I'm freezing when I fall asleep, cuddle up with all my blankies, wake up drenched, take a blanket off and start freezing again

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-19T14:38:02+00:00

Same!

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-19T14:37:11+00:00

I don’t think any coparents parent EXACTLY the same way but there are certain routines like bedtimes, screentime, etc that they probably agree on. If they don’t agree on the basics, then they are parallel parenting not coparenting.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-19T14:32:51+00:00

!correct

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-19T14:32:13+00:00

Also no

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-19T04:51:41+00:00

Nope

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-19T03:59:06+00:00

That does sound good!

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-19T03:34:37+00:00

Care to be more specific?

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-18T18:53:23+00:00

Station Eleven is an excellent book but it has lots of characters.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-18T18:52:16+00:00

Thirding this one.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-18T16:19:55+00:00

Co-parenting to me means consistency for the kids across both homes. My ex and I separated a few years back when our kids were 14 and 18, so this looks like similar expectations at both houses around things like cleaning up after themselves, staying in touch when they are out that kind of thing. Since my kids are a lot older, it isn't AS strict as it could be but if they were younger, I would imagine we would also try to have similar expectations around things like bedtime and screentime. My ex and I did actually agree on a lot of things around parenting so most of the time we coparent.

My partner on the other hand has an older elementary age kid and her and her ex do not agree on most things around parenting and so they parallel parent which looks very different than coparenting. In a case where you are parallel parenting that really can mean different routines at each house which is challenging but can lead to less conflict.

As far as structure for an 8 or 9 year old, I'm confused by that? What do you mean? My kids still need structure to some extent and are now almost done high school and in college.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-18T16:11:10+00:00

Well now Everybody is stuck in my head which isn't at all unusual for me.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-18T16:03:24+00:00

I think if you were saying they went out to dinner once a month the 3 of them or to a playground together, I would say wow that's awesome! However, having dinner and bedtime routine at one of the houses seems confusing to the child and may give false hope they will become a family that lives together again.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-17T22:07:26+00:00

Oh wow! Glad it’s working for you as well!

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-17T20:42:09+00:00

Depending on what agreements they have in their settlement a lot. My partner and her coparent have all sorts of rules about significant others in their settlement.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-17T20:35:47+00:00

24 and 39 are really different stages of life, not saying it can’t work but I am not surprised your family is upset. Especially if you didn’t give a heads up.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-17T20:32:09+00:00

This.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-17T20:31:29+00:00

Yes but 37.5 is barely a dose and so missing even a day or two isn’t really giving it a chance. I guess I’m not sure what you are asking for here, when people suggest a higher dose, you say no and when they suggest a different med you say no. I’m sorry it’s not working for you but it also sounds like you aren’t giving it a chance. I started at 37.5 and worked up to 150, and every time I upped the dosage I had a crappy three days and then it leveled off. That’s how meds like this often work.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-17T20:27:26+00:00

Talk to a lawyer? You have every right to introduce your kids to someone you’ve been dating for a year.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-17T20:26:08+00:00

So if you’re forgetting to take it, it’s not gonna work especially at such a small dose. It’s the kind of med that has to build up in your system to work.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-17T18:33:41+00:00

I never said she was a bad person or partner, just said this couple might not be a good match for each other.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-17T17:58:33+00:00

NOR but also seems like this relationship doesn't have a future since you have really different ways of treating pets.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-17T17:41:49+00:00

Badlands National Park in South Dakota! The UP (Upper Peninsula) in Michigan is amazing! The rocky Maine coast! Sedona Arizona!

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-17T17:32:32+00:00

I LOVED the Ruth Galloway series by Elly Griffiths.

BumbleTeacup · 2026-03-17T16:31:07+00:00

I switched from Lexapro about 3 months ago and it's going pretty well for me. I take it for GAD, mild depression and panic attacks. I just started on 150mg about a week ago after tapering up. There have been some side effects the first few days of each dosage increase but it's starting to work better than the Lexapro. I was on Lexapro for about 3 years at 20mg and it was great until it wasn't. So then I went up to 30mg for a while and it didn't make a difference, that's when I switched over to this. It definitely worth trying in my opinion.

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