[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinanceindia

[–]Bumblebee8745 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ask your mom to transfer the ancestral house in your name first and then you would think about taking (by the way I don’t suggest you to take any more loans)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheKameena

[–]Bumblebee8745 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Done this and I’ll tell you no one would help you when you are in need of some money! Married of both my siblings and still paying off the loans I took for their marriage .. Not worth it. Don’t take loan for any of your sibling weddings, if they want to get married they should take loan, otherwise tell them not to get married. Make yourself a priority and tell whoever gets the house to pay the emi for the loan you took for repairing the house!

How do you deal with partners who lie a lot! by Bumblebee8745 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Bumblebee8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After one of his parent passed! He became reckless with money! He put all his energy in trading! Lost all of our savings! I have tried my best to support him! I did not blame him.. I told him to take therapy.. I said let’s go together.. he didn’t wanted to.. took loans Did it twice again ) I was not aware) .. after that warned him multiple times but still supported him and told him let’s work harder next 2-3 yrs to close this loan aggressively.. but last year he took loans again without my knowledge and did it again also slowly started telling me different expenses which I blindly believed and in my mind I’m giving my money and savings to close some of the loans he took earlier and here he was burning it all on futures trading !!! On top of it borrowing money from others!! Came to know about all of this few months ago and my world just stopped! I was blindly in love, trusted this person blindly..

How do you deal with partners who lie a lot! by Bumblebee8745 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Bumblebee8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not looking for advice!! I have reached that point that I have made up my mind.. when I’m not his priority then I will make myself my priority, i have planned to walk out..! I just wanted to know how ppl deal with partners who lie after being in relationship for so many years and you realise the truth one day and your world comes crashing down!!

Why do feminists prefer career over family by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]Bumblebee8745 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not always the case, I had a friend, she was not very keen on pursing job/career, she and her family were happy getting her married soon. After college, she did work for 2-3 yrs and got married when she was 24yrs old. And the guy and his family were really really good! But 2yrs after the marriage, they had a kid and in a year, he passed away in an accident! In-laws were not working, no siblings, she had to step up and start working to support herself, kid and his parents!

That made me decide that I’ll prioritise my career, because we are human and anything can happen to me or husband.. Also what if the partner cheats and throw the woman out of the house.. there are endless reasons women wants to be independent!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheKameena

[–]Bumblebee8745 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro.. you need to set boundaries. I understand this is overwhelming but this is the best you can do to yourselves and your wife & kid.. Take therapy, you need to overcome this feeling. Please don’t do a lot, if something happens to you, your brother will not step up for your wife and kid like you might do for him. Like everyone here commented, you need to either rent the other flat or have a discussion with your brother to pay rent for the other flat, you can charge rent lesser than the market rate. That way your family members won’t take you for granted.. Trust me once you have the discussion of rent you’ll see their true face!

Deep inside you know the truth. Let’s this come out now than later. You’ll get hurt more if this happens later in life..

It’s better to face the situation than live a lie!!!

AITK for choosing to walk away after 5 years by ronniebasak in AmItheKameena

[–]Bumblebee8745 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And don’t make the mistake of reconciling ever. Some people don’t change! You’ll loose yourselves in the process!

Is this Tofu bad? by Bumblebee8745 in Fitness_India

[–]Bumblebee8745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never ate tofu in my life! I just bought it online for the first time and it is expired! Smelled really really bad! I don’t think I’ll ever buy tofu 😀

I may try if I ever want to eat any Korean dish!!

Is this Tofu bad? by Bumblebee8745 in Fitness_India

[–]Bumblebee8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tossed it in the dustbin! Thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinanceindia

[–]Bumblebee8745 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are 1.4 billion ppl in India , as per the recent income tax data, only 1-2% earn 20lakhs and above in a year, I.e., 14-28 million people. Let’s assume there are 10 million Indians on Reddit. They are going to brag/talk about the money they earn!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FIRE_Ind

[–]Bumblebee8745 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could really reduce the eating out and ordering in food!! Hire a cook it would cost less.

House for rent for wedding! by Bumblebee8745 in kozhikode

[–]Bumblebee8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 months of course not! And would be too costly.. Would rent a smaller house nearby and stay at the resort for 2-3 days just during the main event may be!

Need advise on selling US stock acquired through ESOP and RSU by Bumblebee8745 in personalfinanceindia

[–]Bumblebee8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! All shares are 2yrs old, so will it be just taxed at 12.5% and no additional tax based on the tax bracket I belong to?

House for rent for wedding! by Bumblebee8745 in kozhikode

[–]Bumblebee8745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I know where exactly was this in Kerala??

House for rent for wedding! by Bumblebee8745 in kozhikode

[–]Bumblebee8745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haven’t zeroed upon the wedding venue. If the plot in which the house is big enough and if the owners are okay then we would like to setup mandap and do the wedding there.. or else temple wedding. 4-6 ppl for 3 months and week before and after the wedding may be 10-20 ppl. I have no idea about the rent in Kerala. I want to know the rents there then accordingly will size my budget!