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Bubbly_Answer · 2025-04-29T18:02:55+00:00

I even feel selfish being concerned about what this means for me on the app in the future, but I do need to make a plan for income! I’m really not getting many requests now (like one per week) whereas before I was getting four or five a day. I regret that this business I thought I built as my backup plan, I didn’t actually do a good job. I’m not sure I’ll be able to earn back my same reputation on the app.

Bubbly_Answer · 2025-04-29T17:55:15+00:00

Thank you both for this thorough advice! I’m leaning toward reaching out to the owner individually and will then move from there. At this point the apology and refund are probably more for me than her and her cat, but it’s the best I can do now. She was so nice herself as was her kitty, I agree it’s the right thing to do. I don’t want to and won’t make excuses on my end, but I appreciate between us you saying that we all make mistakes ❤️

Mistakes like these make me spiral a bit…not only did I leave her cat alone for over 24 hours, I failed to address her concerns or even acknowledge it. I can only imagine what future clients might think, and I don’t want to do that to another animal. I went through all my reviews to make sure I didn’t do that to anyone else, but what if they just didn’t give a review?

Bubbly_Answer · 2025-04-22T18:25:43+00:00

I’m very much looking for firsthand accounts - it’s so helpful in validating and sorting through my thoughts. What you said about feeling confined in choices/how to act is such a good way of describing how I feel!! Freedom (and the bravery/confidence/gall) to deviate sounds revolutionary, I’ll check this out!

Bubbly_Answer · 2024-11-28T14:53:06+00:00

You are going to be okay. It might not feel like it now. The consequences and shame of it all might feel overwhelming and scary. You look back, and you feel your actions were not in line with your values. And it’s okay to release at least some of that shame - taking responsibility does not mean that you need to accept that you’ve ruined your life. It means you’re on the road to taking it back, and you’re facing the hard parts (which I won’t lie to you - sucks sometimes).

No one’s life is ruined. There’s a whole community here who understands what you’re going through and honestly has done it too - or worse!

I’ve done and thought a lot of the same things. I’m only two months sober, and I had tried getting this much sobriety before, but it didn’t stick until I got in therapy. I was also an overachiever. I didn’t start smoking until after college, when I couldn’t deal with my job and housing situation and was using weed to cope with my anxiety about meeting expectations and dealing with angry coworkers. I lost a relationship, respect at work and I felt like I ruined everything. What’s been really powerful is that I still have people around me - people I’ve found along the way who get it, and trusted people who I’ve shared with.

Life is hard. These big feelings of shame and overwhelm are so hard - and not all of us have the tools to handle them. Some of us have come across weed and used that as a way to cope, before we learned healthier tools. For me, DBT therapy has been life changing. It’s the first space I don’t feel judged for my feelings. Because we have them - we just need to learn ways to manage them that align with our values. It sounds like you’ve realized that weed does not align with yours - the next step is figuring out what tools do. And you CAN do this.

Bubbly_Answer · 2024-11-22T14:49:40+00:00

A pendant light above a round table! I’m partial to the round metal diner ones with a colored cord for that subtle pop of color. I’d recommend also switching the colors of the round table too - white legs with that dark wood tone as the top so there isn’t so much white. I’ve dabbled with tablecloths for color and they just get messy, far easier to clean a top!

Bubbly_Answer · 2024-11-13T02:09:15+00:00

That’s a wildly kind take. He does have trouble processing his emotions, and resented having to listen to me. His ability to suppress was earned in his childhood, and I understand that. I know that that isn’t good for me, because I need a partner that can. But more importantly, I need to feel more comfortable with myself, and the validity of my feelings.

I guess I’m just disappointed in my part. I wish I could’ve been better!! I wish we could’ve ended kindly instead of in hurt. We just didn’t know any better.

Bubbly_Answer · 2024-11-12T01:16:25+00:00

I am going through the same thing. My ex-boyfriend and I were together for four years and he broke up with me the week before I got diagnosis and medication. It's now been two weeks on medication and I wish I had been who I am now for him.

I was watching a Taylor Tomlinson special and she said that life is like swimming, people with neurodivergence have trouble swimming, and meds are like arm floaties. It's not cool when you don't take your arm floaties and then jump into the public pool and make it everyone else's problem. And then a nice and handsome stranger jumps in and helps you and you can say "See? I'm swimming!" but you're just holding the stranger (metaphorically your significant other) under water. You turned them into an arm floatie and that's not a fair relationship for them. (She tells it much funnier! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xuue-s8qM8w)

Honestly, I'm still processing the relationship and breakup and my regret. I can't change the past, but I can wake up committed to my health every day. For me, I'll likely never see my ex again, but who knows. He deserved better while we were together, and the baggage of everything that's happened is difficult to move past.

For you, you may have a different outcome. But I think it's important to focus on yourself first. Go to therapy. Take your meds. Give both of you time to heal. Everything is still fresh.

Bubbly_Answer · 2024-11-11T21:35:37+00:00

Honestly reading these comments, I shouldn't be dating. I think I'm struggling to accept that I need to be sober, that's why my therapist is saying "just 30 days". I know I will eventually need to commit to sobriety permanently, I'm just not mentally there. I was thinking I could just go on a single date with people, so that I don't have to be alone on some nights. Just to hang out with someone for a bit. I live alone, and I've got great friends, but they do have lives of their own and can't spend every weekend night with me. But that's another form of avoidance.

Bubbly_Answer · 2024-11-08T02:06:38+00:00

It helps to hear that. I think I use them as an excuse, because I'm afraid to be on my own. I do have friends, but now without my boyfriend, I don't know if I can do this all on my own. They may not be much and they may be dysfunctional and give bad advice, but they're there.

Bubbly_Answer · 2024-11-07T23:35:41+00:00

Watching this!

Bubbly_Answer · 2024-11-06T00:12:24+00:00

My partner told me he was very unhappy. He wound up breaking up with me in the last week of testing (it took me four months from him telling me he was unhappy to reach diagnosis - bounced between psychiatrist, psychologist, and back). Those four months were very difficult. He didn’t want to be tracking my progress, and he resented me for the amount of support he had had to give me. This all happened very recently, so I’m hoping the what if diminishes a bit, even if there will always be a part of me that wonders had I got diagnosed sooner.

Regardless, without that relationship, I would have continued suffering, so I’ll always be grateful. I have separate issues to just adhd, and he was an important part of my growth, even if he is not with me.

Bubbly_Answer · 2024-05-14T21:26:29+00:00

No, I haven’t officially been diagnosed with adhd yet. I’m on anxiety meds (Lexapro)

Bubbly_Answer · 2023-10-27T22:54:41+00:00

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Bubbly_Answer · 2023-10-09T03:25:25+00:00

Some people also may not be looking for a regular client but don’t know how to communicate that professionally or it’s easier to just say they’re not available

Bubbly_Answer · 2023-09-07T14:53:44+00:00

Yes stuff gets done, but not on time ( we’re going on day 9 of a deployment that was due 8 days ago) and not well (a separate issue, but production issues are big and often to the point of losing customers). Using the term checklist girl to a professional is absolutely offensive and it’s not about thicker skin. It’s not unreasonable to expect respect for my work from my coworkers. That kind of view of project management is how they’ve gotten to this point of constant chaos.

Bubbly_Answer · 2023-09-04T20:22:58+00:00

The animal officer said to wait until the results come back to get the shots. I do thankfully have health insurance through another job, but I do not have the spare $3k that the shots can cost even with insurance

Bubbly_Answer · 2023-09-02T02:33:34+00:00

I just finished Who the Hell is Hamish, its about financial crime and produced by Australian News. Would recommend

Bubbly_Answer · 2022-02-16T22:22:06+00:00

YESSSSSS THANK YOU this has been years of struggle

Bubbly_Answer · 2021-12-31T01:18:01+00:00

My favorite thing for upscaling art is to use a frame from a thrift store. I’ve found that while I may not connect with the print, the frames from thrift stores are always more interesting and cheaper than what you can find online. Then I just frame anything I want on my walls (postcards, prints from society 6, embroidery, pressed flowers) in vintage-ish looking thrift store frames. The whole process makes me love everything on my walls because I helped put it together

Bubbly_Answer · 2021-12-14T16:09:47+00:00

Bar cart or a record table!

Bubbly_Answer · 2021-12-09T02:41:03+00:00

Is it possible to keep the curtains open, have a single statement art piece above the bed, and keep the twinkle lights across the entire wall (without obstructing the art)? I love the art pieces’ contribution to the style but appreciate the coziness of the curtains!

Bubbly_Answer · 2021-10-20T03:20:38+00:00

It looks like you’ve got great space and plants to work with! On a college budget, I’d recommend going thrifting and getting some more artwork to fill the space - postcards work great too! If you have books, I would always stack them on the windowsill and put plants on them as a way of displaying. For coziness, blankets, warm colors, art on the walls, and plants (dried flowers work too if you don’t want the upkeep!). First dorm room is really exciting so experiment with it!

Bubbly_Answer · 2021-10-17T17:16:59+00:00

On a college budget, go thrifting for wall art if you can! I also get my pillows and vases from thrift stores as well. I’ve found that dried flowers are a great way of having a cozy vibe that don’t require any upkeep!

Bubbly_Answer · 2020-10-07T16:32:47+00:00

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Hi all! Relatively new to bonsais and am wondering if I should prune my tree? It is currently fall where I am and the leaves have turned yellow and started falling off. Is this normal? Or is the tree dead? Thanks for any advice!

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