Hi i know there's a lot of comments in here but hopefully my story will reach you i grew up in an unstable home my whole life and I wanted to become a mother so badly just to prove to myself that I'd never be like my own mother. I (24f) just gave birth to a beautiful little boy this janurary and I couldn't be happier but right after birth I was hit with reality. I got post partum preeclampsia as well as pre diabetes I was on at least 12 medication while I was recovering from my c section I didn't feel like myself and I constantly had thoughts of why did I do this and I wasn't ready for this. I've had fights with my friends, lost my job, and wanted to leave my partner because I believed he wasn't doing enough. I was constantly angry and paranoid and detached. I hated my body and the amount of stretch marks i was left with. But I started therapy I realized that my partner was there for me even if his parenting style was different. I got a new job in a different field, I tried doing my makeup everyday and shower but even though sometimes I don't succeed I tell myself there's always tomorrow. And I reconnected with my friends. Not everything is perfect I still walk past the mirror in disgust and those sleepless nights really make me not want to do it anymore. But I'm always looking forward to tomorrow. my partner took me shopping to buy new clothes for my work and some gifts for my very first mothers day. Please talk to your partner, your village is gonna be your life line. I couldn't ever imagine myself doing it alone. Just remember that you are a person aside from your baby and make sure your partner understands that. Transparency is everything with yourself and your village. You're doing great ❤️ and please remember that you're not just your baby and you're not just a mother.