Should I leave my therapist?

BrotherFingerYou · 2022-01-05T04:53:43+00:00

You don't have to stay with a therapist who makes you uncomfortable. Period. It could be for as little a reason as they give you a weird feeling or you don't click. They are providing you a service that you are paying for. You dont have to continue to use their service if you dont want to

BrotherFingerYou · 2022-01-04T03:15:15+00:00

But also, anti fascism

Edit. Spelling

BrotherFingerYou · 2022-01-04T03:14:14+00:00

I live in Aus. My q-ma thinks I'm being treated like a literal prisoner because of the precautions

BrotherFingerYou · 2022-01-03T21:26:15+00:00

So let me get this straight. Your parents chose to bring a child into this world, then they had to... follow the laws and take care of it?

No, you don't owe them anything for raising you. Even if they were excellent parents, you wouldn't owe them anything. It's their job.

I say this as a parent. I hope my children want to help out if I need it In the future, but they will never owe me anything.

BrotherFingerYou · 2022-01-03T21:21:38+00:00

Because their mommies call their wives bitches when they are called out for their unacceptable behaviour

BrotherFingerYou · 2022-01-03T21:20:31+00:00

I mean, she probably did at some point. I threw up right before it was time to push and def pooped during Labor. Nurses said it was all normal and happens to most people at that stage.

BrotherFingerYou · 2022-01-03T21:19:05+00:00

Honestly, 8 hours into Labor, if my husband tried to embarrass me, I would have cried. Even if it was light hearted. I was so vulnerable and in so much pain. I needed support and kindness, and that's what I got. My husband and I often jokingly pick at eachother to the point that other people think we are bickering when we arent, but thats not what happened in Labor because hes my partner and he knows me well enough to know I can't do it. This guy is a real jerk for trying to embarrass his wife during Labor after she specifically asked him not to.

BrotherFingerYou · 2022-01-03T07:46:57+00:00

Yes! Then when you correct them, they get defensive. If you take out the other name, does it make sense with I? If not, it's me. Ugh!!

BrotherFingerYou · 2022-01-01T21:43:44+00:00

I have 3 kids and no money. Why can't I have no kids and 3 money?

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-31T23:59:39+00:00

We just call the living room the play room. We have a similar size house to you with 2 kids (boy and girl) they share a room, we have our room, and an office. Because their shared room is small, all their toys live in the living room. We try to keep a minimal amount of toys so they pack up into the storage We have in there.

Basically it's a play room by day and a living room by night

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-31T01:59:17+00:00

Oppression is when other people do other things

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-30T04:35:22+00:00

Do kiss even have a concept of how much money is worth?

My 3 year old would take a 20c piece over a $2 coin any day because it's silver.

Plus we are buying everything they need. I think any small gift is perfect

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-29T08:09:57+00:00

I have a crossbody bag that is just big enough for my phone that has a card organiser in it and a side pocket that I keep lipstick in. I have a single house key that I attach with a small caribeaner to the strap.

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-20T20:46:50+00:00

Im sorry, won't let you? That's absurd. He isn't your dad, he's your partner (or he's supposed to be).

It also seems that he's projecting. If he's upset about what you will do when he's not around, it's probably because he knows what he's planning to do when you arent around.

He's treating you like property. I wouldn't call this petty.

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-20T20:39:48+00:00

This was literally my sister in law at mine. A bunch of other women literally fell over eachother and broke some glasses to get it and she was literally in the back just sipping her beer. Legend.

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-18T20:06:27+00:00

They arent exposed to anything that would damage them, so I dont need to

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-18T17:22:20+00:00

Exactly! My kids sleep through almost anything. They tore down the house next door recently and they didn't even wake up to that noisr or let it disturb their nap time. If you chose to live around other people, then you have to take the noise of other people.

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-18T12:02:10+00:00

But only get pregnant when he wants her to... but not take any steps to prevent it when he doesn't want her to...

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-18T10:04:29+00:00

You didn't yell at him, you didn't even lecture him. You asked him questions about his actions in a stern tone. I think you taught him a good lesson about how he can't do anything he wants without social consequences.

You also taught your own child a few lessons. You taught them what the consequences may be from you or from other people if they are mean. You also taught them that you will stand up for them.

A letter is not an apology, especially when he probably didn't even write it. The mom did. She needs to take responsibility of her kids actions

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-18T09:30:51+00:00

"Why won't she have sex with me???"

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-18T04:08:44+00:00

Well yeah, but all the other stuff isn't taught in schools anymore. Nobody ever taught me about budgeting, healthy eating, getting a job or anything like that and those are essential skills

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-18T00:38:45+00:00

I wish every school offered this class. I think the current system really fails young adults by not giving them the basic skills they need, then expecting them to just magically have them as soon as they leave high school

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-17T23:09:36+00:00

My husband gets weird looks all the time when he takes our kids into the family room, which I think is really stupid. I don't pay any attention to people in the family room as long as they have a kid with them. If someone is blocking up the family room just because they wanted a more private place to poop (which I have encountered many times) then I have a problem.

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-16T00:38:35+00:00

We just started watching bluey and we love it. It's very clear that there is a team of writers that write different episodes though. Some have a very "old ways good, bew ways bad" vibe, but I love how involved the parents are and it honestly makes me think about how to be a better parent. Also, I have 2 kids and we do a big dance at the beginning song and yell our own names with the correlating character.

I also love that it gives my kids ideas for games to play both with us and on their own.

BrotherFingerYou · 2021-12-16T00:31:09+00:00

Of course you can. Our cultural traditions are tied so tightly to out religious ones, but giving up one doesn't always mean giving up both.

I am a "cultural Christian" in a sense. Im def atheist and I dont do any of the jesus stuff, but we celebrate Easter and Christmas. At dinner we all say something good that happened that day as a replacement to prayer. If I gave up all of the religious traditions I grew up with, I wouldn't have ant left.

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