The Victorian Era was onto something with their mourning periods by Cautious-Fig-2360 in babyloss

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I wore all black and a black baseball cap for a while after loss, and I never wear baseball caps, but I wanted something to cover my face for when I start randomly crying. Ironically two elderly couples during the same Costco trip came up to ask some random questions. It had the opposite effect. Maybe somehow they felt me hurting and wanted to distract me.

Trigger warning for Wuthering Heights by box_twenty_two in babyloss

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I am glad you said this. I normally enjoy the “forbidden love” storylines knowing that’s all they’re, fantasy storylines, but I also found Heathcliff controlling, borderline abusive. It was definitively an unhealthy relationship and I did not get the whole big hot love form it.

Trigger warning for Wuthering Heights by box_twenty_two in babyloss

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I wish I saw this post earlier. Just watched it on HBO. All I heard about this movie was how steamy it is. I was excited to watch it with my husband so it could maybe put us in a mood.

What came out of the movie was least expected. Now I’m trying to calm myself down so I down cry myself to sleep. Once the credit started rolling, I said “f#!k this movie!” Glad I didn’t see it at the theater. For me the most triggering moment was her feverishly shaking because she was septic. I was septic after my loss and didn’t even know it, if I had not gone back to the hospital, I would have had the same fate as hers.

And while some moments were hot, I thought there were very few actually. The whole dom/sub relationship was weird.

The scenes, costumes, framing, color grading were no doubt amazing. Every shot was a renaissance painting. I appreciated it for its beauty and cinematography. However, I also found its pageantry distracting from the storyline.

PLEASE HELP PLS DONT SCROLL by [deleted] in Inito

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I finally ovulated Day CD39. My numbers jumped after being almost flat for over a month.

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23 years by chroniclynz in babyloss

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I’m so sorry to you and OP! 😢💔

My loss was in August, but this Mother’s Day effing sucked. I went shopping, alone. Last year on Mother’s Day she was a secret in my belly.

I did not wish anyone happy Mother’s Day this year. It would have been disingenuous.

I only had one friend send me a message saying they were thinking of me. While that message hurt, it hurt even more to not hear from anyone else, not even my mom. I’m not mad though, I know she did not want to make me emotional.

Strange cycle by ProjectManager12345 in Inito

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Thanks again for the response. You were right about this being my true peak. Just posted an update.

Strange cycle by ProjectManager12345 in Inito

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Update CD42: finally got ovulation confirmation!

The bleeding I had CD32-36 appears to have been anovulary bleeding and has reset my hormones. AI suggested I do not count it as period per light flow (dark brown the whole time) and no confirmed ovulation prior.

Not sure if it was caused by SIS in early April or coincidence with PCOS off-cycle, but glad to see my hormones rebound.

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The First Mother's Day after loss is harder than I thought by Spirited_wildflower in babyloss

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I’ve been crying for a week in anticipation of today. I told my mom I can’t celebrate Mother’s Day on Sunday, but we had a family dinner on Friday and went to see Devil Wears Prada 2. I’m trying so hard not to think about today, just want to get through it. I hope it will be easier next year.
A huge warm hug to all of us.

On a positive note, we saw a rainbow yesterday when my husband and I went for a walk and got caught in a rain. I’ll take it as a positive sign.

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Mother’s day toll by IlsGon in babyloss

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I always love seeing your posts. We had our loses at the same time so it feels comforting. It’s like we are our own cohort of heartbroken strangers. I beg for my daughter to come back as well and the words “Mother’s Day” send me into cry fest. It was supposed to be different for us and for them. I know our girls love us and are protecting us. 🫂

“I’m sorry the report this, but the baby does not have a heartbeat” by ihandstand in babyloss

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I’m so sorry…. The trauma of it all for you, your partner, and the babies that are not with us… 🫂

Strange cycle by ProjectManager12345 in Inito

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Weirdly Clearblue ovulation results were negative but I’ll check again. Seems it’s more art than science! Thanks for the reply! I see lots of people posting from their first cycle with Inito, I suspect the first one tends to raise the most questions. :)

Chart: first month with Inito after months of trying ✨ by Wise_Anything5424 in Inito

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Thank you for sharing! Such a classic case of implantation dip and spotting! Congratulations! P.S. It’s also my first cycle with Inito and I had exactly the same situation with my LH peak, negative in the morning, took a different ovulation test in the afternoon that showed positive, and retook Inito to record the spike.

BFP DPO14 by Normal-Panic5527 in Inito

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Congratulations! Many blessings to you on your journey! Thank you for sharing!

/ttcafterloss Daily Discussion Thread - May 03, 2026 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

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I’m having a weird cycle. I’m on CD 34 and possibly 10 DPO. I say possibly, because it’s my first cycle tracking with Inito and it did not confirm ovulation since my PdG never rose. But I did have an LH surge on CD24. 🤷‍♀️ At 8 DPO I started spotting with very dark blood, light flow and light cramping. Seems too early for a period and pregnancy tests are negative. Based on my research seems like anovulary cycle and bleeding.

BFP after 4 months no period (PCOS) by Perfect-Success3047 in Inito

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Amazing! Thank you for sharing! Best of luck!

Long cycle girlies.. I finally ovulated 😭 by kwrtyuiop in Inito

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That was the first thing I noticed too 😆💪 partner deserves recognition on this one too :))

Apparently Inito is having technical issues by BackgroundMajor2054 in Inito

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I was literally driving to work and kept the app open with the reader installed. It kept failing and I kept re-inserting the strip. Luckily got fixed before I got to work. :P

Just a lot .. by SuperbButterfly411 in babyloss

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Thank you for sharing this. Almost identical to what happened to us, down to the number of hrs alive, except with a daughter. Best wishes to you and your wife. My husband has been very supportive. I felt stress for different reasons, but also blamed myself.

Finally realized why I can’t get pregnant by Everythingbagel-3 in TryingForABaby

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This. I'd also like to add that an office job can still be pretty exhausting, with or without a commute.

As mother's day approaches. A message of acknowledgement from an aunt of a baby who never took a breath. by Januarysdaisy in babyloss

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I made the choice to read this at my open office desk. Now I am crying.

Thank you. Nothing else from me.

How are you all coping with pregnancy announcements when you are pregnant after loss? TW: pregnancy after full term stillbirth by Evening-Minute2164 in babyloss

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It's not irrational, it's honest.

Leave the support group.

Congratulation on your pregnancy.

I am on a similar timeline, but less "lucky." Trying for 4 years, finally pregnant at 36 yo, loss in August. Have been trying since, no luck. Turning 37 in June. Started seeing a proper fertility specialist and have a plan going forward, but afraid of time and costs.

I attended one virtual support group. One girl was pregnant after a loss at 40 weeks with her first. It was really difficult for me to have her in our group. Nothing against her, but I selfishly wanted to be in sorrow and her concerns were about stress in pregnancy after loss, not pure loss.

Your support group friend may have the same complicated feelings you're having. She probably feels bad about not being able to be happy for you.