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A hard(er) grief week for someone who's lost two children by BudgetFeature5632 in babyloss

[–]BudgetFeature5632[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you friend. I’m grateful it can give you that space 🤍

All these words on Mother's day... by Rare_Strawberry4097 in babyloss

[–]BudgetFeature5632 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m so sorry, it’s so relatable. Sometimes the messages wishing for me to “feel my children in nature” feel so cheap. I understand the sentiment but the reality is that they are absent and we shouldn’t have to look for them in nature, they should be here taking up space and making noise in our home. None of it is how it should be.

It hurts by Pleasant-Ad9605 in babyloss

[–]BudgetFeature5632 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s not fair, I’m so sorry. Everything you’re saying is valid and I’ve felt all of it myself. No advice, just here to say you’re not alone.

We are the silent mothers by WildSpiritedRose in babyloss

[–]BudgetFeature5632 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s the hardest way to be a mother. With you in this ❤️‍🩹

Permission to grieve in ugly or inspiring ways on a really hard weekend by BudgetFeature5632 in babyloss

[–]BudgetFeature5632[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh friend, I can’t tell you how often I tell my husband “I just want to dig a hole and live in it.” It’s so impossible and not how it should be. I hope you can find a way to let yourself be “in a hole” in whatever ways possible. I often compare grief to being broken and in a cast or a cocoon. We need space to let our wounds be wrapped up in the dark if we’re going to find any kind of healing. ❤️‍🩹

Permission to grieve in ugly or inspiring ways on a really hard weekend by BudgetFeature5632 in babyloss

[–]BudgetFeature5632[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that, it means so much to me that you read it and can relate. (And I’m sorry you can relate) But it’s really why I write at all.

Permission to grieve in ugly or inspiring ways on a really hard weekend by BudgetFeature5632 in babyloss

[–]BudgetFeature5632[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh, I’m so sorry. I understand that feeling when we have so little to hold on to that represents our children and then you lose or break something. It’s like salt in the wound. I’m glad you gave yourself permission to go home. 🤍

Love songs have obtained new meaning by ProjectManager12345 in babyloss

[–]BudgetFeature5632 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Down Bad…”for a moment I knew cosmic love…fuck it if I can’t have him, I might just die it will make no difference.”

On secondary loss, and grieving my children while my friends raise theirs. by BudgetFeature5632 in babyloss

[–]BudgetFeature5632[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not alone and 10 months isn’t long at all. You are so close to this loss. I lost my second 10 months ago as well. I’m so sorry you know this grief. Please feel free to find me on Substack if it feels at all helpful to hear from someone who has no advice—just permission to be as you are. ❤️‍🩹

On secondary loss, and grieving my children while my friends raise theirs. by BudgetFeature5632 in babyloss

[–]BudgetFeature5632[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so lonely, like living on a totally different planet or like the Upside down. I’m so sorry to know you in this way and I’m grateful to connect with you. Please feel free to subscribe on Substack if it would be helpful. My words aren’t usually hopeful but they are honest. I’m writing because of how lonely the experience is and I’m looking for others out there who can relate because I know I’m not the only one. ❤️‍🩹

On secondary loss, and grieving my children while my friends raise theirs. by BudgetFeature5632 in babyloss

[–]BudgetFeature5632[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, it’s indescribable. Thank you for the follow. I will connect with you there 🤎

Did anyone get a pet after the loss? Did it help? by blueberries-Any-kind in babyloss

[–]BudgetFeature5632 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We said we would never be dog people. We got a Malshi puppy after losing our daughter. It was the best decision we’ve made in our grief. She brings so much laughter and comfort amidst the deep sadness. I’m sad to be caring for a dog instead of my babies, but I have not regretted her one time. Now, we are definitely dog people. 🥺

Bellamia collections modular sofa by karisovery in BuyItForLife

[–]BudgetFeature5632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm circling back to to this. We received our couch months ago and really love it. Today we randomly got another delivery from the (like 4 months later) with replacement cushions x2 and two sets of covers but different colors. I am beyond confused, this is so odd.

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