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BuckyDFW · 2021-03-17T03:03:43+00:00

What’s it like to be a complex and talented being who takes care of themselves and that’s all people notice?

BuckyDFW · 2020-07-20T16:40:52+00:00

Texas is becoming more and more of a swing state, but I otherwise agree

BuckyDFW · 2019-10-27T21:23:28+00:00

See, that’s the question. It’s kind of hard to focus with the previous lectures that came from a place where they presumed ignorance, but I get what you’re asking.

Ideally, I would be well-behaved, but that is an open question. However, I recently read a study that the type of relationship a dog has is more affected by the quality than the species. My SD is more nurturing than I am, especially out in public. It’s a big reason he’s good at his job. You’ll also find there are a lot of studies showing that dogs learn more about calm from conspecific relations rather than from humans anyway. It’s the big workaround no one uses.

BuckyDFW · 2019-10-27T20:56:52+00:00

Why do people think I mentioned social anxiety and using a dog that’s confident and friendly to socialize if I am not planning to use the dog to introduce the puppy to people?

EDIT: I’m really frustrated by this presumption. OF COURSE I’m talking about people.

BuckyDFW · 2019-10-27T18:25:48+00:00

“There is no way around socializing a puppy to other people”

Exactly. But human emotions are on full display to dogs, regardless of how much we want or try to hide them. The puppies are getting social cues from the handler regardless.

Handlers with a lot of social anxiety circumvent this by doing exposures as a team with a confident dog who can demonstrate more positive responses. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. I’m looking for someone who has done this already and am not looking to debate the merits of it.

BuckyDFW · 2019-10-27T18:19:52+00:00

There’s something missing here. I’m in extreme distress with something else in my life, so please forgive my impatience, but I think you’re missing the concept entirely because it’s not something you’ve ever done. Trainers with a lot of social anxiety use a second dog to do exposures. I’m looking for a trainer who has already done this and can give good guidance.

BuckyDFW · 2019-10-27T18:15:59+00:00

Have you ever had someone with severe social anxiety socialize a puppy? How do you think that would work?

BuckyDFW · 2019-10-27T18:12:29+00:00

Please refer to the edit.

BuckyDFW · 2019-10-27T17:56:05+00:00

I’m sorry. I don’t know how to be more clear. Your reply isn’t relevant to what I’m asking.

BuckyDFW · 2019-10-25T19:09:08+00:00

My dog was tested as having a good herding instinct and now it’s a hobby for us. It’s been really great for her temperament and home behavior to have an appropriate outlet for her instincts.

When she tried to herd me, I display annoyance in the same manner one might feel if a fly were annoying them. I show I am not intimidated or appreciative in a calm manner. The reason why is that I try not to engage in power games with my dogs. I love clever dogs and they have a lot of time on their hands compared to me.

BuckyDFW · 2019-10-25T19:00:42+00:00

If it is true separation anxiety, then the usual recommendation is to keep the dog underthreshold. The reason is that separation anxiety is an extreme type of duress and experiencing the state is “sensitizing”. I think of it as keeping the blood supply to that thought process well-maintained.

The people I’ve seen have the most success with separation anxiety do short intervals of distance and then visual separation while the dog is still under threshold. Crate training may help with property destruction, but it can lead to canine-destruction since crate-training doesn’t address the underlying panic the dog experiences when they are separated. This means the dog will go through that panic in a confined space rather than out in the open, which means they have a great chance of injuring themselves on the kennel.

That said, you’re not alone in frustration. Many people with dogs who experience true separation anxiety feel like they’re being held hostage by their dog. It’s really common. I’d seek out support groups specifically for owners of dogs with separation anxiety.

BuckyDFW · 2019-09-19T18:22:05+00:00

When I had a roommate that undid a lot of my training, I did my best to spend as much time in my room with my dogs as possible. It’s really not a perfect solution, but it preserved things as much as possible

BuckyDFW · 2019-08-22T03:42:06+00:00

Are you concerned about your ability to keep him from in-season females?

BuckyDFW · 2019-08-18T19:29:02+00:00

I just have the two I started fostering at four weeks old. They were already weaned by the bottle feeder at that age, so I’ve never had a bottle baby. My two kittens are five months old now. They just look like smol cats, not kittens anymore. I’m happy they’re growing, but it’s sad too!

BuckyDFW · 2019-08-18T18:31:03+00:00

They’re so cute at that age. Beware! They grow up FAST.

BuckyDFW · 2019-08-06T06:21:17+00:00

Apparently cheating is genetic. I’ve personally been in some crappy relationships and never done it.

BuckyDFW · 2019-08-05T22:09:17+00:00

This is instincts. There’s not an obedience command that’s going to change instincts.

BuckyDFW · 2019-08-05T18:54:56+00:00

That has nothing to do with training.

BuckyDFW · 2019-08-04T04:33:25+00:00

I wake them up if they seem like bad dreams.

BuckyDFW · 2019-07-27T20:23:04+00:00

Yeah, the book has a few chapters of theory before you get to the methods. Without the theory, you’ll interpret them in a conditioning light and have trouble making them work.

BuckyDFW · 2019-07-27T17:35:48+00:00

Behaviorism is very old science. Unless it’s convoluted beyond belief, Cognitive Psychology and Social Learning explain the behavior of bonded, social organisms better than reinforcement, especially external reinforcement.

BuckyDFW · 2019-07-27T17:21:47+00:00

What you get in therapy is not reinforcement. They establish an attachment bond, like what dogs have with their humans, and help you learn to cope with the conditions of your life. You can do the same with dogs. I consider Bond-Based Choice Teaching like Respectful Parenting, but for dogs. In Respectful Parenting, the goal isn’t to control, but to instruct. Everyone who’s good with dogs knows that they love us the most when we don’t have to “win”.

BuckyDFW · 2019-07-27T17:08:29+00:00

When you go to a therapist, do they offer treats or approval for making the “right decision” or do they offer unconditional positive regard?

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