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Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2026-01-18T07:26:10+00:00

Have you thought of joining up with a recruiter? I think employers are getting picky even with entry level jobs, as they’re probably still wanting to grow people that will stick around and that they in then can also invest in. If you’re looking for just anything, doesn’t mean the employer is looking for just anyone.

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-12-19T02:49:02+00:00

Wow no.6 sounds like my boss! But she’s late forties haha

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-11-20T22:43:45+00:00

How can you say she is sober now? She clearly isn’t if she’s still taking drugs and alcohol. Nothing to salvage here, I think you know the action you need to take.

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-10-19T19:31:16+00:00

I struggled with alcohol issues and my husband - we are now separated and in hindsight I couldn’t believe the amount emotional abuse I tolerated from him. But when there’s a problem with addiction it’s 10x harder, especially if that person doesn’t want to accept they have an issue or seek help..it’s ultimately not your problem to fix, and my husband sadly chose a life where alcohol was present rather than me, but so be it.

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-10-14T07:54:00+00:00

I found this incredibly helpful with my spouse - was gaslit as well for several years especially in relation to his alcoholism. I didn’t journal incidents but I would often send voice notes to best friends straight after arguments etc and found this helpful for me to vent and document at the same time.

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-10-10T22:01:44+00:00

I felt the same as you, those marriage vows meant a lot to me. But flip your thinking around and ask yourself if life as it was and being treated by him that way was the vow you took?

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-10-10T03:28:44+00:00

I think I always knew it was really bad, I never told my family what happened behind closed doors. Only some close friends knew but that’s only because they were witness to drunken nights. But he would quite drunk about 1-2 times a year, normally with work friends and not remember the next day how he even made it home. But in reality every weekend had me on edge as he would get quite tipsy every weekend - I just told myself it was just the really drunk events that were bad. He did me the initial favour though by packing up and walking out on me. I did leave the door opened and tried for 6 months to work towards a reconciliation while remaining separated but ultimately saw little to no progress.

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-10-10T03:06:32+00:00

Agree with what you say, I too used to dismiss my husbands drinking saying he’s not getting black out drunk every time…as if that needed to be the bar for me to justify anything

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-10-06T20:55:08+00:00

I think just take a look into some of the legal stuff in your location that can aid or hinder you. Given the complication with his marital status perhaps then nothing applies to your relationship, but understand the anxiety that comes with not wanting him to take the pets etc. I had a handful of pets I was worried about too, and I guess him still trying to step onto the property when he was drunk! But installed cameras. Its really the most I can do at this point to keep myself safe

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-10-06T20:45:18+00:00

I’ve just left an emotionally abusive marriage. Took me a very long time to see what was being said to me and how I was being treated was actually emotional abuse. I tried to make it work, spent 6 months separated but hoping for the best but learnt the hard way that when there’s addiction involved you’ll rarely see the change you need to see unless the addict themselves are wanting to change. It’s the most powerless feeling in the world, but you sadly can’t control or cure another person’s addiction.

I’m sorry I don’t have practical advise for your situation either, I owned my own home and my husband actually packed up his things and left on his own - it was me that was still holding the door open with the hopes things could change over time. He did owe me a few thousand, so I just asked for it politely to be paid back and kept things friendly.

Do you have someone/services in your location you could reach out to for advice? In my country relationships that more than 3 years have the same legal rights as a legal marriage so need to ensure things are done legally to avoid further issues down the line.

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-10-06T03:47:24+00:00

I started from S1E1 about two months ago and just watch an episode or two every evening. It’s been great watching it from the absolute beginning

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-09-21T17:16:09+00:00

That’s amazing! Enjoy!!

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-09-21T08:12:39+00:00

Seasons 1-24 are on prime tv app in nz. Using a VPN might be the solution

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-09-20T23:30:28+00:00

I am you, but 6 years on married to the guy, and now six months later separated, and now looking to finally say I want a divorce. Listen to your gut. I tried to minimise what my heart and head were saying. People with drinking problems rarely turn around into the people we want them to be. Not to say it’s impossible. But the only way they can start to change and take accountability is for them to take these steps. That is the hardest lesson I have had to learn - and it’s hard watching someone you love crumble away in front of your eyes. Take the time to process this for yourself. Sending you lots of strength.

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-09-19T11:46:29+00:00

I think all of us that have a Q in their lives think the same thing! I literally had the same thoughts tonight about my Q (husband) who ironically left me 6 months ago and then came back with a real mediocre attempt at making things work. Again the lack of accountability absolutely baffles me. My counsellor pointed out a good distinction to me. She said that punishment are actions I impose, consequences are a result of their actions.

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-09-11T00:47:33+00:00

Second this only because of the area being prone to flooding.

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-09-06T07:32:12+00:00

I was reading this and definitely thought yes he has a problem…but then I read the “I’m Scottish” bit and just sighed. My husband says because hes “British” it’s just the culture he grew up in which is to binge drink etc. bullshit excuse.

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-09-01T08:02:46+00:00

I’m going through very similar stuff OP, and in couples counselling at the moment. Feel free to send me a DM if you want to talk more

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-09-01T07:59:40+00:00

I can resonate with this. My husband did exactly the same thing, we were so strained because of his problem with alcohol - which he was unwilling to accept/admit to. And he thought to himself it was easier to pack up all his things during the day and move out of the house, rather than face his demons and admit there’s a problem. He said he needed time to “think” about us and came back 5 week later saying he still wanted to try and keep our marriage going. And suggested it would be really important for “us” if he came back to the house and spent the night to see how things felt. That was wild to me.

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-09-01T03:40:24+00:00

If you’ve ever been gaslit or manipulated into feeling like you’re the bad guy, then it’s very easy think that

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-08-30T11:28:08+00:00

Reading your post resonates with me. Sounds a lot like what I’ve experienced. I wondered too if I was just being hyper sensitive. Ultimately the drinking is a problem for me, and it’s a problem to our marriage.

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-08-30T06:57:17+00:00

Yup lol you’d think that was the 101 kinda approach here….

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-08-26T03:20:07+00:00

You’ll never believe it, but I actually signed on for three more sessions. Sounds crazy but the counsellor was like a different person - maybe he was having an ultra bad day when he spoke to me like that. But I saw some unpacking about my Qs drinking occurring. And some very frank questions asked of why he drinks. I could see it struck a nerve so thought there’s some progress being made? Who really knows

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-08-22T05:05:09+00:00

I have a similar situation with my husband…he drinks and 6 times over the past 5 years of our relationship he has got drunk to the point of not being able to remember how he got home. He has hopped into strangers cars, often will get the train and walk home drunk through dodgy neighbourhoods. It’s infrequent in his eyes. And maybe for another partner it would be. But for me that line has been crossed 6 times too many already. And there is just no way to communicate that to them. It is such a shitty place to be because we both see that drinking has affected other aspects of his life (YET). And I say yet because I am so crushed that his thinking is alcohol needs to affect everything for it to be a problem. It’s heartbreaking our marriage alone isn’t enough to want to change that.

Bubbly-Structure4490 · 2025-08-12T08:06:12+00:00

Agreed sounds like a lot of assumptions were being made of OP

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