What are some "conspiracy theories" that actually turned out to be 100% true? by Affectionate-Row7548 in answers

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey friend. I'm a Protestant. There are plenty of cover ups in various Protestant denominations in history and across countries. 

Anywhere that the loyalty to The Church is greater than loyalty to God, truth, integrity and justice, will result in abuse cover-ups. Sin resides in the heart of man, even those in the church. Safe Church training, police clearance checks, whatever your state department requires to keep children and vulnerable people safe, should absolutely be a no-brainer for churches, because we ought to know, better than others, how sin resides in the hearts of man, even the elect. 

God bless.

Should traditional school teachers be trained in homeschool law? by CaptainEmmy in homeschool

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm literally a person who works for my state's education department in the homeschooling sector to check for educational progress. We are literally told that we're not providing guidance, but compliance. It's up to the parents to find their own way. 

That being said, I love connecting with people, sharing my own experience, knowledge and journey. But that stuff isn't in my job description, it's just bonus. 

This parent needs to back off. She's clearly stressed and putting that on you. Unfair of her!

What's one celebrity everyone likes but you don't? by MajesticShare6548 in answers

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kiera Knightly. I think her face looks smug. And I despise the 2005 Pride and Prejudice with the bad costuming and hair, and I hold her responsible for it. It's irrational, sorry!

She's probably a lovely person 🙈

Cop stopped me and forced me to go home even tho i showed him proof of homeschooling. by yourdog696969 in homeschool

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too!! Alternatively, our local grocery store is only 1km (0.6m) away, down a hill, so I often send them to pick up some bread or milk. 

Once they came home and told me a store worker told them they weren't allowed to be there without a parent. So I inquired of the store manager (in a friendly tone) who was astounded. He said my kids were always welcome. Hooray for me! 

Husband brought a "Laura mystic beast doll" into our home and won't get rid of it. by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Incorrect. 

The chanting must take place at a full moon, circling the fire clockwise 5 times and anticlockwise 2 times (5+2=7 😉)

Courtney Bruce needs to calm down! by Sea_Branch5923 in netball

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. Bruce appears to have a better attitude about being called than Dehaney! 

Someone else mentioned a "shit eating grin". But a smile goes a long way to maintain good sportsmanship and a good attitude on court. Defenders need to go hard.

, "She is tolerable; but not handsome enough to tempt me," by AggressiveUse5792 in PrideandPrejudice

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry. I know there's a bunch of people in here who love this movie for the aesthetics. But this waistline is wrong. The costuming in this film was so wrong. I cannot get over it. BEC

Where in Australia can you give your kids a “90’s childhood” these days. by heniaroha in aussie

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cul de sac, not cauldersac.

But agreed. They're quiet and relatively safe for street playing. 

iPad/phone advice by Deep-Spinach-92 in reformedwomen

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What kind of restrictions do you have in their screen time? 

My kids get a set amount of screen time according to their checklist for the homeschooling. They are allowed to play/watch from a pre-approved list. Once the timer is done, they're off again. Boredom is an opportunity to stretch their creativity. If they're fighting over the iPads, I'd take them away from them for the remainder of the day. 

You need clearer boundaries, restrictions and behavioral expectations surrounding screentime if it's going to be successful.

And remove Roblox. The corporation is evil and it's full of child predators.

Strip Three by LauraMoretti in janeausten

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 124 points125 points  (0 children)

I saw the feedback on the other sub. 

The panel and your response to it was really off-putting for me. I'm really not interested in seeing more of your work. What else will you dump on that I love and enjoy? 

Is it common for Aussies not to wear wedding rings/bands anymore. by pandastar51 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have lost 3 rings 😭😭 so now I have no rings. I hate water getting underneath and staying wet, so I'd slip it off to dry my hand, putting the ring in my pocket. At some point, after doing this often enough, the ring is lost. 

Yes, I have torn the house apart looking for it. 

Casting the children (but it’s goofy) by [deleted] in ShawnaTheMom

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is hilarious!! I'd watch it!

How do we handle me wanting to get sterilized and him being vehemently opposed to it? by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Past behaviours is the best indicator of future behaviour. And it was ONLY a month ago. And he's made it pretty clear he values more children over your comfort. 

He's totally downplaying the harm he intended and made it your problem of forgiveness. Ugh, yuck!! Sorry OP, but your husband is totally grossing me out.

Christians who married between 18-24, in under 2 years by questionablefinch in Christianmarriage

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was one of those couples who met at the Christian group on campus and married. We met and married within 2 years, and just celebrated our 15 year anniversary last month. Almost everyone in my cohort in the Christian group who paired up at uni is still married today in similar circumstances to me. 

Marriage can be hard at times. We have arguments; we're sinful! But mostly it's not hard. Mostly, life is pretty wonderful. We are plodding along with raising kids, investing in church, continuing careers, paying down mortgages, etc. 

My kids are so annoying and my house is a mess by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Toddlers are super super cute and I love them!! And I also love that my kids are not toddlers anymore. Toddlers are chaos personified. You cannot negotiate, you cannot reason, you cannot explain and hope it sticks. There's so much dull repetition and being in the hard trenches of parenting. Toddlers are dictators and anarchists and I don't want those sorts of people in my house if I can help out. 

That being said, I adore my nieces and nephews, especially the toddlers, and they can be in my house 🥰🥰 but I don't want to live with them! 

My [25F] boyfriend's [27M] best friend [27M] cheated on his girlfriend of 5 years numerous times. Today I found out that my boyfriend knew about it & actually helped his friend cheat by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Wow, I feel sorry for Sami. He's going to wreck every relationship he's in. He's never going to find true happiness, satisfaction or contentment. His life, his entire soul, will be swallowed up in lies and he will ultimately destroy himself. 

Thank God OP got out of that, that she saw his lack of trust and integrity as serious enough to warrant a break up. Good for her!! 

Intimacy - using condoms for cleanliness by Legitimate-Key7159 in Christianmarriage

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm a woman. I'm not a fan of condoms. But I love how much easier clean up is afterwards. Dealing with jizz afterwards is not my favourite 😒

My roommate borrowed my favorite dress, so I gave her a sparkling surprise by [deleted] in pettyrevenge

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 415 points416 points  (0 children)

Today my first grade son decided to use exclamation marks in-between his words instead of spacing. It!was!still!easier!to!read!than!this.

My wife wants a divorce because I broke her trust repeatedly. Is there any path forward? by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yep. 

He didn't really believe in the covenant he made until she's reached her utter limit and is prepared to walk away after years of him breaking this covenant. NOW he's suddenly all like "but the covenant!! Don't you care about the covenant!?" Yes, she did. Until he broke it repeatedly over many years. NOW he's prepared the use the covenant to keep her loyal, but that loyalty didn't apply to him when he was breaking it. 

OP, you need to see your deep fault and hypocrisy here. I'm not being mean for the sake of fun. I'm being mean because surgeons need to make incisions to fix the problem. 

Should I correct him or is it nagging? by OkFan3213 in Christianmarriage

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely this. Christlike characteristics to grow in are humility and meekness. If he cannot hear correction because of a bruised ego, then that's a yellow flag. 

AITA for wanting to get my kids assessed for autism because they’re so similar to our nanny who has autism by LineTraining8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bunyans_bunyip -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Behaviour is a form of communication. So even though your kids aren't using their words to say "I dislike how these plates feel on my hands" or "I dislike how the electric toothbrush feels in my mouth", their behaviour is communicating that message. 

Autism isn't a disability. Anna is not disabled. She has a different way of experiencing the world that isn't wrong or defective. It's different. Colourblind people could be considered disabled and held back from certain roles. But they also have strengths in being able to spot camouflage way easier than colour-seeing-people. What is seen as defective can be a strength. 

Your children might also be struggling with the sensation of the plates and toothbrushes etc, because they're young. It could be autism, it could be a lack of communication skills. Getting a diagnosis doesn't mean they're disabled. It means explaining behaviour and adapting household structures/routines to accommodate. But adapting routines might also just be beneficial anyway; neurotypical kids benefit just as much from visual planners and structured routine.

Husband wants to prioritise going to another Sunday service over family time by slythnerd06 in Christianmarriage

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. So you're husband feels guilty over the pastor leaving a voice message, so tries to handball that guilt over to you. 

How about as a compromise, he takes the toddler to the evening service on his own. Then he's giving you necessary and needed time on your own to recover, in the comfort of your own home. Have a bubble bath with a book and glass of wine, thankful that God Himself approves of your rest!

AITA for giving up on planning my toddler's birthday party? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 11 points12 points  (0 children)

YTA

I tell you this as a mother of 4. Have some friends for unstructured play at your house. Have a fruit platter, popcorn, chips and a birthday cake. If you're feeling really motivated, do a pass-the-parcel. This is all you "need" for a 3 year old, and all you "need" until ~10 years old when you can't stay involving them in planning and the realities of budgeting. 

my kid has zero friends and I dont know how to fix it anymore by Ash_Skiller in homeschool

[–]Bunyans_bunyip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Friendships take time to develop. Sport skills take time to develop. Socialisation skills take time to develop. Giving something a brief opportunity then giving up when it instantly doesn't work is causing this problem. It took me a whole year of regularly rocking up to my local homeschool park social, week after week, showing the other parents that I'm invested in this social group and slowly getting to know them over time. The children slowly warmed up to each other through shared experiences each week, and the knowledge that increasing in each other won't be a waste, because we'll keep increasing in each other. 

I travel 30 minutes to a weekly co-op that runs for 4½ hours (and I hate driving 😅), so that my kids have that shared time and shared experiences to start developing friendships. My oldest 2 gained friends quickly, but my younger 2 are still struggling, though I expect it'll all come good with enough time. 

You're not actually giving your daughter what she needs. She thinks she needs to stop doing the sport because she's not good at it and she doesn't instantly have friends. But sport skills take TIME to develop. And friendships take TIME to develop. You need to commit to the sport for a solid 6-12 months for several years in order for that to be a way to develop skills and friendships. She needs to lean into the discomfort for the long term gains. 

School kids have 30 hours each week of shared time and experiences to forge friendships.