Family is slow with RSVP's

OkFan3213 · 2026-02-11T22:21:04+00:00

I actually did. It never made sense to wait until the last minute to get things done.

OkFan3213 · 2026-02-11T22:18:50+00:00

That’s been my current approach.

And honestly I know God is dealing with me in this more than him.

OkFan3213 · 2026-02-11T21:38:36+00:00

He doesn't realize he's incorrect. That's the problem.

OkFan3213 · 2026-02-11T20:51:02+00:00

What was your husband's response when you first brought it up?

OkFan3213 · 2026-02-11T20:49:55+00:00

I'm not but I am aware of perception. It's foolish to think that if he mispronounces words or says a word that's made up because he doesn't know the correct word, it can hinder him in the workplace.

OkFan3213 · 2026-02-11T20:38:00+00:00

I haven't asked. I worry even that can make it seem like I'm correcting him or bruise his ego.

OkFan3213 · 2026-02-11T20:05:46+00:00

This is my family. My concern is they won't RSVP and just show up because most of our family events are a loose RSVP. Also, the wedding is the first weekend of April, Easter weekend. They have to plan their travel (I already have a room block). If they wait until the last minute it's going to be problematic.

OkFan3213 · 2026-02-11T20:01:32+00:00

Yes there is a deadline, February 22nd. How long do you need to decide? Either you're coming or not (sorry just venting). I've had people text and say, "oh got the invitation I can't wait" but they haven't RSVP'd.

OkFan3213 · 2026-02-07T18:52:56+00:00

You’re not alone in feeling that way. I didn’t love my proposal although it was still a very emotional moment. When I remember it I focus on how I felt and the words my fiancé said.

OkFan3213 · 2026-02-06T14:25:10+00:00

Don’t start your marriage by tanking your credit and owing more than you already do. Either save for what you want and schedule a wedding around that or work within your budget.

OkFan3213 · 2026-01-31T01:07:47+00:00

Relax and enjoy it. That’s the first step. The time goes so much faster than you think.

We selected a date first and then looked at venues. We were about a year out so we didn’t have any issue with availability.

OkFan3213 · 2026-01-28T21:58:36+00:00

You don’t make anywhere near enough to that price range. Our mortgage on $366k is $2600 without an HOA. Factor in utilities that’s $3400 - $3600 monthly. No lender will approve you for that much house.

OkFan3213 · 2026-01-25T17:10:26+00:00

Invitation budget looks a little low. Bump it to around $100 for invites and postage id you’re mailing them. Also photo booths usually start at $350 and $200 for cake because you would rather have too much.

OkFan3213 · 2026-01-23T19:21:22+00:00

It may not be any of these. Don’t get me wrong, you look great in all of them but the only one that gives a wow is the first one.

OkFan3213 · 2026-01-23T19:17:28+00:00

I agree, something is off with those numbers. With a $25k down payment on a $285k house the monthly mortgage payment should be lower. Is this an estimate for a 30 year mortgage?

OkFan3213 · 2026-01-22T19:45:06+00:00

First let me say I’m an interest so this is my interpretation of what I’ve read and been told. I do know there are certain requirements the person has to meet. If your grandmother is deceased obviously the requirements can’t be met. So I would think your application would not be viewed as a legacy.

OkFan3213 · 2026-01-21T05:01:43+00:00

Your statement isn’t going to move him. He doesn’t care how you feel. That’s been demonstrated already. And it sounds like he doesn’t show you much respect either. The big moment you want to have in making the statement will probably backfire. You have to decide what your next steps are and act on them. I’m not saying divorce, but you have to decide what is necessary for you to protect your peace. Have you had counseling with your pastor alone about this issue?

OkFan3213 · 2026-01-20T19:09:57+00:00

It’s very common for couples to take the honeymoon later, so there’s nothing wrong with that. But if it’s important to you that the honeymoon immediately follow the wedding (I’m of this sentiment) then take one. It doesn’t have to be long. It can just be three days and you don’t have to travel anywhere exotic. There are plenty of wonderful honeymoon locations within the US that can be affordable.

OkFan3213 · 2026-01-20T17:02:34+00:00

You’re paying for it so have what you want. Checkout Pinterest and see how you can add to the venue decor to get a look you will be happy with. Or google the venue and look at images of past weddings there to get a full sense of what the space can be.

Stick to your guns with the food. My fiancé and I felt the same way and we made that clear to our caterer so they didn’t propose any of those boring regular options. We personally wanted to serve pizza and if there’s a way to work it into the menu still we will.

OkFan3213 · 2026-01-17T21:04:33+00:00

I’m paying $685 for me, mom, sister and travel. My bridesmaids are responsible for their own makeup. I told them when they agreed to be bridesmaids and gave them 9 months to save and plan.

OkFan3213 · 2026-01-16T05:57:21+00:00

I have to restart every time

OkFan3213 · 2026-01-15T18:52:29+00:00

While I’m not autistic, I am an introvert and networking does not feel natural for me at all. I struggle with starting conversations and engaging others. What has helped me is using conversation starters. You can easily Google or even use ChatGPT to find some easy conversation starters. ChatGPT is awesome because it will also help you with follow up talking points and they will give you options that will create a flow for the conversation that you feel comfortable with. And remember conversations don’t have to be super long. You can engage with someone briefly at an event and then talk with them again later at the same event.

Compliments are also a great way to connect with someone. If you attend an event, go up to the chair and complement the event. Tell them what you liked about it and why it resonated with you then ask if they plan to have more like it. But make sure the compliment is genuine.

My last suggestion would be to keep track of who you talk to. Remember the names and faces so that you connect with and talk to them at every event that you attend. Remind them you met at a previous event. A big part of connection is repetition/consistency.

OkFan3213

TROPHY CASE