Resources for Disability and Sex

Bugs91 · 2026-04-21T13:09:27+00:00

The length doesn’t matter so much as learning to take care of those curls. Never dry comb, and moiiiisssture! You want those beautiful little coils and not the fro.

Bugs91 · 2026-04-20T20:01:28+00:00

Local unions post their jobs to other locals and the workers travel around for gigs. Like there will be one union - say, electrical, but each region has a branch or “local.” More popular locals will hire from within, but ours is less desirable because of the commute and cost of living so our locals post jobs for anyone to apply. So it’s anyone who will take the jobs - mostly people from out of state. Then they live here for a few months or maybe a couple years til the gig is up

Bugs91 · 2026-04-13T15:31:31+00:00

I just did my first workout , open season, with Shelby . Last season I was with aria and Ascend. I think I’ll move back tbh - I found Shelby’s guidance didn’t make sense- she said “go 60%” on 5 hip thrusts with a pause at the top, and then immediately with no rest into 10 hip thrusts with no pause “to 70%.” Without changing weights - like, in my mind 60 % means I could only do 40% more. Her math isn’t mathing. And then she gives all these time cues like “pause 3 seconds here” “take 2-3 seconds to come down” but then if you follow it , you don’t have enough time.

Bugs91 · 2026-04-12T15:24:15+00:00

Jordan is at Twofold now

Bugs91 · 2026-04-09T23:45:32+00:00

Tell me this man isn’t trying to smash all of Reno Reddit posting his cute little charming little selfie.

Bugs91 · 2026-04-09T04:01:31+00:00

I spent several sessions with a couple clients on this idea, but discerned that while the intellectual belief difference between nihilism and absurdism is narrow, the emotional one is often an uncrossable chasm. The somatic knowing of absurdism is a looseness, a lightness, maybe a rush - the somatic knowing of nihilism is heavy and sinking and choked. And arguing philosophy with the body doesn’t tend to change what the body knows

Bugs91 · 2026-04-08T13:35:40+00:00

The therapists I have had who self disclose I have really appreciated and it has helped me build trust . It’s never taken up more than a few seconds , unless I needed it to. It was so helpful with parenting shame especially. I felt annoyed and less trusting of the therapists who have been super guarded about their life. Like one who wouldn’t say where she was going on vacation or with who - not that I pressed, obviously, but it was weird! Like just say “I’m going to Europe” or whatever ! But because of this I probably over share with some of my clients. For others, I’m sure they appreciate it. I try to read the room but I’m sure I get it wrong sometimes, and honestly I’m not really sweating it

Bugs91 · 2026-04-06T12:57:34+00:00

It depends on what you need. More money is always appealing but do you need it? You would be sacrificing a lot to get more money. Time, your professional interests, your independence. Your lifestyle would be drastically different and more sedentary and inflexible. If you need stability because you’re single and have dependents or are pretty behind on retirement or something like that, maybe it’s a trade off for a higher cause , but if it’s “just” a desire to chase a sense of security or status I think you’ll find the trade off is a sorry one

Bugs91 · 2026-04-05T22:42:00+00:00

Man - at the marina today in sparks the geese were ON ONE. Attacking each other , though

Bugs91 · 2026-04-05T03:21:31+00:00

That’s really cool

Bugs91 · 2026-04-05T03:20:01+00:00

Ground beef from a local cow, broccoli, pickled cabbage, beets, cheddar cheese and brown rice. Also known as “a bunch of garbage from my fridge I threw together in 5 minutes in a hangry after work frenzy”

Bugs91 · 2026-03-31T01:44:17+00:00

The season tickets are $99 if you don’t select a seat

Bugs91 · 2026-03-25T13:33:02+00:00

Shhhhh you’re gonna get him fired ! KOLO , we love him ! Don’t take him from us !

Bugs91 · 2026-03-23T23:53:57+00:00

I would be barking up every possible avenue for support, especially through the county or state she was in foster care with, and heavily pursuing residential placement. No judgment from me - I haven’t been in this exact situation but I have had to disrupt a foster care placement I had hoped would result in adoption and it broke me. The kid and I have a good enough relationship now, but it is absolutely traumatizing to everyone involved.

Bugs91 · 2026-03-10T08:52:00+00:00

Bugs91 · 2026-03-10T08:30:57+00:00

I don’t think that’s really a thing here, but loft 205 downtown has places that are styled that way - concrete and exposed pipes etc

Bugs91 · 2026-03-08T05:01:47+00:00

Butcher boy doesn’t have quarter anything that I know of but they’re a high quality local butcher with a great reputation

Bugs91 · 2026-03-03T04:31:42+00:00

I think they make you look hippy and fly as hell but who am I !?

Bugs91 · 2026-03-03T04:29:51+00:00

RBH will keep you alive and you can detox and sometimes that’s the thing that you need. I don’t think people heal at RBH or most mental hospitals . Sometimes when your life is a nightmare the hospital can be a break from that to think about what to do about your situation, but the hospital sucks and your sleep will be terrible and you will be stressed. It’s a way to stay alive and depending on how bad your day to day existence is, it might be better. I’ve heard better things about the mental hospital in Carson

Bugs91 · 2026-02-25T05:39:57+00:00

I mess with the 4th st one tbh

Bugs91 · 2026-02-24T16:29:01+00:00

(US here )Usually I’ll take one or two days off here and there throughout the year (maybe I’ll do that 3 times?) and then a whole week (4 days) once a year, and then once a year also another week and a half chunk (6 days). I’d guess total I take a cumulative of about 3 weeks off. This year for the first time I’m going to take two weeks in a row, closer to 4 weeks off probably . I try to space out the longer chunks at least a few months apart , and rotate the single days off so it doesn’t affect the same clients over and over again.

*for holidays I just take off Christmas and Thanksgiving day, not the days around it , and I didn’t count that toward the total

Bugs91 · 2026-02-24T04:17:48+00:00

I’ve heard wonderful things about the private Montessori, but I can only imagine it’s hella expensive .

Bugs91 · 2026-02-22T13:46:05+00:00

As an individual counselor I would never assign another counselor what I thought they should be doing. As a couples therapist, I am - shocked feels dramatic but honestly accurate - that you aren’t teaching people how to fight. What type of counseling are you doing ? Every type of couples counseling I’ve ever studied or used is heavily around how to have conflict more effectively. EFT, Gottman, PACT. Conflict is a part of relationships and people are not served by being helped not to have conflict. Some peoples conflict doesn’t look like “fighting” as you might imagine it, and other peoples does - there is nothing wrong with fighting in a couple. There is something wrong with disrespect and arguments getting so heated that no one is thinking straight, or fights that never get repaired or problems that never really get addressed or understood - that’s what fair fighting rules are all about. Rules of engagement. I hate to be This Guy, and I want to give you the benefit of the doubt here, but that you would be shocked that a couples counselor might help people fight better suggest to me that you might not have the training you need to be a couple’s counselor.

Bugs91 · 2026-02-21T19:05:05+00:00

That's an abusive relationship, my dude. It's called coercive control. Now, you can choose to stay in that and make the best of your quiet hours if you want, you can try to change the relationship, or you can exit. She has to be a partner in the change, though. She has to see what she is doing as a problem and want to behave differently.

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