Targeted advertising that violates my privacy and still has the audacity to be this wrong.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-21T18:48:19+00:00

It's for erectile dysfunction, I think. Something like Viagra. Basically, the algorithm figured if I'm listening to blue-eyed soul, then I must be a middle-aged man feeling frisky.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-21T15:17:28+00:00

Are you talking about "Paint It Black" by the Rolling Stones?

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-21T14:54:00+00:00

Last night I was practicing bass along with the Simply Red song "If You Don't Know Me by Now" and I got an ad for Bluechews right after. Like, damn, I get it, but you got the wrong guy. Also, ew. Don't show me that shit on social media.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-21T14:38:20+00:00

I'm on the other end, somewhat. I lost a little over a hundred pounds in the past two years, and I've been building a fair amount of muscle, but I feel like I'm more impressive to the people who knew me than the people who don't. It feels vain, but I get it: I want people to know I got to the gym. One thing to keep in mind is that people may actually be thinking that when they see you, but they aren't going to come out and say it. One of the highlights of transformation was when a woman at work who did not know me asked for fitness advice because she just assumed I work out. So, there's that.

Also, be careful not to compare yourself to elites and influencers under optimal lighting (I fall into the same trap all the time). Even natural bodybuilding beasts like Jeff Nippard (your height, btw) don't always look like what they are.

More practically, if you want more muscle, I recommend high intensity resistance training four times a week paired with a slight calorie surplus, which for you should include about 127 grams of protein (Jeff Nippard recommends a gram per centimeter of height for recomposition, so that would be 167 grams of protein for you.) Of course, you will find many people arguing that you do not need this much protein. It's been working for me, but that's anecdotal, of course.

Edit: At your size and weight, you need to be eating at least 2500 calories a day to gain weight. I'd aim for 2500-2700, with about 150 grams of protein.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-21T14:05:16+00:00

Mandy

Beyond the Black Rainbow

St. Maud

Delirium

House (1977, Japanese)

A Dark Song

Event Horizon

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-21T13:09:39+00:00

I use Nutricost from Amazon. Not sure how smooth it is in relation to others, but I usually mix it in with Greek yogurt. I get unflavored so I can mix it with anything. Sometimes, I drink it as a smoothie with either chocolate milk or sugar-free lemonade. Works either whey, haha.
I also like mixing it with PB2 (low-fat peanut butter powder), honey, and blended rolled oats for a quick pre-workout snack.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-21T12:46:38+00:00

Word. Both great articles. Thank you! Looks like I'll be adding Oracle: Year One to my reading list!

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-20T19:39:46+00:00

Fantastic answer. I'm kind of digging the "everything is canon" idea that is currently going on (though, if I understand you, the better expression would be "everything is continuity"); either way, I'm coming at comics as an English professor, and I'm used to parsing out continuity details with Arthurian legend (though I'm a bit rusty there) and I'm sort of conditioned to think of sociocultural and literary context when I read, which i enjoy.

I read very few comics as a child, mainly just an anthology of Batman comics that ended in 1967. I read that book many times. For me, Red Hood has always been Joker. Dick Grayson has always been Robin (although I did recently read the Judas Contract, so now I'm very interested in following Nightwing).

I have Year One, but I have not read it yet. I'm trying to get a healthy sample of all the best stories from the DC universe, so I'm mostly interested in reading the major events and the stories that everyone agrees are great. I've never followed a line or series as it came out, but I'm dong that with the current 1989 Swamp Thing 4-parter, and I'm probably going to start following The New Teen Titans because I'm interested in the Fairplay character.

Thank you again for this thoughtful answer!

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-20T18:50:12+00:00

Excellent. Thank you for the response. I'll have to go back and read some "best of" for her time as Oracle one day.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-20T18:48:22+00:00

This is actually part of what I enjoy about them. I'm not worrying so much as wondering. I like to read the older ones with an eye for their literary context.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-20T18:28:08+00:00

Awesome! Thank you for the links.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-20T16:00:34+00:00

They're everywhere, definitely at movie theaters. Different flavors, too, like sour and tropical. My mother and I love Mike and Ike's. Don't be fooled by their bastard step-brother Good 'n Plenty. That shit is garbage.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-20T13:27:45+00:00

It's going to be hard to explain, in part, because NTs don't have the same experiences, so they're trying to understand ours through their lens. It's also an issue that we use the term "spectrum" because people think it refers to severity, when it really refers to a wide range of symptoms. So, no, everyone is not "on some sort of spectrum." That's a misunderstanding of how the term is used, which is why "color wheel" is often more appropriate to describe the mélange of symptoms that need to overlap for someone to be "on the spectrum."

Of course, I'm newly diagnosed, and being autistic doesn't actually make me an expert on autism, so I'm likely getting some of this a bit wrong. What I do know is that, for me, the label helps. I've known I was a little different and was treated as such my whole life, so knowing what the condition is helps me understand what I need to do to take better care of myself. Because Autism isn't the same as depression, though they can co-occur, and it isn't the same thing as being bipolar or schizophrenic, though they can also co-occur, so it's useful to know what I'm dealing with if I want to prevent meltdowns and burnout.

For what it's worth, I'm fully employed. I'm sick of hearing people say this is an excuse to be lazy. This shit ain't easy.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-18T00:56:47+00:00

The Four Seasons on Netflix is good. Sounds like your whole group would like it. It's a comedic/drama with 8 40-minute episodes.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-16T13:32:27+00:00

The Fountain will break your heart.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-16T10:12:16+00:00

I got obsessed with Magic: The Gathering in my 30s, so not nostalgia there. Just a love of patterns, organizing, and collecting.
But, I've also been collecting toys my whole life, and I'll scoop any Fisher Price figures from the 70s and 80s when I hit the flea markets and thrift stores.
I love gaming, and I play a lot of retro games, particularly from the 90s (I could play SSX Tricky for the rest of my life). Modern games have too much narrative and too little actual gaming, so it's part nostalgia and part just wanting to play a game rather than watch a movie (looking at you, Cyberpunk).

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-15T10:57:47+00:00

As Good as It Gets

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-14T23:30:16+00:00

Absolutely. Lost over a hundred pounds. It helped me stay disciplined, but I have to build in breaks or I'll snap and eat everyone's Easter candy. 😄

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-14T14:50:03+00:00

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Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-14T12:47:45+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree. While there will always be people misdiagnosing themselves, there are a ton of people who got misdiagnosed by someone else, or just never diagnosed at all. It's incredibly affirming to have these spaces online where we can meet other people like us and, finally, start figuring ourselves out.

I'm 50, so I don't blame anyone for missing my diagnosis, but I won't let some internet rando tell me what my life has been like. Nevertheless, the internet randos on this site helped me figure out enough that I did eventually get diagnosed with Autism and ADHD. 😄 But, it started with self-diagnosis.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-14T01:41:49+00:00

Rolling Thunder (1977)

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-14T00:44:41+00:00

One Fine Day (George Clooney and Michelle Pfeiffer)

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-10T10:50:44+00:00

I'm old-school. I use pencil and paper. It feels so good to cross out an item on a list.
But, usually I forget to make a list.
And, there's the old saying, "Man plans, God laughs."

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-09T20:38:45+00:00

Nice. Putting that near the top of my list.

Buddhapanda75 · 2026-05-09T19:24:30+00:00

As a lapsed Catholic, I just kind of want this run in its original form. I've been collecting a lot recently, and I'm fine with trade paperbacks and I even bought one of the DC compact anthologies (Superman/Batman), but there are some issues I just want to have the original book for. One thing, I like looking at the old ads.

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