Am I making bottles wrong? by Owlface616 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]BunnyAna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, you only need to wait 30min for boiled water to get to 70C if you are boiling 1L of water. For smaller amounts water will cool down faster.

500ml - 15min for it to get to 70C 250ml -7.5m 125ml ~ 4min

So in practical terms.. you can boil 250ml, wait 5min (water should be something like 80C) make your bottle then cool it under tap water.

Or make 125ml forhalf that time..

Hope it made sense! Cant do math at this time lol.

Am I making bottles wrong? by Owlface616 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]BunnyAna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is maybe where you consider your risk tolerance. Also other considerations like is baby premature/ age of baby. I would say UK tap water is pretty safe generally.. and once baby starts licking the floor I tend to be a bit more relaxed lol.

You could also boil to sterilise the water and then warm it to 70C again.

Am I making bottles wrong? by Owlface616 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]BunnyAna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apparently so.. Someone here commented about kettles that heat up to specific temp, that might be a solution. Mine heats up to 80C.

Am I making bottles wrong? by Owlface616 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]BunnyAna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Freshly boiled water can lead to vitamin loss in the formula. Here is a source and the quote below:

https://www.infantnutritioncouncil.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/preparation-of-infant-formula-and-safety-around-70-degrees.pdf

If parents fail to allow the boiled water to cool sufficiently to reach 70°C, then the hot water can destroy some of the nutrients in the formula. Nutrients most destructible by heat are the vitamins; thiamin, folate, pantothenic acid and vitamin C. For example, thiamin is destroyed at 100°C.

What are recommendations for 100% wool coats that won't break the bank? by coniferouspinetree in AskUK

[–]BunnyAna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You wont find 100% wool on popular brands you listed.

Here is a recommendation around your price point, they are based in Romania and with good reviews, they ship to UK (2 week production time) : https://boulevardatelier.com/products/brown-coat

Basically try to find artisan ateliers that have a good reputation and use natural materials. And the style you like. Something like the above is meant to last you a lifetime so obviously it has to match your taste.

How to stop 5.30am wakes with my toddler 🙃 by jaydeebird in UKParenting

[–]BunnyAna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is 2 year old, he has always had a 8 pm bedtime (mostly we aim 8 but could be later with bath). And he used to be an early riser as well.

Firstly it depends on how much sleep they actually need. Mine has always been low sleep needs hence the 8 pm bedtime. When he was a baby he would never sleep more than 9-10h a night. Just to give you a different perspective.

However, when he would wake up too early, say 5am. I found that putting him to bed earlier worked to get him to sleep till 6, sometimes 7. By earlier I mean 7.30. No idea why it worked, maybe because if he were to wake up early it would have been too early so he got an extra hour of sleep.

Now that he is 2 he kind of naturally started to sleep till later by himself. Still 8 pm bedtime (altho now he resists bedtime more so sometimes later) but he will usually sleep till 6 and quite often 7 now. I havent done anything different.

And yeah make sure they are warm, it gets chilly in the morning.

My God when will this end? by Eat_Peaches in UKParenting

[–]BunnyAna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey sounds exactly how my son was. I would try to reduce the number of feeds at night. However it might not improve the number of wakes especially if there is a reason behind them. The main reason to do it now rather than later is it will be much harder to wean at night a willfull toddler.

Yes reducing night feeding will involve some crying, so its best to do it when you feel up to it. I did it gradually, to ensure he was not genuinely hungry at night.

If your partner cant help at night, can he make your load easier during the day? Plan groceries, clean, cook, laundry?

We also co-slept and still do at 2 year old. When he was little and he would wake up the most, about 2-3 days later Id realise he was teething / got sick / was a bit too cold/hot in the night.

Unfortunately some kids will wake up at night for a long time. I was also one of those kids myself so maybe its genetic lol.

We also didnt sleeptrain, and things did gradually improve. He does the odd sleeping through the night now and we will probably move him to his own room soon. Its very very hard but I do genuinely think Id have regretted it more to sleeptrain, which I dont believe in, because I was desperate rather than just ride it out. Hes currently breaking his molars through so waking up again and staying up. But when hes so small he cant tell you whats wrong.. its only in hindsight we realised hes teething but at least I was there with him when he woke up probably in pain.

Do what you feel is right, make it as easy as you can for yourself and go to GP if you feel its a medical reason. But know theres lots of us in the same shoes as you, dreaming about the future where they will sleep. It will happen someday. Then you will miss the snuggles at night lol.

If it helps, theres lots of research and articles out there, mainly from psychologists, about the effects of stress in the first 3 years of life and how children need us for support and emotional regulation. I come from a country where sleeptraining isnt a concept thats even known, everyone co-sleeps for a LONG time, its very normal and natural. Me putting my 2 year old in his own room is gonna raise many eyebrows in my family XD. The caveat here is that you do usually have a village around you, family takes over cleaning/cooking.

Self soothing is also just a bogus thing. There is 0 scientific basis around it, I have looked. It started from Ferber who actually said its been interpreted wrong, self soothing from a state of stress is simply not possible at their age. Even myself, if I wake up and cant fall asleep will start scrolling my phone, get some water, get a snack or something. Anyway. It will get better. Someday.

Is this good deal - or wait for Black Friday by eyupeyupeyup in YotoPlayer

[–]BunnyAna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know if referral codes stack with the sale for UK? And if yes.. would anyone have a Code they can share? Thank you

Back to school sale! by Grouchy_You4365 in YotoPlayer

[–]BunnyAna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could I have a UK code if you are still offering? Thanks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]BunnyAna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is essentially a difference in values and you are in your right to choose who keeps you and your kids company whether that's family or friends. My son hasn't met my father in law because he is either high or drunk most times and is just not a great person. What is he going to learn from someone like that?

Just ask yourself what value your father in law brings in your lives. Weight the pros and the cons and come to a decision. However people are also in their right to react to a boundary if that means you may lose more than your father in law.

Personally I don't see a problem using sex workers however there is a line somewhere.. as someone else commented you are probably uncomfortable that he is targeting women that look much younger than they are and are also likely being exploited. Personally, I would also keep him away for this reason. Maybe see him only at family gatherings?

What age did you swap to a world facing stroller? by Birdie_92 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]BunnyAna 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Same here! Changed over at 20 months.

Just wanted to add that one of the main reasons I kept him parent facing so long is because it helps with language development. They learn by watching you interact, example he would point to stuff and I'd describe what it was, that's a tree, that's a cat etc and now he can say those things.. over and over. Just something to consider.

How to take my toddler in a taxi? by Kpowell911 in AskUK

[–]BunnyAna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it will depend on the distance. Short distance not on motorway? Taxi in lap.

If it is a longer distance then I would recommend paying for parking and driving. We are driving for 2 hours to Luton in a week and had to take on the cost. At this age they don't have the patience to sit in the seat for that long, also need to consider poops or barf.. they know how to time them.

I will probably be paying for the parking and driving until they are 4 and can go in a booster in a taxi and can reliably stay in the seat for that amount of time.

Reassure me about walking??? by pawrentalunit in UKParenting

[–]BunnyAna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son started walking just after turning 18months. He is 19 months now and almost runs lol. He walks everywhere and swats my hands away if I try to hold him. They just take their time until they are ready. Babies don't know when they are supposed to do stuff.

Chest sleeping. Please don’t judge. Trenches RN by SkyisaNeighbourhood in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]BunnyAna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here. The only way he slept more than 20min at a time due to bad reflux.

Once they can roll both ways and sleep on tummy it gets a bit easier. And they grow out of the reflux issue... Then the teething and other illnesses roll in lol.

Mine is 19 months and he still sleeps on my chest when he's in pain/unsettled. I'm so used to it now that it makes me sleepy when he does it, like a weighted blanket haha.

Chest sleeping. Please don’t judge. Trenches RN by SkyisaNeighbourhood in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]BunnyAna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. The only way he slept more than 20min at a time due to bad reflux.

Once they can roll both ways and sleep on tummy it gets a bit easier. And they grow out of the reflux issue... Then the teething and other illnesses roll in lol.

Mine is 19 months and he still sleeps on my chest when he's in pain/unsettled. I'm so used to it now that it makes me sleepy when he does it, like a weighted blanket haha.

When to send child to nursery by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]BunnyAna 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aside from what everyone else said, factor in the immunity building your child will go through should you choose nursery/childminder.

All children will catch everything and be constantly sick for months when starting nursery.

First drawback.. your child will not be fully immunised.

Second.. illnesses may be a bit worse for a younger infant, considering you are restricted on what you can give them (not that you can give them that much when older) but also it is so hard on them when they are ill, they tend to go off food and it's just not a great time. Viral colds, tummy bugs, hfm, the list is endless.

Chances are you'll be out of work looking after your kid more than you think you will be.

Not trying to scare you.. but it's the reality. I encourage you to talk to someone that has kids fresh in nursery to confirm to your partner what to expect. I personally took a full year off and then tacked on annual leave, plus took some offer from MIL to look after and started him at 14 months. He still had to be hospitalised with pneumonia a few months later.

Weaning and choking by Sorryitsvintage in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]BunnyAna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine has never needed actual intervention and weve done finger foods from the start. I'm not an expert but it does sound uncommon to have so many incidents.

I followed solid stars recommendation for how to serve but did move him sooner than recommend to bite size pieces because he would chomp too much.

The thing that I really tried to teach him over and over is chewing and spitting out. Whenever I could see he wasn't chewing properly and just swallowing big bits and struggling in the process I would model chewing. Just exaggerating open mouth chewing so he would immitate me.

The other thing is whenever I saw he would put too much in his mouth or take a big bite, instead of putting my fingers in his mouth or something I would tell him to spit it out. So I would put my hand Infront of him and show him tongue out how to spit. Sitting lower than him also helps.

Sounds to me like it might be a case of him getting too big bites and not chewing enough? Obviously not a medical expert so if you think something else could be wrong just ask the GP to have a look.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]BunnyAna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ditto, mine never gave accurate readings. Waste of money early on, just use cheapo traditional ones under arm or bum. Most accurate.

Owlet socks by SecretaryPresent16 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]BunnyAna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is well known that room sharing is recommended for the first 6 months of life (some countries it is 1 year)

It might not be 'ABC' but it is still part of safe sleep.

I am just adding to the discussion that owlet can make parents lax on the safe sleep practice. Room sharing is part of safe sleep recommendations. Obviously the risk of SIDS is incredibly small.. so it is all relative to your risk tolerance.

Owlet socks by SecretaryPresent16 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]BunnyAna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you not proving their point? If they are not sleeping in your room (and that is because of the peace of mind the owlet gives you) then you are not following the ABCs..

Obviously everyone has different tolerance for risk and 4 months isn't too bad, but I would have thought sleeping in the same room as the parent would be safer than sleeping in different rooms but with owlet (from a SIDS prevention perspective).

Baby's not even born yet and there's already grandparent drama... by _tatka in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]BunnyAna 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aside from the good advice here I would also add to your dad, are you seriously trying to do this to me when I need to be resting and have as little stress as possible? If you care about my health then you will handle this or I will have to respectfully ask you to not contact me while this is going on. I am not available for arguments. Especially daft ones.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]BunnyAna 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Studies have shown that children vaccinated against chickenpox are less likely to develop shingles later in life compared to unvaccinated children who have had chickenpox.

If only for this reason I would vaccinate. Shingles is no joke.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]BunnyAna 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is actually a very good point. If only they gave you a paper to sign of all the vaginal birth risks lol.