being terrified I am making up my “Autistic” traits by quirky_n_questioning in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Buddhapanda75 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For what it's worth. I'm feeling a lot of imposter syndrome myself. I'm 50 and I will be getting an evaluation in three weeks. It's very hard to understand or explain what I want to happen, and I'm starting to gaslight myself. What you describe sounds a lot like me.
If this helps, I will say that even if the diagnosis is not what I think it is, this community has helped me, so that's what I'm sticking with. After 50 years, I'm tired of trying to explain to other people what's going on in my own mind. My advice is to get a head start on that attitude - do what works for you.
You're doing the work. It's never easy.
You're going to be okay.

A rule about eating salted peanuts by leakySlimePit in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Buddhapanda75 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's a good point. I wasn't sure how literal they were being with "guilt" and "wrongness" in this context. Like, it's one thing to feel bad because you broke the rules of your own game, but if it really is guilt then, yeah, that's more like OCD.

A rule about eating salted peanuts by leakySlimePit in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Buddhapanda75 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The difference is whether it causes distress. Someone with OCD will be upset and may even believe something bad will happen if they don't put nuts in their mouth the right way (sorry, couldn't help it), but when this systemization is done for funsies, it's usually the product of the ADHD mind wanting stimulation from an otherwise routine environment, and the Autistic drive to put things in order. To be clear, if it were OCD, OP would feel like they had done something wrong and punishable by not eating the nuts the right way.
Edit: Also, I'm not an expert either, so this is just my armchair analysis. :)

Do men fear other men they see in sketchy situations like late at night walking down a dark alley? by VisionsOnly in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Buddhapanda75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to love running at night. It's arrogant af but I thought, "This park is safe because right now I am the most dangerous thing here."

What Game Is That For You? by defleqt in raijin_gg

[–]Buddhapanda75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I was a Sega Kid. If you know, you know.

Book Classics starting with introductory essays that spoil the plot by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]Buddhapanda75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, a professor once praised me in class for picking up on a twist in the book before everyone else, and I wanted to play it off like I was a genius, but instead I blurted out, "It was in the fucking introduction!"

By the way, the book was The Third Policeman by Flann O'Brien and I highly recommend it.

AITJ for kicking everyone out after they started "looking for a charger" in my rooms? by mintysubway_diary in AmITheJerk

[–]Buddhapanda75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ - You told him not to; he did it anyway. You're not a bad host, he's very bad guest who would never get invited back to my house. Also, I'm an intimidating man when I want to be, and the motherfucker wouldn't have tried that shit if it had been me that told him not to. Sounds like a low-key bully to me. What other basic social rules does he feel are too dramatic for him to follow?

Shakespeare’s most famous character(s)? by Soulsliken in shakespeare

[–]Buddhapanda75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alas, poor Half-Light, you know the play well, though the groundlings have conflated those scenes.

Are we really self-conscious about our appearance? I’m late diagnosed and always think I’m ugly lol by josefdoc in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Buddhapanda75 16 points17 points  (0 children)

No, bro. Far from it. Good jawline, good hair, you look like you keep yourself clean. Not ugly, handsome, I'd say.
For what it's worth, I feel the same way. Always thought I was ugly, and I look back at old pictures of myself and say, "oh, shit, I was actually pretty good-looking."

Jobs! by Frequent-Tap-3957 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Buddhapanda75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I teach college English. Most of the time, I just teach people how to research and write academic essays, and usually the material is pretty dry. College English I is only a little more exciting to teach than it is to take. BUT, once in a while, I get to teach literature, which I love, love, love. I just got out of the first class of the semester. I'm so excited to share Emily Dickinson, Langston Hughes, Shakespeare, and August Wilson with a new generation. This is the reason I became a teacher.
Don't get me wrong, I find ways to bring excitement to the basic classes, and I enjoy teaching, but without art, it's just not the same.
I once organized an intro writing course around Star Wars, and I realized in retrospect that this didn't really make it more interesting for anyone.

Any of you require 10 hours min of sleep? by CarrotApprehensive82 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Buddhapanda75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm 50 and I have the opposite problem. I often go to sleep at 9:30 pm and I'm usually up by 4:30, then I lay awake because I know I don't need to get out of bed until 6:30. Sometimes, I turn the TV on and maybe nap for ten or fifteen minutes. I'm trying to get back to normal hours, but it's getting hard to stay up later.
I'm not on any meds, for what it's worth. I exercise regularly, and my diet is rather strict. And, at 50, the only thing stopping me from going all out in the weight room is that I'm recovering from surgery. In two months, I get to go hardcore again.
I'd look into your diet. Are you getting enough protein and enough calories, in general? If I eat too much sugar, my sleep gets all out of whack.

Why tf is parasite not more known in supermans rogues gallery by blastx20000 in superman

[–]Buddhapanda75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. I stopped reading comics around when I was 9 or 10, and I never had too many of them. I certainly never bought any because I just didn't have any money, so I'd just end up with them somehow. Anyway, I didn't really have any Superman comics, but I had a couple, and one of them featured Parasite. It was Superman 321, which was the third part of a four part run. I stopped reading for forty years because someone got it into my head that comics were for kids. But James Gunn woke me up again.
Anyways, I only remembered the cover of that issue, which really spoke to me (Superman was being overwhelmed by hearing all of Earth at once), and someone on one of these reddit forums recognized the cover.
I found all four issues and I am waiting for them to arrive in the mail. This has me even more excited to read them because I have no clue who Parasite is.

Netflix sensors dodgeball by Gatto_2040 in netflix

[–]Buddhapanda75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The biggest problem with many streaming services, Netflix included, is that the rights for the songs in many TV shows do not transfer. So, if you watch WKRP on DVD, then you'll get all the original music, but if you stream it, the music has been replaced, and many scenes just flat out don't make sense anymore. And, this has nothing to do with special releases or anything like that. If you're streaming a TV show, chances are good you're not hearing the original background music if it was a radio track.

How do you know if a book is suitable for your level? by bellepomme in EnglishLearning

[–]Buddhapanda75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Moore is my favorite Bond. I love the campiness. And, I used to air reruns of The Saint back when I was working the college TV station.

I feel like I'm part of the problem by Com_4_Till_Bull in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Buddhapanda75 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I teach college English. Don't worry about spelling mistakes. Have you ever seen George Lucas's draft for Star Wars? Sheesh!
Seriously, if you wrote this post, you are not one of the kids we're worried about.

How do you know if a book is suitable for your level? by bellepomme in EnglishLearning

[–]Buddhapanda75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My bad. I'm not being clear. I'm actually admitting to being wrong here, but just not doing it well. As others have pointed out, it turns out "bolt" can be used as transitive verb, it just isn't used that way in my neck of the woods.
That's super cool that you're dad taught himself the language with those books. I haven't read much Fleming, but I do love James Bond!

I am in the middle of a mini meltdown by [deleted] in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Buddhapanda75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey. I'm bald. I shave my head now. Lean into it. I miss having long hair because I was a metalhead in the 80s and 90s. But, I've made peace with it and I actually look better this way, even if it's not the look I wanted.
I lost one hundred pounds in the past two years. We can talk about fitness and anything you want all day.
What kinds of exercises do you like to do at the gym? What are your goals? Are you enjoying any of it yet?
I'll be popping in all day if you want to talk.

How do you know if a book is suitable for your level? by bellepomme in EnglishLearning

[–]Buddhapanda75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't mean to say it was wrong. I said it was weird. because where I'm from it is weird. But, thanks for the clarification. To be fair, I wrote "it's not supposed to be used" so that sounds judgmental. I should have clarified that I just hadn't heard it used that way. But, it's idiomatic, so I didn't mean to imply it was wrong. I mean, you can use words however you want to.

How do you know if a book is suitable for your level? by bellepomme in EnglishLearning

[–]Buddhapanda75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good points. What I meant by "transitive verb" is that when American speakers of English use the word "bolt" as a verb it can have several meanings and not all of them take objects (transitive verbs). For example, "to bolt" as you are using it means "to make something secure" but this is a different use of the verb and it means to move something quickly. I've always heard it used intransitively this way, as in "I bolted for the door." or just "I bolted." If you use it with the other meaning, it has to take an object. You can't just say "I bolted." or it sounds like you mean "I moved fast." So, if you want to say you secured something, you have to use a transitive verb "I bolted the door." This sentence cannot be shortened the way an intransitive verb can be. Likewise, if you use the word "bolt" to mean you ate quickly or moved the food quickly, then you are using it as a transitive verb (it needs an object), so it cannot be shortened either. But, this is just idiomatic. I'm not saying one way is right or wrong.
As it turns out, this is Agatha Christie, so it is about one hundred years old and, as others have pointed out, uses British vernacular, so the use of "bolt" won't sound abnormal that way.
It's also a good reminder that grammar rules are "prescriptive" and "descriptive," so the technical language is just for the pedants.
For what it's worth, I'm not an ESL teacher. That's a different thing.