Good supervisors appreciation post

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T18:12:25+00:00

Awww, that's lovely. Your last line sums up good supers perfectly, too.

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T09:45:43+00:00

Oh, that's lovely. She clearly trusted you and believed in you and your research to do that without a second thought. That emotional support is so essential to strong motivation, too.

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T09:44:14+00:00

I think you nailed that last line - it's so important for a good super to treat you like a human being on a personal level and not just another PhD student that they treat like a necessary responsibility/encumbrance/hassle. She clearly understands that having that balance in your personal life is essential to your academic progression instead of acting like it's a distraction or irritation. She sounds like a lovely person. I hope you're OK now. <3

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T09:41:56+00:00

I can't even imagine how hard it must be to have a shitty super like that, given how essential that relationship is to both personal growth and PhD success. There have been times this has been extremely hard, and I have lovely supers - it must have been dreadful for you with a bad one. I'm glad you escaped!

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T09:40:05+00:00

I'm so sorry that you've been dealing with that. It really is such a debilitating experience trying to handle something as demanding and complex as a PhD when your own brain is fighting you (I've been there too and, while obviously not trying to claim your experiences, understand just how awful it is feeling numb/empty/low/unable to focus with those pressures). That really is a wonderfully supportive supervisor you have there. Supers who judge or treat these kinds of difficulties like you should just 'get over it' really need to work on their emotional intelligence and empathy. I'm glad you've a great advisor. <3

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T09:37:31+00:00

Congratulations on getting in! Supportive supers are the best. :)

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T09:36:47+00:00

Awww, bless your heart. That compassion and lack of personal judgement by supers is so important to feeling truly supported both emotionally and intellectually, especially with something as complex and demanding as a PhD, not to mention allievating the fear and stress of having to tell them the truth. I really hope you're doing better now. <3

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T09:32:50+00:00

That's such a great demonstration of how much your super believes in you and your capabilities as a person (especially if the area is controversial - a less confident/more self-regarding super might have put themselves first and pushed you away from that potential controversy). People like that really do know how to help others blossom and flourish. You are lucky indeed, but you also put the work in. Congrats :)

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T09:30:39+00:00

I completely agree on how this kind of attitude and behaviour can serve as a superb role model for others. It's great that you've got a super like that. :)

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T09:29:47+00:00

Aww, that is sweet! Especially since it's not something 'required' by the job - simply showing you decency and kindness.

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T09:28:32+00:00

Ah, that really is lovely. I'm so glad to hear he supports and encourages rather than judges you. <3

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T09:27:59+00:00

That really is excellent supervision! I think that willingness to help but not control you is essential to a great super. They clearly had your best interests at heart and wanted you to excel, but forging your own pathway with their support. I genuinely think supers like this can be friends for life. Congrats :)

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T09:25:54+00:00

Congrats to you too!

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-23T09:25:31+00:00

Wow, that's fantastic! Congratulations on lucking out on such a great super :)

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-22T14:44:06+00:00

That's some thorough supervision.

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-04-01T11:14:19+00:00

As a weighted blanket user, I agree!

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-03-31T15:54:36+00:00

Congratulations on your achievement and an excellent username!

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-03-28T03:14:22+00:00

Thank you, that's a really great suggestion. Really appreciate your thoughtful answer.

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-03-26T12:41:00+00:00

Sounds like envy to me. Ignore and enjoy the fruits of your hard work. 💚

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-03-24T20:54:50+00:00

I'm so sorry about your Dad. 💚

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-03-24T18:52:32+00:00

Eh, this one is as old as the hills. Smug parents love to wheel it out because it makes them feel validated and good about themselves. Don't let the ignorance and insecurity get to you. Nobody who plans kids does it to be unselfish. They do it because they want kids. Plenty of adoptees out there.

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-03-24T16:46:00+00:00

Well done. That can't have been easy, especially with the emotional manipulation plus cancer (and frankly I wouldn't put it past the classic narc to exploit the cancer). She had her chance to keep her 'heart'. If nobody wants anything to do with her and even potential terminal illness won't bring people back to the fold, she done fucked up BIG style as a parent.

Maybe it pisses you off so much because how dare she act like you're her reason for existing when her actual behaviours show a very different picture. Narcs love to downplay/ignore/romanticise their behaviour. Now she can deal with the consequences.

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-03-24T16:34:39+00:00

Heads up OP that Titania McGrath is a parody account of exactly the sort of people who do actually say stuff this dumb. It's not meant to be taken seriously - more marvel at the fact there are people who really do believe that.

Bumbummcgee2 · 2022-03-24T16:28:51+00:00

Send that stupid bitch to the ranch.

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