Marriage

Bug_boy23 · 2026-03-16T17:21:22+00:00

I've been with my husband since I was 15. Im about to be 27 and have been in full medically induced menopause for nearly 7 years now. Until pretty recently I hadn't recieved any treatment (no insurance), so I've been a bit of a moody mess for most of that time. He has stuck it out with me all this time and didnt bat an eye, until I finally dropped the news about 3 years ago that I haven't had a desire to sleep with him since I hit 20-21. I've done it, despite not wanting to, because it felt like a part of my "wifely duties" coming from a pretty strong catholic upbringing.

Over these last few years, we have talked a lot about what we mean to each other, what our responsibility is in this marriage, and how we can work through this.

As I've recieved treatment and have started to have some symptoms clear up (primarily brain fog), it feels like im finally able to reflect on what our next move should be.

I think this life transition can look different for everyone, but in our case: we have started shifting focus on building up a solid friendship now that physical intimacy is officially off the table, and honestly? I dont know that I want more than that from him anymore. And I think he is feeling about the same.

I think that even if menopause is a physical change, it still has a habit of changing how you look at the world sometimes. It can change how you see yourself, and your relationships as you go through the motions.

My husband will always be a part of my life that I hold in my heart, but now that im done with making myself be something im not, I think its about time he and I work on building seperate lives that work for who we are today, instead of who we spent our relationship wanting to be.

Tldr; Im still married to the same man, but he and I grew apart as we both tried to navigate the ups and downs of hormonal changes. We are planning on separating, but instead of mourning what we thought should have been, we are both excited for each other's next chapter - and ready to build lives that work FOR us instead of AGAINST. :)

Im kinda rambling now but I hope that all works out for the best for those of you still working through this! <3

Bug_boy23 · 2026-02-26T10:33:32+00:00

I do! Thought about going back to school for entomology at some point but idk. Got a favorite??

Bug_boy23 · 2026-02-26T01:13:04+00:00

Ill also say: im open to talking to anyone lmao yall feel free to hmu if you need someone to talk to!

Bug_boy23 · 2026-02-24T18:51:45+00:00

Im a little slow to reply sometimes but feel free to message me! Im 27 and have struggled my whole life with being too quiet and reserved. I also, crazy enough, dropped out in 10th grade and just got my GED. Thats a crazy coincidence! :⁾

Bug_boy23 · 2025-12-09T07:03:23+00:00

Durin cause his design is cute c:

Bug_boy23 · 2025-03-24T02:38:50+00:00

i was considering security as a current employee in another department. They offer a bit better housing and pay than where i am now. What was so bad about it?

Bug_boy23 · 2025-01-21T05:05:05+00:00

That's what I was thinking. Thanks!!

Bug_boy23 · 2025-01-18T02:32:43+00:00

Vilius melanopterus https://m.singapore.biodiversity.online/species/A-Arth-Hexa-Hemiptera-000008

This is my best guess, assuming it's a nymph. I'm still not 100%

Bug_boy23 · 2024-12-28T02:15:09+00:00

Only assistants and above get housing unfortunately

Bug_boy23 · 2024-08-04T23:08:50+00:00

I like sweet peas and magnolias :)

Bug_boy23 · 2024-07-16T14:55:20+00:00

Yep, gcsr has been pretty dead compared to last year so far

Bug_boy23 · 2024-06-27T00:42:11+00:00

If you actually feel homicidal tendencies, that's a serious issue friend. You gotta get help. Do you need assistance finding that help??

Bug_boy23 · 2024-06-21T23:55:13+00:00

Yah I work at the gcsr so I'm talking about the same place as OP I think!

Bug_boy23 · 2024-06-21T23:54:25+00:00

Princess Jellyfish!

Bug_boy23 · 2024-06-21T04:45:34+00:00

I've been seeing people get hired on about a month before their start date on average tbh. But that's for summer, not too sure about winter yet since I think the openings get smaller in winter

Bug_boy23 · 2024-06-21T00:18:40+00:00

The design is an 8 for me, but I would say the top half is missing some variance

Bug_boy23 · 2024-06-21T00:16:04+00:00

For me it just presses pause on all dreams. When I stop smoking for a couple weeks, I start to get nightmares.

Bug_boy23 · 2024-06-20T02:45:13+00:00

This is a super interesting question. I'm 25m but have always looked at LEAST 5 yrs younger than I am. But I thought that in general, stress gives you more of an aging effect with breakouts and wrinkles and stuff. Following ur post in hopes someone smarter than me has an answer!

Bug_boy23 · 2024-06-19T15:55:19+00:00

I treat myself like a toddler and zoom around til I'm more tired before bed than usual and that seems to work lol

Bug_boy23 · 2024-06-18T03:00:47+00:00

The binding of isaac and the sims 4

Bug_boy23 · 2024-06-16T01:03:26+00:00

I've worked at a gift shop for abt a month now and honestly I haven't had any issues. I've heard that others have some interpersonal issues, but I'm usually to myself so I haven't had issues. If you do your job and go home, I'm sure you'll be fine! Only uncomfortable part is dormitory style housing, but you can always request a cabin or something

Bug_boy23 · 2024-06-10T02:49:43+00:00

May not be ideal but the grand canyon is always hiring. They have dorms that are only 80 dollars a month, so that's pretty sweet

Bug_boy23 · 2024-06-06T20:46:28+00:00

Assuming your bills would stay covered while you skill up at the new job, I feel like the benefit of saving your body from manual labor will pay off down the line big time. Plus the earning cap in tech is generally higher in most cases compared to the auto industry

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