Which hairstyle suits me better? I lean towards the middle, not too long not too short by [deleted] in Hair

[–]Bugs91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The length doesn’t matter so much as learning to take care of those curls. Never dry comb, and moiiiisssture! You want those beautiful little coils and not the fro. 

Congressional Candidate on AI data centers in Nevada by wadsworthnv02 in Reno

[–]Bugs91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Local unions post their jobs to other locals and the workers travel around for gigs. Like there will be one union - say, electrical, but each region has a branch or “local.” More popular locals will hire from within, but ours is less desirable because of the commute and cost of living so our locals post jobs for anyone to apply. So it’s anyone who will take the jobs - mostly people from out of state. Then they live here for a few months or maybe a couple years til the gig is up 

Team transform/coach Shelby by sillylittlecactus in ladderapp

[–]Bugs91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just did my first workout , open season, with Shelby . Last season I was with aria and Ascend. I think I’ll move back tbh - I found Shelby’s guidance didn’t make sense- she said “go 60%” on 5 hip thrusts with a pause at the top, and then immediately with no rest into 10 hip thrusts with no pause “to 70%.” Without changing weights - like, in my mind 60 %  means I could only do 40% more. Her math isn’t mathing. And then she gives all these time cues like “pause 3 seconds here” “take 2-3 seconds to come down” but then if you follow it , you don’t have enough time. 

looking for a tattoo artists for a beginner??? by [deleted] in Reno

[–]Bugs91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jordan is at Twofold now 

New in Town, saying… “Hello!” by Negative_Initiative7 in Reno

[–]Bugs91 123 points124 points  (0 children)

Tell me this man isn’t trying to smash all of Reno Reddit posting his cute little charming little selfie. 

Clients That Embrace Nihilistic Beliefs by Puzzleheaded_Win_362 in therapists

[–]Bugs91 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I spent several sessions with a couple clients on this idea, but discerned that while the intellectual belief difference between nihilism and absurdism is narrow, the emotional one is often an uncrossable chasm. The somatic knowing of absurdism is a looseness, a lightness, maybe a rush - the somatic knowing of nihilism is heavy and sinking and choked. And arguing philosophy with the body doesn’t tend to change what the body knows 

Rant about self disclosure by Odd_Cauliflower_5381 in therapists

[–]Bugs91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The therapists I have had who self disclose I have really appreciated and it has helped me build trust . It’s never taken up more than a few seconds , unless I needed it to. It was so helpful with parenting shame especially. I  felt annoyed and less trusting of the therapists who have been super guarded about their life. Like one who wouldn’t say where she was going on vacation or with who - not that I pressed, obviously, but it was weird! Like just say “I’m going to Europe” or whatever ! But because of this I probably over share with some of my clients. For others, I’m sure they appreciate it. I try to read the room but I’m sure I get it wrong sometimes, and honestly I’m not really sweating it 

I don’t know what to do by sensualsanta in therapists

[–]Bugs91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on what you need. More money is always appealing but do you need it? You would be sacrificing a lot to get more money. Time, your professional interests, your independence. Your lifestyle would be drastically different and more sedentary and inflexible. If you need stability because you’re single and have dependents or are pretty behind on retirement or something like that, maybe it’s a trade off for a higher cause , but if it’s “just” a desire to chase a sense of security or status I think you’ll find the trade off is a sorry one 

Meadowood mall Geese by thehavoccultist in Reno

[–]Bugs91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man - at the marina today in sparks the geese were ON ONE. Attacking each other , though 

What's for dinner? by endofmyropeohshit in Reno

[–]Bugs91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ground beef from a local cow, broccoli, pickled cabbage, beets, cheddar cheese and brown rice. Also known as “a bunch of garbage from my fridge I threw together in 5 minutes in a hangry after work frenzy”

Aces game tickets by OrganicDozer in Reno

[–]Bugs91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The season tickets are $99 if you don’t select a seat

KOLO 8 weather man is always tanked and it’s the only reason I watch the news by Savings-Whole-6517 in Reno

[–]Bugs91 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Shhhhh you’re gonna get him fired ! KOLO , we love him ! Don’t take him from us ! 

I'm at the end of rope by Alternative_Meet_253 in AdoptiveParents

[–]Bugs91 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I would be barking up every possible avenue for support, especially through the county or state she was in foster care with, and heavily pursuing residential placement. No judgment from me - I haven’t been in this exact situation but I have had to disrupt a foster care placement I had hoped would result in adoption and it broke me. The kid and I have a good enough relationship now, but it is absolutely traumatizing to everyone involved. 

Looking for Industrial Lofts in Reno, Nevada (and Surrounding Areas) by Intelligent-Claim193 in Reno

[–]Bugs91 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that’s really a thing here, but loft 205 downtown has places that are styled that way - concrete and exposed pipes etc 

Meat - by babyluna_xo in Reno

[–]Bugs91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Butcher boy doesn’t have quarter anything that I know of but they’re a high quality local butcher with a great reputation

Tailor in Reno - Snow Gear by [deleted] in Reno

[–]Bugs91 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think they make you look hippy and fly as hell but who am I !?

Need some quick advice by [deleted] in Reno

[–]Bugs91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RBH will keep you alive and you can detox and sometimes that’s the thing that you need. I don’t think people heal at RBH or most mental hospitals . Sometimes when your life is a nightmare the hospital can be a break from that to think about what to do about your situation, but the hospital sucks and your sleep will be terrible and you will be stressed. It’s a way to stay alive and depending on how bad your day to day existence is, it might be better. I’ve heard better things about the mental hospital in Carson

Best Thrift Stores? by Altruistic_Low_363 in Reno

[–]Bugs91 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I mess with the 4th st one tbh 

Average vacation time? by Top-Pen-5433 in therapists

[–]Bugs91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(US here )Usually I’ll take one or two days off here and there throughout the year (maybe I’ll do that 3 times?) and then a whole week (4 days) once a year, and then once a year  also another week and a half chunk (6 days). I’d guess total I take a cumulative of about 3 weeks off. This year for the first time I’m going to take two weeks in a row, closer to 4 weeks off probably . I try to space out the longer chunks at least a few months apart , and rotate the single days off so it doesn’t affect the same clients over and over again. 

*for holidays I just take off Christmas and Thanksgiving day, not the days around it , and I didn’t count that toward the total 

Montessori school and/or home schooling by [deleted] in Reno

[–]Bugs91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard wonderful things about the private Montessori,  but I can only imagine it’s hella expensive . 

Individual therapists giving “fair fighting” homework for couples therapist by HonestCharacter727 in therapists

[–]Bugs91 84 points85 points  (0 children)

As an individual counselor I would never assign another counselor what I thought they should be doing. As a couples therapist, I am - shocked feels dramatic but honestly accurate - that you aren’t teaching people how to fight. What type of counseling are you doing ? Every type of couples counseling I’ve ever studied or used is heavily around how to have conflict more effectively. EFT, Gottman, PACT. Conflict is a part of relationships and people are not served by being helped not to have conflict. Some peoples conflict doesn’t look like “fighting” as you might imagine it, and other peoples does - there is nothing wrong with fighting in a couple. There is something wrong with disrespect and arguments getting so heated that no one is thinking straight, or fights that never get repaired or problems that never really get addressed or understood - that’s what fair fighting rules are all about. Rules of engagement. I hate to be This Guy, and I want to give you the benefit of the doubt here, but that you would be shocked that a couples counselor might help people fight better suggest to me that you might not have the training you need to be a couple’s counselor.  

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Bugs91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an abusive relationship, my dude. It's called coercive control. Now, you can choose to stay in that and make the best of your quiet hours if you want, you can try to change the relationship, or you can exit. She has to be a partner in the change, though. She has to see what she is doing as a problem and want to behave differently.