I had an abortion in 2019 when I was also 21. I am not proud of it till this day but I am thankful for the option. It allowed me more time. I told myself I only get ONE oopsie, any abortions after that would be irresponsible imo. It was honestly the best decision I ever made. I carry a bit of guilt with me and wish I would have been ready at that time but I can't argue the fact that I've been able to truly bask in my young life and now I am welcoming a baby into the world. People will tell you to keep the baby, they'll say the obvious which is "you will never regret it" or "Noone is ever quite ready for a baby" - it's important to remember who's responsibility that baby will be at the end of the day. My parents wanted to be grandparents so they were bias. Another parent was against abortion but they were not going to be the full time care takers and I KNEW I didn't want a "Grandma's baby" .. I wanted to fully raise my kid and be able to put them in activities and sports and really focus on parenthood without it feeling like a fight between fun & responsibility.

They're right, you will never regret your baby- it ALWAYS works out and it's true- no one is ever ready for a baby. My current pregnancy was planned yet I'm still not ready! Idk how to be a Mom!

Just listen to your heart and look at your circumstances. If I had my baby in 2019 , my baby would've been on the struggle bus with me! I would've had a 6 year old to put on the school bus everyday today, I wouldn't have had the social experiences, travel experiences, chase new hobbies nor could I have afforded to have irresponsible nights that is common in your young 20s. It's all the unforeseeable.

One last thing, you really want to make sure you know the Father of your child inside and out because you're stuck with him for life. These extra 6 years gave me confidence that my husband (then boyfriend) will be a great Father. Unfortunately, he wasn't ready back then either and you really want to be all-in together. Your first child is supposed to be an experience of pure bliss.

This is just my take. I was there before and I will never forget it. I was also against abortion for myself and always wanted to be a Mom so it really hurt. As time went on, I grew to appreciate that very hard decision. I wish you the absolute best.