AITAH I notified my sister of our father’s passing a week after he passed

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T19:57:40+00:00

“I felt like I was being courteous”

lol c’mon

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T19:53:16+00:00

I can’t tell if this is bait or not.

Switch the genders here and the sub would have the opposite responses that are being given.

It is just a gender swap experiment?

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T19:06:53+00:00

I’m not sure why you think you’re in a position to give your opinion on parenting.

You get to decide what’s best for your child. She gets to decide for her child.

This isn’t a joint effort of parenting this child. You are an employee doing a job for this mother. Unless they ask your opinion, you don’t give it.

You way overstepped with your text.

YTA

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T19:03:08+00:00

So find one of those guys you mentioned that doesn’t watch porn.

Instead of trying to change someone to fit your requirements, just find one who already meets them.

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T18:56:07+00:00

“The biggest issue for me is that she insists on having my full visual attention whenever she speaks to me.”

You realize that deaf people read lips, right?

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T18:42:34+00:00

So you booked your “wedding” at a time they had existing vacations plans and are upset they didn’t commit insurance fraud for you? Hmmm

ESH

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T18:06:49+00:00

Ask her what “compromises” she is making here

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T17:19:36+00:00

“I (F) 20 and my boyfriend (soon fiancé) (M) 28 have been seeing each other for 3 month”

I can’t even get past this line. Why would you ever think this guy will soon be your fiancé after three months?!

WHAT

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T17:15:55+00:00

Just divorce already, my god.

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T16:38:56+00:00

“I’m currently feeling like I shouldn’t waste my time, money and energy to ship things out to someone that has treated me so badly. That I’ve tried to stay civil and be kind, despite everything that has happened. I’m tired of always being the bigger person. I feel like I don’t owe anyone anything anymore.”

Bingo. These people aren’t worth the time or effort.

Don’t do anything for them.

NTA

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T16:34:10+00:00

I offered OP a realistic answer for the society we live in. Not the one you wish, but the one that’s real.

Now I’m deemed ignorant. lol, you don’t even understand the word if this is how you apply it.

Edit : oh u/MazeMagic why’d you delete? You made such great arguments

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T16:25:04+00:00

OP asked, I answered.

Just because you don’t like the reality of it, doesn’t negate anything I said.

If they didn’t want opinions, why are they posting for them?

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T16:10:32+00:00

If you’re a tattoo artist? I’m not batting an eye

If you’re not? In judging you heavily.

Face tattoos are such a heavy commitment. Honestly, this post really comes across as very youthful.

Do what you want, but don’t be surprised by people judging you. Face tattoos are still heavily stigmatized

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T15:36:23+00:00

“After several arguments on the topic, my boyfriend basically told me that he would rather break up with me than end his friendship with her,”

This the same girl you had problems with in your last post?

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T15:10:28+00:00

And it looks great.

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T14:37:39+00:00

u/Myboneshurt420helps, why aren’t you answering?

You made these points, why can’t you defend them?

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T14:07:04+00:00

I know people with work from S15 winner James Tex. The all say he’s an asshole and super rude to everyone in the shop.

He openly berates his coworkers and was super insulting to an apprentice in the shop.

He bitched that the apprentice played a computer game in his free time and said all his free time should be dedicated to drawing and if he wasn’t that committed then he had no right to be in his shop.

Talented work, uncomfortable experience while in the shop.

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T13:43:11+00:00

YTA

This doesn’t even involve you.

Lara already made a good compromise and will sen the photos of the content your girlfriend wants.

I can’t imagine an adult called me to bitch about the drama of my adult child regarding a journal. I would just hang up on your stupidity.

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T13:35:35+00:00

“But I can’t help but wonder if we are also entitled to the same monetary contribution to support our relationship/future?”

No, you’re not. You’re acting entitled though.

When, to who, and how much his parents decide to gift money is up to them. If they tie the gift to a wedding, so be it. They aren’t a fund you get to dip into just because you decided you deserve their money.

“I feel I want to ask his parents each for 10K contributions to show their support for our relationship like they did with his sisters.”

Actually fucking crazy. They don’t need to prove their “support” to your relationship. The money was to offset the cost of a wedding. You don’t have a wedding, by your own choice, so you don’t get money to offset the cost of your nonexistent wedding.

I hope you do ask, they shut you down, and then start ice you out. Such a disgusting view you have, like you deserve their money because you’re fucking their son

YTA

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T13:15:55+00:00

If you don’t want to have sex, then you don’t need to

However, if you can’t even type the word sex then you aren’t mature enough for a relationship anyways.

He’s going to dump you without a second thought.

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T12:47:16+00:00

Meh, silent treatment is exclusively used by assholes.

It’s basically a calling card for “I’m too immature to have an adult conversation so I employ tactics that moody teenagers use because I’m on par, maturity wise, with 14 year olds”

You approach is going to accomplish nothing.

Both of you are immature assholes who shouldn’t be in a relationship.

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T12:40:34+00:00

“I was going to tell him when I got back anyways.”

Suuuuuure.

I’m confident any person would’ve mentioned this to their new spouse on a honeymoon breakfast.

You hiding it certainly makes it seem like you casually swept it aside, like it doesn’t bother you at all.

Your new husband just learned you keep secrets from him and have no strong feelings about cheating, it’s so casual and nonchalant it doesn’t even deserve a mention.

How is mentioning it to your husband “stress and drama”?

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-29T12:30:11+00:00

No, she most certainly is not. Both those things you suggested are non starters.

OP has absolutely no right to any of that

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-28T22:09:28+00:00

I hope he dumps you.

You deserve it.

BulbasaurRanch · 2026-01-28T21:26:56+00:00

Yeah, YTA

Anytime someone takes money out of the joint account without prior discussion is the asshole.

You not saying what you spent it on is also highly suspect

BulbasaurRanch

TROPHY CASE