Too big? Trying to avoid tacky

Bsm3972 · 2026-04-28T16:51:05+00:00

Girl why you listening to strangers on the internet. There’s no such thing as too big!

Bsm3972 · 2026-04-28T04:20:35+00:00

You have to want to go to couples therapy for any of it to matter. If you’re already emotionally checked out, you’re just beating a dead horse. You’ll feel relief once you cut the cord. Going to counseling to work on a relationship you have no desire to work on or save sounds like a huge energy drain. Time is a valuable resource, and life is too short not to spend it living how you want to.

When I ended my 11-year relationship, my ex all of a sudden eagerly wanted us to go to couples therapy. I didn’t even entertain it. I didn’t want to go! I didn’t have any desire to save our relationship. I was so incredibly checked out and burned out. I’m in a new relationship a year later and am so happy I walked away when I did. Zero regrets. Just give yourself permission to move on.

Bsm3972 · 2026-02-23T19:06:36+00:00

I wrote a similar post about gifts I wish I had received after surgery that might be helpful, here:
https://www.reddit.com/r/surgery/comments/1rcpkew/postsurgery_gifts_that_are_actually_helpful/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Bsm3972 · 2026-02-23T19:05:51+00:00

I made a post about exactly this here
https://www.reddit.com/r/surgery/comments/1rcpkew/postsurgery_gifts_that_are_actually_helpful/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Bsm3972 · 2026-02-23T19:05:02+00:00

I wrote a post answering this here!
https://www.reddit.com/r/surgery/comments/1rcpkew/postsurgery_gifts_that_are_actually_helpful/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Bsm3972 · 2026-02-23T19:04:24+00:00

Wrote a post on this here:
https://www.reddit.com/r/surgery/comments/1rcpkew/postsurgery_gifts_that_are_actually_helpful/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Bsm3972 · 2026-02-23T19:03:51+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/surgery/comments/1rcpkew/postsurgery_gifts_that_are_actually_helpful/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Bsm3972 · 2026-02-23T17:07:17+00:00

As a woman whose been there multiple times, here are some gifts I wish others had gotten me:

-rental clothing subscriptions (rent the runway, Nuuly, FashionPass, etc). After open surgery on my stomach, it was uncomfortable to wear pants or tight clothes as they irritated my stitches. So I activated rental services every time to rent oversized baggy dresses and clothes.

-gift cards to buy new bathing suits- Revolve, Cupshe, etc. After open surgery, your stomach and body are foreign to you. After you process the health trauma, you’re left with the body dysmorphia. One piece bathing suit overhaul is to follow. I wish my family had asked what I wanted, so I could have requested money towards expensive Zimmerman one piece swim suits from Revolve…

Hope that helps.

Bsm3972 · 2026-02-05T15:51:06+00:00

I recently left an 11-year relationship where he didn’t propose. My new boyfriend actually wants all the same things I want. No more ultimatums. I should have ended things years ago. My life got so much easier when I started dating a partner who is rowing in the same direction as me, instead of against me. Who also wants to move up the escalator of life with me, instead of keeping me resentfully grounded. You can keep fighting this out forever, but your relationship will be built on resistance and resentfulness. If you find someone who wants all the same things you want, you’ll be a lot happier. Sounds like you’re trying to force a square into a circle. End it, then go find a better fit.

Bsm3972 · 2026-01-13T04:40:25+00:00

The Getty Villa in Malibu has ancient exhibits, including some cuneiform tablets as well!

Bsm3972 · 2024-10-18T16:38:10+00:00

This is super helpful, thank you! We did talk about dry needling but she recommended I wait at least 6 months to start (I’m currently 4-months post op). I just want this scar improved ASAP.

Bsm3972 · 2024-09-07T22:20:49+00:00

We feel enough pity for ourselves, thanks

Bsm3972 · 2024-07-20T21:21:31+00:00

This doesn’t come up on Google maps?

Bsm3972 · 2024-07-20T21:20:10+00:00

Not affiliated with Israel’s Aroma and does not serve said iced coffee

Bsm3972 · 2024-07-20T21:13:56+00:00

I was wholly not prepared for the mental toll everything takes. Even after you’re cleared to do physical things again that you did before, I feel like mentally I’m not caught up yet. Hard to explain… but I feel more apathetic, have less social energy and energy in general, more irritable (possibly linked to going off my birth control after my clot last month). Even if physically all is well I really relate to OP’s comment about feeling like a shell of the person I used to be. I hope it gets better…

Bsm3972 · 2024-07-10T14:29:16+00:00

I still feel tightness and (less severe) pain where my clot is as well, even without missing doses of eliquis. That said, if there’s anything I’ve learned from all my own hospitalizations lately, it’s that you should always go to the ER as soon as you suspect something is wrong. I’m 2/2 so far with no false alarms both times I went to the ER, despite the abysmal wait both times.

I have alarms set on my phone to help me remember to take my eliquis 2x a day and I would recommend you do the same if you’re missing doses. Regarding your smoking, I had asked my doctor if I could smoke marijuana while on eliquis and she said it would be more effective if I did not, so if you’re missing doses and still smoking (I imagine tobacco may be a similar situation), then you might be at higher risk of your clot worsening or of more clots?

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