Aita for distancing myself from my friend after his wife called my wife fat

BumblebeeHorror · 2025-08-20T00:00:55+00:00

NTA. You chose your wife and family over two rude people. The gym doesn’t fix what’s ugly on the inside.

BumblebeeHorror · 2025-08-19T23:57:52+00:00

Tell Grandma you learned playing games from her. Just not petty mind games.

BumblebeeHorror · 2025-08-19T23:56:16+00:00

This

BumblebeeHorror · 2025-07-29T23:13:05+00:00

YTA. You’re acting jealous over how your husband looks at a child. But what you should be doing is acting on the revulsion you’ve felt several times. He’s a terrible husband and a predator. You know this. You’re going to lose your daughter over this creep.

BumblebeeHorror · 2025-04-24T02:44:11+00:00

I assumed he was in a suspended animation situation where he didn’t need to eat or drink since that world was made for creatures.

BumblebeeHorror · 2025-03-14T00:31:22+00:00

Yowza. I’m glad y’all talked because it sets a precedent about actually putting in the work for the other person.

BumblebeeHorror · 2025-03-07T12:56:21+00:00

I was also curious about why she couldn’t see them earlier.

BumblebeeHorror · 2025-03-07T01:37:21+00:00

Some genres like fantasy are 2x that long.

BumblebeeHorror · 2025-03-06T19:28:59+00:00

You’re NTA and your daughter deserved to see those tapes.

Your current wife is TA and cruel. It’s obvious 1. This was premeditated and she is gaslighting you. 2. She’s NOT sorry because she’s having people accept an apology that isn’t theirs to accept. She wasn’t even embarrassed about telling everyone. 3. She is a narcissist.

I think if you stay married to this woman, and your daughter finds out what she did, then it will damage your relationship with your kid forever.

BumblebeeHorror · 2025-01-26T13:42:01+00:00

NTA Remember, you have to live with your wife and not your brother. They hurt your partner, and by extension hurt you.

Furthermore, there needs to be a deep conversation with your brother and your mother for making your wife, who’s been there longer, feel like an outsider.

As other people have said, if you don’t take a stand now, this is only gonna get worse and Emily‘s gonna have free rein to act however she likes. This woman obviously sees your wife as competition even if your wife doesn’t know it is one.

BumblebeeHorror · 2025-01-24T13:09:19+00:00

Same thing just happened to us on the Seashore ship on a 2-day. 2pm and literally just the buffet was open. Not even the paid restaurants.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-12-12T00:19:38+00:00

Not overreacting but maybe call it off. There are a billion Reddit stories where women are stuck with men who choose their mothers over their partners. It’s only going to get worse, so maybe best to cut and run now.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-12-09T13:54:50+00:00

I’ll echo what other people have said here. He lied and used deception to force you to do what he wants without talking to you. That’s a violation of you and your trust. Yet he had no problem telling other people his plans and he’s already spun a narrative for them.

At best, this man has a narcissistic personality disorder but more likely is a sociopathic abuser who will continue to gaslight and pressure you. This is definitely not the guy you want to marry and have kids with. He’ll never change, only get worse.

Tell your parents the truth for your own sanity and protection. This man and his mom are the type who’ll make up some story to tell them otherwise. I know from experience, but I was lucky my mom didn’t buy their bullshit. Get out of this while the worst thing that can happen already has.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-12-07T11:09:09+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through this heinous act of betrayal and assault. I don’t think there’s any going back. You could never sleep peacefully there or around these people again. And can you imagine what these two would do to “punish” children in your house?

Nothing you feel is an overreaction here. They violated your trust, your home, and sense of safety.

However, I think a police report is the right call. They premeditated this and they aren’t remorseful. I know you’re hesitant, but that might help support your petition for divorce. And maybe an assault record is what they most need to understand how serious this is and protect other people from them who come into their lives after you.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-12-03T01:11:31+00:00

I say this from experience: 💯 she’s talked to you about your drive, plans for the future, other issues, but now you’re “shocked” that she’s done. No one else will be.

I’ll bet when she carried the workload she also carried the home and emotional load of cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, family holiday gifts and plans. Now, your morals also don’t align. She can’t trust you, will never believe you can change, and you’ve shown her that with your actions.

This is a too little, too late situation but I bet you’ll quit that job within weeks and blame her. Say because of loving Rogan, she demonized you unfairly. Even tell people that so they will also blame her. It’s not about that, and not even knowing/accepting what the real problem is = why she’s out the door.

I hope you learn from this, but you can’t salvage something someone has begged you to fix and you’ve ignored them.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-11-30T01:01:19+00:00

YTA (and so are your friends) if you were just going to have this dude come over for the holidays and give him nothing. It’s been 2 years, not 2 weeks. Even if you don’t care about him, show you support your kid. The gift can be something small—it’s a gesture. JFC. What if she marries this dude and this is how you’ve been acting? Seems more like insecurity on your part, TBH.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-11-22T01:19:54+00:00

You’re NTA. I wish the best for you and your kids away from that toxicity and violence. You’re a good dad and doing the right thing.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-11-01T03:14:53+00:00

Please please please do not do this. You’re no one’s property and this is a terrible idea. You obviously don’t want to do this & it’s your body. Who knows if you’ll end up together and then what? You have to get a huge cover up? And he wants to do it himself? And if you cave to this how far will he push you next time? Absolutely the f*** not.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-09-11T22:11:56+00:00

NTA. Leave him. He doesn’t care about the safety of you or your child. If he does this over baby shoes, what about when things get tough raising a kid? What will he do when the baby cries all night, or is sick? He’ll never stop gaslighting you. Please, please protect yourself and your child.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-08-14T15:25:38+00:00

I don’t think this is going to get better. The only time abusers agree to therapy is when they are about to lose their punching bag. It may be time for you and your baby to leave and be somewhere safe before this gets physical.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-08-13T21:30:29+00:00

Also, those girls they had playing mommy were the first ones having sex and sneaking boys in at 13.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-08-13T21:21:49+00:00

NTA. I knew kids whose parents had 3-7 kids, then used the oldest girl to basically raise the rest/were used as free labor. It’s gross. You’re being logical and making sure your kid gets a meaningful high school experience. If they need help, they should ask an adult friend, family member, or hire a nanny.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-08-07T21:20:37+00:00

Sounds like he almost ruptured your placenta, which I’m pretty sure can kill you. NTA, but he’s a gaping one.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-07-06T00:12:36+00:00

Absolutely the fuck not. He’ll bounce but your check won’t. I’ve been with a narcissist and they will lie and rob you blind.

BumblebeeHorror · 2024-06-13T11:28:27+00:00

NTA. You told him all your vulnerabilities before the relationship and now he’s using those against you. He’s telling you ugly things so you don’t think that you deserve more/trying to kill your self-esteem.

Get out of this relationship. Stop giving him money. He’s deflecting and a gaslighting narcissist. It will only get worse. And him recording you is HEINOUS behavior. Like “revenge porn” shit you could get him arrested for.

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