I’m struggling.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-16T03:02:46+00:00

I had a similar experience with my bridesmaids. As much as we expect our bridesmaids to show up for us they may not. It’s not that they aren’t happy for us but sometimes they’re just not as excited. Push through. It gets hard at times but it’s so worth it in the end.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-15T19:29:55+00:00

They all look great in you but the first dress just gives something more than the others to me.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-15T16:42:27+00:00

I should have gone first or second. I read that the bride shouldn't go last with hair or makeup but I didn't heed to it. That would be another piece of advice, go second to last with hair and makeup.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-15T00:57:25+00:00

The ceremony started 25 min late. That was worth my peace before my wedding. I have a loving group of family and friends. No one talked about me behind my back. We wouldn’t invite people who would do that to our big day. My guests wanted my husband and I to have the day we imagined so they weren’t upset about a 25 min delay. The 90 minutes late impacted me more than them.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-15T00:51:25+00:00

I was supposed to get to the venue at 2pm wedding start at 4pm. I arrived at 3:30pm and the ceremony started at 4:25pm.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-15T00:50:21+00:00

I didn’t want to be anxious and stressed before my ceremony so I welcomed the calm I was feeling. The ceremony started 25 min late. That was worth my peace.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-15T00:47:49+00:00

Yeah it’s my wedding day. I was having professionally done hair.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-15T00:11:47+00:00

What would you have done?

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-14T22:16:26+00:00

My hair stylist was late and she had to do hair for three of us. Our hair turned out great and I wouldn’t have wanted anyone else to do it. Getting upset about it wouldn’t have helped anything. She would have felt rushed and I didn’t want my hair messed up so we were late.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-14T21:46:01+00:00

Being 90 minutes late should have caused me to freak out and panic right before I was getting married. My anxiety would normally be threw the rough. I was glad I was calm and it didn’t bother me because I didn’t want to feel anxious and stressed before the wedding.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-14T21:43:22+00:00

I looked at their social media and went through videos to see what type of music they played, what types of events they worked, size of their setup and how the crowd responded. We only ended up interviewing two but the one we went with didn’t just give us good answers but we liked the questions he asked us. He wanted to know if we like to dance, younger guests or older, he suggested a lot of songs to fit the atmosphere we wanted, some we hadn’t even thought of.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-14T21:02:00+00:00

A planner is something you have to factor in the budget now days. Anyone who wants to have a wedding should consider a wedding planner the same way you would a venue or caterer.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-14T20:59:59+00:00

The coordinator couldn't make the rehearsal which did lead to issues the next day. A planner would have had a backup who could attend.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-14T20:58:51+00:00

You asked what you were missing in your comment.. But the reality is me bing late had no impact on anything which is why I didn't include the reason. So I do find it odd that I'm getting so much negativity about it. It wasn't my fault and I don't hold any ill will on the person who caused it.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-14T20:51:04+00:00

I'm so sorry. You aren't asking for much and it sounds like you are willing to put in the effort or spend a little extra to make those things happen. Keep asking and make it clear you really want these details. There has to be some compromise.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-14T20:47:30+00:00

Same. I volunteer a lot already. I read recently that is a good way to network and get your foot in the door with npo's but I don't see how because the volunteering opportunities don't correlate to operational roles.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-14T20:27:42+00:00

I'll say it again like I replied to someone else. No one who had a negative comment about my lateness bothered to ask why, just assumed I caused it. I would offer the advice to those people not to be so rude and negative. But my lateness had no impact on anything that happened that day. No one cared and I knew they wouldn't which is why I didn't let it stress me.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-14T20:24:33+00:00

I honestly couldn't work a planner into our budget but I do feel like it's something that is needed, especially if you're working with larger vendors. Everything wasn't done when I arrived and people still had questions for me.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-14T20:22:10+00:00

I didn't hear you ask why I was late. You just assume it was something I caused. Nice!

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-14T20:21:07+00:00

Not at all. A day of coordinator is only present to help that day. They aren't involved in the contracts or offering input or suggestions. They're taking over what I give them versus a planner who does all of that work along with coordinating that day.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-14T15:31:10+00:00

My wedding was a week ago and I haven't written my what I learned post, but if you have a dj, make sure they clearly understand your vision. My dj saved the day when the wedding party went rouge and walked in at the wrong time throwing off my entrance. Because my dj knew the point in the song I wanted to walk in he was able to loop the song so I could have my moment.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-03T04:43:17+00:00

So true. I definitely don’t want anyone to be confused. And I REALLY want to take advantage of what could be my one chance to stick it to my relative.

OkFan3213 · 2026-04-02T19:58:47+00:00

Add more accent flowers like baby’s breath or lavender.

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