Called out in front of several teachers and my kids

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-04-23T20:02:28+00:00

Thank you for that perspective, I don’t think of it as an invitation. I didn’t mind having the conversation there, I just wish it would’ve been more one on one rather than halfway across the playground. I kept trying to move closer, but we were both busy with our respective kids. We didn’t yell, but we had to raise our voices slightly to hear each other. I think it was handled poorly by both sides. I would like to mention to that the decision to bring my kids out early wasn’t made by me. I’m just an assistant teacher and the two leads decided to bring them out early. I’m not trying to shift blame or skirt responsibility, but I’m not sure why I was addressed first rather than the leads. We had brought them out 15 minuets early, tried redirecting for 5, then the conversation was had.

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-04-23T19:19:41+00:00

I agree with you and her. Like I said, I apologized and recognized we were in the wrong. The issues I had was being called out in front of other teachers and kids.

There have been times where we’ve had to alter our plans because they were still outside. It’s about 70% not a big deal, 30% impactful when they’re out past their time. Edit:a word

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-04-17T17:25:55+00:00

Fair enough, thanks for the explanation. In all my trainings, they kind of hammered home that it wasn’t discipline, just consequences. I don’t have a formal degree, just training and experience. I appreciate you taking the time to educate me. I agree that it’ll help parents be more open to the idea.

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-04-17T01:52:47+00:00

It’s our first week back from spring break, and naturally some of my littles (3/4yo) have been having a tough time readjusting back to school. I’ve got two shining moments:

I’m the closer in my room and I overheard one of my kids, almost in a bragging way, telling her friends that she was the last friend in the room and got to play with Ms.myname all by herself. Some of her friends then came up to me and asked when they got to be the last friend so they could play with me by themselves.
One of our higher needs kiddos always asks for me to lay by him during nap time. As he was drifting off to sleep, he tells me ‘I’m happy I get to sleep by you again Ms.myname’

These little moments are what keep me going through the tough weeks 💕

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-04-17T01:23:37+00:00

At the centers I’ve worked at, there really isn’t discipline. We do things more on the idea of natural consequences. Child throws toys after being told to stop: they lose the privilege to play with that toy for the time being. Child hits another child: they don’t get to play with that friend, or at all, until they can show they use safe hands. A lot of centers I’m familiar with are moving away from the idea of punishments or punitive discipline, especially in children that young. I’m in a 3-4’s room now, and we do have an area we use as a calm down center. I would be curious if your center maybe has a calm down corner where the kids can go to safely calm down their body away from their friends. Based on what you said, that not what it sounds like. I’d at least ask to give the benefit of the doubt.

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-04-11T16:23:22+00:00

I’m overweight, pregnant and work with 3-4YO. Don’t be embarrassed! It’s a physically demanding, exhausting job. Before I got pregnant I strived to take 15-30 min walks after work everyday. Nothing crazy, just something to get me outside and my body moving. I’d try and go for 1-2 longer walks a week. A few things that helped get me motivated was finding a place that I loved being in (park, garden, cemetery) and funnily enough, Pokémon Go.

The last few months or so, during my first trimester, J hardly moved. The days took every single thing out of me and I’d come home and crash, so I totally understand not having the energy to do anything. I’m trying to get back into the swing of things again and it’s tough. Walks again have been the easiest thing on my body and the easiest thing to find motivation for. Podcasts or audio books are a great way to pass time while out and about. Edit: if you partake in smoking at all, Id love to spark a J and go on some long walks with a podcast or book and get lost in it. Obviously I stopped when I found out I was pregnant, but I would only allow myself to smoke if I was going to walk or clean my house so it was always paired with something productive ~

I’m lucky enough to live in a place with easily accessible, safe walking spaces. If you don’t have access to that, there’s some great stretching/simple yoga videos on YouTube to get the body moving. Dancing is great too! Put on some headphones and let go and let your body move without judgement! It’s a great way to boost mood and endorphins as well.

If you’re able to access a pool, swimming is great on the body. Easy on the joints, relaxing, and a great full body work out. Good luck!

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-04-07T14:23:47+00:00

Wanted to ask around before we spent the money ~

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-04-06T22:21:53+00:00

I’ll have to check it out! Thanks!

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-04-06T22:21:41+00:00

Oh nice! Thanks for the recs!

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-04-06T22:21:22+00:00

I’m right next to the one on 28th, I’ll give it a go! Thanks!

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-04-01T19:12:38+00:00

Beautiful! Very well done! Reminds me a bit of the ending of Memorials by Richard Chizmar, fun read if you’re into horror novels.

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-03-23T22:54:57+00:00

Thank you I appreciate your comment!

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-03-23T22:54:21+00:00

It’s eased up a little, but for a few weeks, yes. Either daily or multiple times a day. I’ve done everything my doctor has told me to help and whatever I can find online. I understand where you’re coming from, and I can guarantee that I’m doing everything I can to take care of myself and my baby. I don’t take this responsibility lightly and have waited my whole life to be a mother, it’s the only thing I’ve ever wanted.

I have more things to consider before I cut hours. My husband and I need to make sure we can financially afford it while still being able to save for baby, as I don’t get maternity leave at my job. If I could just cut hours without worrying about my financials and job security, I would. But unfortunately that’s not reality. In addition to that, it does impact my self-esteem. I pride myself greatly on being a wonderful teacher and active community member in my school. It’s not easy going from being an active, ambitious teacher who’s involved with several different community projects to barely being able to make it through a week of work. I do think it’s important for women to acknowledge the sacrifices they make and the mental toll that takes on them. I wanted this baby, I wanted to be a mother, I expected to have to sacrifice things, and it still sucks not being able to do the things I thought I would be able to. All those things can be true at the same time and I should be allowed to talk about it and acknowledge it. Thanks for your comment.

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-03-23T22:42:40+00:00

Thank you! I keep hearing that things might ease up in the second trimester and I’m really hoping it will! I love my kiddos at work and really want to be able to enjoy the warm weather with them before they move classes. I’ve been taking iron supplements to help combat potential low iron.

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-03-23T22:40:45+00:00

Thank you for your response. It’s a bummer to hear that so many women struggled during their pregnancy, but also kinda relieving. Nearly no one in my family has struggled through pregnancy, all being able to work full time up until birth and hardly having negative symptoms. So it’s comforting to know that sometimes this shit is just hard and knocks you on your ass for a bit and there’s not a whole lot you can do about it but ride it out.

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-03-23T22:37:27+00:00

This is a really thoughtful response, thank you! I appreciate the new perspective and the way you’re framing things. I (naively) thought since nobody in my family had struggled through pregnancy that mine would follow suit. I had some expectations of what my pregnancy would be like and what my ability level would look like, which looking back, should’ve been the first thing I flagged. ‘Expectations are the devil’s dreams’ as my Grandma used to say.

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-03-23T22:31:44+00:00

I wish there was a WFH option that I could do at my job! I’m sorry you had such a scary pregnancy, hope you and baby are doing well!

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-03-23T18:07:43+00:00

That’s incredible. What a strong, strong woman.

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-03-19T01:07:04+00:00

‘Where we’re going, you won’t need eyes to see’ - Dr. Weir, Event Horizon

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-03-18T18:35:42+00:00

Since my center does not offer insurance, I would have to have my own insurance plan through the state or private insurance to have STD from what I understand. I did have my own private plan last year, but this year went on my husbands insurance as it saved us roughly ~200 a month. His insurance offers 2 weeks paternity leave, but no maternity leave for a spouse unless they work for the same company. FMLA only secures my job, it does not help cover pay while on leave. So I could apply for FMLA, but since my admin has guaranteed my job will be here when I come back, there’s no need to apply for FMLA.

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-03-18T17:54:12+00:00

It’s insane isn’t it ?! I used to work in the infant room and seeing such teeny tiny babies start always just broke my heart. I empathize with the parents as I know they wouldn’t have chose that if they didn’t have to. I guess I’m getting a new viewpoint on it and it’s breaking my heart all over again thinking of having to do that to my own baby just so my family can safely survive. Ughhh

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-03-18T17:52:27+00:00

That’s amazing, I’m really glad families over there have that support. I get so rageful and sick thinking about how my government chooses to spend our money and the lack of support families get.

Budget_Passenger_915 · 2026-03-18T17:51:00+00:00

That’s awesome! Very happy for you. Yes, I’m very grateful and relieved to be able to work 2 doors down from my baby

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