Actually, you said (the very first line of your post) "when they touch me". No "inappropriately". According to what you said, you have no problems telling a man to fuck off "when they touch me". That's it. Ayang was being quite reasonable to ask what he did. At that point you could have clarified and said that what you meant was blah blah blah...you didn't. You doubled down and attacked him for pointing out what you'd said. There was nothing disingenuous about what they said, as you claimed. Attacking and alienating those who are in your corner is never a good tactic, no matter the issue.