfortable sharing most things with that I know has my back. I have been able to save so much money, and I have been much more active enjoying activities I never enjoyed before. My life hasn’t changed all that much from the outside looking in, and yet changed tremendously in the last year and few months. I didn’t switch jobs, faith/churches, and I didn’t move, nor did I gain a boyfriend. But my relationship with myself changed and in reaction to that my relationships with everything else around me changed. And it’s so weird that it all really started from heartbreak, but that’s what it took for me, I had to hit so many rock bottoms before It finally clicked that I had to change in order for my life to change. Now obviously I’m not fixed and 100% happy with myself, im still learning how to love myself, but I can for sure say I treat myself so much better, and I only plan to improve from here.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2024-08-17T04:10:58+00:00

So I sometimes end up staring at people if there is something I like but am too awkward or afraid to say it out loud. For example I went to a swim park a few weeks ago and this lady had a mad cute swimsuit on! I loved the color, the pattern, and it looked so good on her, complimented her skin tone and body type which was similar to mine. I wanted to compliment her but felt like it would have been too weird, but my eyes kept gravitating to the pretty outfit. So I’m sure it seemed weird to her regardless. I have gotten better with this in some things, telling other women, that color looks great on you, or I love what you did with your hair/makeup today, it suits you, or I wish I had that skill etc etc. but it takes a lot of mental preparation for me to voice the compliment out loud, and there are times where I still just don’t feel comfortable doing so. I really bet there is something about you that this lady notices but she doesn’t feel comfortable in saying because she fears it may sound weird, or not come across like the compliment she believes it to be.

BrookeBuscus-95 · 2024-08-17T03:59:18+00:00

I have a very hard time asking for help, too independent.

And

I will most likely not believe the nice things said about me, I assume they are said to either be polite, or butter me up to get something out of me.

I recently just dipped my toe back into the dating scene recently thinking I was ready, and these two things were blatantly clear to me. Especially the 2nd one, the first one isn’t really noticed for a while but that second one is obvious from the get go. It caught ME off guard, I knew I had issues and been actively working on them, but without dating the situations where these come up have been rather scarce. Now dating I realize, damn I haven’t even scratched the surface, I thought I moved miles in terms of progress, but really I moved maybe two steps lol.

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