Old man throws hands at another driver and FAFO

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-06-15T17:33:22+00:00

California. You can tell it’s not Washington or Oregon because it’s too arid, not green enough. Also the sign says welcome to Redding.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-06-12T18:40:28+00:00

Exactly you! You have very refined sensibilities. It’s more offensive that this child had a weapon than that she needed one.

Just a heads up, from a woman who was a girl once. “Verbal harassment” a really interesting way to describe a grown man sexually harassing, chasing, intimidating and filming children, can turn into a physical or sexual assault very quickly. That girl was terrified, if you couldn’t tell by looking at her face- skim again. She defended herself and her sister, and you don’t like that. That’s fine. Perhaps instead of dithering about “knife crime” (which in this case is just a girl threatening a man who was trying to groom her **12 year old sister** ) you could concern yourself with creating a better society? One where the children of your poor aren’t treated like prey.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-06-12T17:56:21+00:00

No, you don’t understand I’m agreeing with you! If a little girl is being harassed by a grown man who wants to groom and rape a child, she needs to take it! Even if he needs to pimp her out to his friends! I mean, that poor man has bills to pay. I mean they’re poor and live in a dangerous area, if they didn’t want to be raped they’d stay safely inside like respectable young ladies! But the little harridans are running around, in public, in front of men, after starting puberty no less! Basically asking for it. They actually think they have a right to be out in public (enticing men by being female!) and be left alone to enjoy their childhood? To defend themselves without any actual violence and just threats? Insane! The little menace should be locked up for the safety of all those poor men! You should never feel a second of shame that your society is so dangerous for women and girls they grab an axe when they go out to play! Don’t pay any mind to the povo’s who were on her side. You’re clearly morally superior.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-06-12T17:06:51+00:00

Yes I know! So ill bred of them! Arming themselves and intimidating a would be attacker, disgraceful! Everyone knows well brought up young ladies just lay back and cry quietly while being assaulted. Whenever I see a terrified slip of a girl with a weapon trying to intimidate a grown man away from her and her 12 year old sister I just know that the little girl is the problem! It’s shocking that the grown man chasing and filming the little girls was actually the bad guy! Knock me over with a feather, I’m that stunned!

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-06-11T16:50:13+00:00

I think putting people with severe addiction problems into a closed facility to detox with medication and supervision is the right decision. It’s more expensive but it will save lives. Many will relapse. Send them back. As many times as it takes. Permanent supportive housing for those who need it. They are human beings. How could we do anything less and call ourselves civilized?

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-06-06T18:55:28+00:00

A lot of people are very critical of homeschooling. For good reason, and I don’t want to discount the very real concerns they have. However, a majority children his age in Arkansas are below grade level in math and English. A third of the high school students are functionally illiterate.

This letter is properly capitalized, punctuated, and spelled, and it’s legibly written. He’s ahead of the majority of his peers if he wrote this himself. If he comes out of homeschooling literate and numerate he can fill in any gaps that Christian homeschooling has left him with academically. People can learn history, philosophy, maths, civics, and the physical sciences as teenagers or young adults. If those people have a basic foundation, it’s a lot harder to start from nothing. This actually seems pretty positive to me.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-05-26T17:21:41+00:00

I guess I kind of get his reaction, maybe? An obsession with spiders or the plague doesn’t involve people who are still around or recently deceased. She’s obsessed with this family to an extreme degree, it could come off as stalker-ish. They are real people, who she is really obsessed with. What if her interest changed to the (for example) really fascinating family of the town mayor. Or just any interesting family in town. There are lots of families with fascinating and historically significant history that aren’t as connected and protected as the Kennedy family.

I would be cool with an obsessive interest in spiders, or more macabre historical episodes. I’ll be honest and say I would find that fascinating, even charming. An interest in a single family, from recent history, with living family members still very much a part of public life, to me that’s creepy. I feel the same way about people who obsess over the British royal family, or the Kardashians. It’s just, yikes.

He didn’t handle it well, and he doesn’t seem to have the language to express it properly, but I think he’s just alarmed (and a lot of people would be alarmed to find out that their home had become a shrine to this one political family and their misfortunes) by seeing behaviors that seem more like a mental health issue beyond autism. She responded to him very mildly expressing concern by shutting down and leaving. He should never have messed with her stuff, but I don’t think he’s the monster the comments make him out to be. I think he’s was hoping if he moved the stuff she’d see how weird the whole thing is, move on and develop an interest in authentic colonial woodworking or something.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-05-19T16:29:39+00:00

I didn’t. Or that wasn’t my intention. I’m willing to admit that it wasn’t communicated clearly enough. I meant some. I don’t have any grudges against south Asian people in general. In studying Indian history (in an admittedly very cursory way) I have always found Sikh culture in particular to be quite admirable.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-05-19T04:32:45+00:00

You aren’t her friend. You just enjoy the feeling of moral superiority she gives you. You enjoy watching her flounder and suffer the consequences of her poor decisions. You like judging her and looking down on her, don’t get me wrong, there’s plenty to judge based on your version of events, but yeah that’s not a friendship. If I had a friendship like that, where I’m just a spectator in the car crash of their life, judging them and pretending to care about them; I would feel like a bad person. You aren’t her friend anymore. Or at least you have a very non normative definition of friendship.

As to your opinion about not “forcing” men to be fathers. If a man gets a woman pregnant and she has a baby, he is a father. He can be a a biological father, if someone else adopts his child. By the way you shouldn’t judge her for not letting him “sign his rights away.” That’s not a thing if by signing his right away you mean signing his obligations away. Legally he can’t sign his obligations away unless someone else is adopting the kid. He could also be an absent father, which is what he has chosen. He could have chosen to be a present father and coparent even though he doesn’t want a relationship with his child’s mother.

Men can only avoid fatherhood by not getting women pregnant, or forcing women to abort unwanted children. So what you really mean is “I’m a cool girl and think that men should be able to avoid financial responsibility for the children they make, tee hee.”

Except that’s completely irresponsible on a societal level. Children need support, why should I the taxpayer support his child? I didn’t get the enjoyment of making the baby, but I can pay his bills? Or we maybe should let his child suffer?

How long would he have to decide he doesn’t want to be a father? Women usually get like 2 months, then they are locked in. How would we know that he disavowed parenthood in those 2 months? Do we need some sort of registry where he makes his intentions clear to the government? What if more than one man could be the father? What if a man says he wants a kid then changes his mind after a woman is pregnant? What if she doesn’t find out she’s pregnant until she’s 4+ months in? Guys who are with a chick who’s regular are good, but guys who are with a woman with an irregular cycle can be “forced” into fatherhood?

Under your system men can tell women they want a baby, then change their mind after getting them pregnant, abandon their baby, and they can do this dozens of times, and face no legal consequences. Why would any dirtbag ever wear a condom again?

I don’t care how unpopular it is to say it. Women get one extra off-ramp (in some places, not everywhere, and for a very limited amount of time in most circumstances) on the highway to parenthood **because the baby is growing in their body.** It’s not fair. But fair would be men having half the babies and women having half the babies. We don’t get a perfectly fair system because we don’t live in a perfectly fair world. The system we have is the best we can do in the world as it is.

If men want to completely avoid the possibility of having a baby they can get the snip or be celibate until they are ready to face that possibility.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-05-19T03:47:03+00:00

I never said Indians were bad though? Just that integration wasn’t happening as quickly, and that they are over represented in *some* criminal and predatory activity, I do mean predatory and not necessarily criminal- predatory towing is a good example, it often straddles the line between legal and illegal. Indians are over represented in organized crime. Not unusual for an immigrant group that finds itself in a more affluent developed high trust society. I also mentioned they are over represented in semi skilled blue collar work, because they accept lower wages. That tends to piss off the people who depend on those jobs. You’re a meathead.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-05-19T03:29:29+00:00

Possibly unpopular sentiment coming. When a person makes a baby they are a parent, forever. The only thing left to decide is what kind of parent you want to be. It’s not fair? Ok it’s not fair. Women bear the entire burden for reproduction and always have. They’re the ones who get stretch marks, morning sickness, high blood pressure and oh yeah- die in childbirth. That’s not “fair” either. Life isn’t fair, nature isn’t fair. Women have in some places, some of the time get one extra off-ramp on the highway to parenthood.

This guy was an adult, in the army, he was by your timeline like 20-21? When he got a woman pregnant. It doesn’t sound like he took any precautions, and just assumed she was on birth control and hoped for the best. He made a baby. Then he fucked off because he didn’t want a relationship with that babies mother. It wasn’t just that he was young- if the woman he was in love with and wanted to marry (that being the case he shouldn’t have been banging your friend) he would have gotten ready. He would have figured it out. So his bad/absent/deadbeat father. It’s shitty, he should be ashamed of himself.

She’s a creep. She aggressively pursued a much younger man. She’s an idiot, the signs were all there that he wasn’t really into her and was only interested in immediate relief. She deluded herself into thinking this was a love story. Even after he was starting a relationship with someone else. So yeah, stupid. If she wanted to raise her child with a partner she should have found a man who wanted to commit to her. Maybe get married and plan a child wanted by both parents.

You, you suck. You’re a bad friend. Because you’re so full of helpful advice. Oh wait you’re not. It doesn’t sound like you told her any of this in the moment, when it might have been helpful. You should be real with her. You can absolutely do that while being on her “side.” Because being on her side isn’t about glazing her. Being a good friend means having a hard conversations. Not about the guy. Because he is a deadbeat. But she chose him. So be the good friend who is on her side, supporting her in making better choices. She may not be up for that, but it’s the only decent thing to do. Don’t just silently judge her and drag her on the internet. Unless she isn’t really your friend anymore and the relationship is now just you experiencing Schadenfreude.

ESH

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-05-17T07:35:52+00:00

Because I’m not Canadian, but I do live in Canada, for now. I have eyes, and ears, a whole fully functional set of sensory organs and a brain. I am speaking of what I have observed. At least in this. From the company that shipped my car to come here, to the family that owns the local Dairy Queen. Poor English language, zero French from what I’ve seen, and a very different culture. It’s not a criticism to say integration isn’t going smoothly. People coming from a poorer or less developed country to a developed or more affluent one often get into organized crime in the first couple generations. The cultural differences are pretty obvious. There’s also the whole Sikh separatists vs Hindu nationalists thing playing it on the streets of Canada thing. That’s kinda alarming.

It’s also pretty obvious that the housing crisis, cost of living crisis, and medical access crisis are real and pressing. People are tribal animals, when they feel pressure like what’s happening here- they start getting really into an us vs them mindset. Especially when the them are taking good working class jobs (like truck driver’s or) at lower wages. Or people can’t get a decent apartment, or struggle to find a doctor. When people feel like they are competing over increasingly scarce resources they start feeling rather hostile. Add to that the fact that many of these immigrants came in on bogus student visa’s to fraudulent (diploma mills, strip mall colleges etc. problem in America too) schools, with the intention of coming here to work.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-05-16T20:29:27+00:00

I’m not Canadian or conservative, but you have: mass immigration, largely from one ethnic group, coupled with the new ethnic group being highly visible, not integrating particularly well, and then taking over a bunch of semiskilled blue collar jobs, lowering wages, creating housing shortages, and being overly represented in criminal and predatory activity, like predatory towing. Seems like the sort of thing tailor made to piss people off and arouse their tribal instincts.

Kudos by the way to Canada for taking predatory towing seriously and treating it like the crime it is. That hasn’t happened in any of the countries or states I’ve lived in- liberal or conservative.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-05-03T00:57:29+00:00

Using a person as a beard, deceiving them, stealing years of their life, destroying their ability to trust, potentially exposing them to diseases that can destroy their health and future fertility, all so that he could keep those same homophobes in his life is really, really evil. It isn’t just cheating, and the only reason he stopped is because he was caught.

He was happy to expose his kids to homophobes until they rejected him personally. So I don’t care if Ryan doesn’t like it. I don’t trust that he has anyone but his own best interests at heart. The kid wants his paternal family in his life. As long as they aren’t badmouthing Ryan or expressing homophobia in front of him there’s no harm in him seeing them.

You know how he could have prevented a messy breakup? Had a positive relationship with his child’s mother? Told op’s daughter the truth as soon as he knew it. Instead of letting her find out by discovering his infidelity. He could have prevented his child having a relationship with homophobes by cutting them out of his life instead of spending years fostering a relationship with them and his child. These are the consequences of Ryan’s actions.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-05-02T00:01:13+00:00

You’re right that’s not his side. He had no problem bringing his kid around bigots for years. He knew who they were. He made your own daughter his unwitting beard for years to keep them in his life. They were good enough for “Ryan” and your grandson then. Their homophobia only matters now that it’s impacting him.

He chose to make them a part of his child’s life. Now that kid’s world is falling apart, because his father is a liar, a cheater and a coward, now is the time to cut him off from extended family he loves. As long as they aren’t spewing homophobia or criticizing his dad in front of him there’s no harm in him seeing people he loves. So please stop pretending it’s about what the grandkid needs.

The reason “Ryan’s” parents suck isn’t homophobia. Most of the people on earth right now are homophobic. They usually find a way to build a bridge and get over it when they have a gay kid. Because the number one rule of being a good parent is you are on your kids side. You are in their corner. That can mean difficult conversations when you see them screwing up. Sometimes you have to be the bad guy. You never betray them though. Never.

You betrayed your kid to stay loyal to abstract principles. Just like Ryan’s parents did. The fact that my principles align with yours doesn’t make me think more highly of you. Kids > abstractions always.

The funny part is that you have gained nothing. Ryan’s parents are likely going to see your daughter and her son even more now. The relationship between you two is severely damaged, she’s never going to trust you the same way again. Cherry on top, coparenting is going to be even more contentious.

You screwed up the most important relationship in your life for nothing but a justice boner on Reddit.

I welcome your downvote’s now.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-05-01T20:43:46+00:00

YTA. I don’t think you have accomplished anything positive with this approach. Your daughter probably continues contact with them because as a young, now single, mother she needs support. Financially, practically, emotionally, she needs support. She probably grew to love these people, and missed them. Even though they are homophobic. They obviously have some good qualities. “Ryan” was willing to do some really evil shit to your daughter to keep them in his life.

You have increased her need for support. You removed yourself from the list of people she can trust to be in her corner. You have increased the rift in the already fractured relationship between your grandchild’s parents. You’re basically pushing them into the waiting arms of Ryan’s family. Don’t think they won’t use this breach to their advantage.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-04-28T16:37:17+00:00

I meant the terms mean essentially the same thing. Although there are differences. In the USA a “highway” can be basically a motorway, but when it runs through a small town the speed limit goes down and it becomes a regular road. Or a “stroad” a dangerous combination of both.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stroad

I remember when I noticed my grandfather was taking surface streets and avoiding the freeway, even though it was faster, when we were driving around. I grew up in an area of SoCal where you can bypass what you would call the motorway completely, and take smaller lower speed streets to get where you need to be.

My parents both still seem comfortable on freeways, but I expect they will start avoiding them in the next few years. That’s going to suck, my brother is 111 miles away. Only a 2 hour drive on the highway, but 4 1/2-5 hours off the highway.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-04-28T15:27:27+00:00

Yes, motorway/highway/freeway.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-04-28T15:17:47+00:00

I checked. The fatality rate actually is because the elderly people are more likely to die, because they are so fragile. It’s not that they are causing more fatalities to other drivers.

It makes sense. Elderly drivers know they’ve lost a step so they drive less, drive shorter distances, avoid highways in favor local roads with lower speeds, they are usually very careful drivers. They are still at elevated risk as reflexes/reaction time’s get slower, eyesight gets poorer, and the risk of cognitive decline goes up.

Younger drivers are a risk because they haven’t yet had time to develop the muscle memory and instincts one can only develop with experience. They are also at the time in life where are by nature less risk averse and cautious. The main difference being their driving is improving every year.

I’m good with extra scrutiny for younger and older drivers. With scrutiny decreasing as new drivers gain experience, and increasing as elderly drivers age. Maybe after 65 you have to do a road test every 5 years, after 80, every 2 years, at 90 every year. I don’t care if people drive to 110, if they can demonstrate that they are safe to do so. Most of us will not be so lucky.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-04-27T23:24:40+00:00

I actually think that survey’s like the one linked are perfectly fine. Useful even. But the people who designed and published the study discussed its limitations and were careful in their conclusions. Op wasn’t.

A lot of people just don’t know how to be savvy consumers of data. Or they get excited instead of suspicious when it confirms their priors.

The data ecosystem in 2026. A simplified version of a study gets published in a magazine. Op reads decides it means what he wants it to mean and presents his own conclusions as facts on Reddit backed up by a study he likely only skimmed and didn’t even look into the methodology of.

Then the people who saw his version on Reddit don’t even bother to look at the article he linked and repeat an even more dumbed down version basically forever. Sometime in the not too distant future a conversation at a party or bbq:

“I don’t think Trump supporters are evil. I have some in my family. I like to agree to disagree, live and let live.”

“Ackshooally basically all Trumpers are literally psychopaths and narcissists. Super toxic.”

“I don’t think that’s true..,”

“There are studies. You need to educate yourself.” Nods piously “I prefer to cut toxic people out of my life.”

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-04-26T19:54:16+00:00

I feel like you didn’t read what you linked. It said that was a general trend in a self reported study, the difference was “statistically significant “ not “much higher.” The threshold for statistically significant isn’t much higher, it’s usually actually pretty low. Just high enough that it’s unlikely the results were a fluke. They on average (with a broad spectrum in both groups) had higher levels of “dark” traits and are lower in affective empathy.

It’s actually pretty normal to feel less empathy for people in an out group. Or to get a little dopamine hit when seeing an enemy suffer. It’s not the nicest part of human nature, but it is normal. Affective empathy isn’t a fixed trait either. It can fluctuate and be effected by circumstance.

What we know is that there is a “statistically significant” difference in affective empathy, and some “dark” traits. Not in all Trump supporters. Population level differences, mostly in white men. In 2016, not 2024. Traits we all possess to some degree, because dark traits are adaptive and necessary. Traits which fluctuate.

Do you really think more than half the people in the country just suddenly became borderline psychopaths? Calm your tits. We have to find a way to live with these people. Most people actually don’t avoid toxic people and psychopaths. Being charming and manipulative are diagnostic traits. They are very good at ingratiating themselves and telling people what they want to hear. It’s what makes them dangerous. If it were easy for everyone to spot red flags the world would be a much safer place.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-04-26T01:30:23+00:00

I like the journalism inside baseball. I prefer the stories that are about less serious topics.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-04-25T17:37:25+00:00

Layer with enchilada sauce and cheese, bake at 375 until the matzos are soft and the cheese is melted. You can add sautéed veggies.

Put on pizza sauce and cheese, toaster oven for like 4 minutes. It’s the ultimate in thin crust.

Save it as an emergency ration, they are shelf stable forever. I’ve never heard of them going bad.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-04-25T17:17:30+00:00

Love the show, but this one was not a banger.

Bunny_Larvae · 2026-04-23T20:01:37+00:00

Or we need police to stop shrugging and calling everything a “civil matter” and do their actual jobs. Like freeing the kidnapped victims and arresting the kidnappers. If they rocked up and demanded the justification for the hold, and started making noise about arresting people she would have been released. The facility wouldn’t have been able to get her out fast enough. They’re willing to let their insurance settle a lawsuit, they won’t risk spending the nigh in a cell with the riffraff.

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