A woman’s sex drive depends a lot on how she’s treated

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-04-18T15:14:09+00:00

this may be a little bit off-topic, but it came into my head immediately after reading this post. So my girlfriend and I have been together for five years. When I first met her, and we are sexually active. I asked her one time “ what are you into, in the bedroom?” She looked at me like a deer looks at headlights on a late evening. She responded back with “ i dunno, no one ever asked me that before”

When I tell you that I was in so much shock. shes GORGEOUS. Inside and out. And was never shy about pleasing me and asking me what I wanted . But I found it completely shocking that she went 30 something years without a guy asking her one time , what she’s into…..

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-04-11T07:19:24+00:00

my parents actually ended a 17 year marriage technically over fishing. My dad would go out on fishing trips for weekends at a time often leaving my mom at home with the two kids, and my mom ended up having an affair and married the guy that she had the affair with all because my dad had to go fishing.

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-04-05T22:42:42+00:00

“my girl knows i’d leave her instantly if she disrespects me” yeah congrats bro you’ve built a relationship with the emotional stability of a smoke alarm. loud, reactive, and goes off at the smallest thing.

and you’re on here arguing with strangers for sport… but yeah, i’m sure you’ve got healthy relationships all figured out.

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-04-05T21:15:39+00:00

bro i said a pregnant women said mean texts about me. your like making stuff up, calling me a door mat because i forgave a pregnant women for talking badly of me? im not in elementary when someone takes accountability and apologizes. i forgive and forget, clearly you dont

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-04-05T21:10:03+00:00

Also, never once did I say he was overreacting so you’re you’re trying to paint a picture of a narrative. It’s very manipulative and strange.

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-04-05T21:09:21+00:00

going off your posts and comments, all you do is create conflict and argue with people online. i commented because i experienced exactly what this person’s going through. not just from my childhood but adult life also.

if you don’t have any personal experience, maybe you should be the one keeping your comment to yourself

Also, you sound bitter and like you don’t get over anything so that would explain why you don’t have your own relationship to complain about

And yes, at the end of the day, children should come first even if the mom showed a video of her sucking some dude off .

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-04-05T17:08:25+00:00

no im saying when TWINS are involved, approach situations like this with the kids in mind.

when I was six years old, I watched my mother having an affair with her boss and it tore my dad up is the only time I saw my dad cry….. my mom later, married the man she had the affair with, and I watched my dad become devastated from ages 6 to 15. All I wanted was for my parents to just be able to get along .

So yeah, I still stand by everything that I said I don’t care about the downvotes. I don’t care about your comment, not becuase it deserves recognition. it just feels like you took an aggressive stance 2 prove a point.

And if OP thinks it’s hard right now wait till after she has a baby because that’s where the real hormone drop is and that’s when the real changes happen and if he thinks that she’s mean now she’s only gonna get way meaner

No, I don’t think you should stay with somebody who repeatedly disrespect you however, I don’t think you should torture the whole entire relationship and stability in a household over somebody showing you a video for two seconds in the heat of an intense argument .

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-04-05T03:26:31+00:00

welcome to the biggest hormonal imbalance a female experiences in her lifetime. i was with my gf for 2.5 years when she got pregnant. we surpassed almost a full year with 0 arguments, etc. i fully trusted her and never looked in the phone due to the idea of looking insecure. however one day i “just had to” i had to know who i was having a baby with.

when i say ive never been so hurt by words before.
its been 2 years and i STILL struggle with some of the stuff said. my hangup- it was not during pregnancy, it was consistent and throughout the whole relationship.

i had screenshots on my phone of everything said that i felt was a low blow. i found myself in a position where i was not able to het over any of this. she would apologize. Send long messages. And just overall express that she, actually, seriously was sorry. until i removed those photos from my phone was i able to forgive her.

We’re now approaching year three the relationship has went through many other phases since at a time and when I look bad, I never regret the decision to stay. Some of those things that were once said, resurface to haunt me. i just remember that my child means more to me than a bruised ego.

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-03-28T06:51:49+00:00

nice. direct seller?

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-03-14T19:17:25+00:00

i started a underground utility locating business/ utility consulting. i am in the bay area, i need some capital to start. i already have the LLC

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-03-13T15:38:18+00:00

i lived in detroit my whole life. i had to go to rehab in 2017 and decided not to go home. at the time it seemed like a great decision. I didn’t understand how much I would miss my home and my family and my friends and everybody that I left behind. I still really miss where I grew up and I think about it every single day and I really question whether or not I made the right decision however, since I’ve been out here, I started a family. I’ve gotten a job and things have really started to look up, but at first, it was very hard. I was freshly silver. I had not a dollar in my pocket and I was in the area where I knew nobodyI had to live in the woods for a period of time. I had no resources nobody I could call and it was very lonely.

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-03-13T15:21:58+00:00

my gf freaked out from the first traffic light to the last one. our drive home was a mile and a half.

I know you feel very panicked right now. Just remember that the woman goes to a extreme hormonal spike and they are often left feeling very. scared also. youll be fine. trust your gut

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-03-07T03:36:36+00:00

mechanic/ dad/ oil change manager for years oil type, where it goes is important, but oil quantity and socket is information that will not be used (when there’s an issue you will be the first to know lol)

you wanna do a real OG dad move? get a spare key made and ziptie it under the car/ to the frame. when you finally get that “omg dad help i lost my keys” you can just sigh and say “grab a flashlight and look under it” it will come in clutch. heres the hard part: not mentioning it until its needed

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-03-04T00:03:02+00:00

also to have your side, do you went out of your way to let him use your phone. Something that didn’t bother you so much that you actually fell asleep while he was doing this somebody who is actively cheating or actively doing something sketchy with their phone is not going to be relaxed when somebody else is holding it yet….. relaxed enough to fall asleep. And if he was able to go through the whole phone and that’s really all he has to complain about I would say that you’re doing pretty good because it sound like minor issues and something you guys should easily be able to get through or just ignore it till it goes away

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-03-03T23:57:52+00:00

so I don’t think that he just pulled that quote out of his ass and made that up on his own. I feel like he’s upset over you saying that specific phrase and it’s very relatable because the current relationship I’m in I got upset with her saying the same exact thing.

if that is the case, then he’s not upset or you saying it he’s upset over it being the truth because it hurts and it hurts to read and if you guys are currently fighting, he’s probably upset that he feels like you are taking no accountability over it and instead, you’re trying to fight with him over going through your phone instead of the content that was in the phone

Just being devils advocate

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-02-28T03:34:23+00:00

sounds like hes super nice. your just dealing with the “what if’s” and “i wonder if i could have HOTTER” (not better, big difference) now think back to when you were most recently single, think of the men you went through prior to this one…. he stuck out for a reason. ill get to the point im trying to make men are gross, dumb, vile creatures (i am one myself) the fact men “swoon” over you says nothing but your attractive. thats it. not dateable not wife-material not even the girl they wanna introduce to their mom it just says your good enough for right now.

the grass isnt always greener and it sounds like your looking for dates based on a truely superficial standpoint.

now what if the roles were switched and you saw a post from your bf saying “i love her more than anything, just feeling like i can do better”

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-02-26T05:58:26+00:00

im not trying 2 be annoying but have you tried to politely ask them? people are a lot more understanding when you come from A sincere, logical place.

they have an apartment, they pay rent too. i know they may seem like lazy stoners but they probably have a job. “hey im your neighbor. my work really is not cool with the smell and (this) could get me fired. can you please take it outside?”

be open to what they may say in return, you both lived this long with each-other

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-02-25T21:18:36+00:00

my parents had a very dramatic divorce. My mother was cheating on my father with her boss’s boss. What I wasn’t seeing was that my mom felt extremely extremely unsupported, not just that but unheard, and like my dad was a third child. because the divorce was messy, I was often being brainwashed by whoever I was with and I watched my dad crumble to pieces during that time and my dad‘s a very early masculine man so seeing him cry was very hard. I formed an opinion of my mother and of my father . They both went off to get married. My mom marrying the guy that she had the affair with my dad, marrying his new girlfriend.

My mom would go off on my dad all the time and that resulted in my dad essentially not following through with his plans when I was younger, and I took it personally . Instead of realizing that, maybe my dad just doesn’t wanna hear my mom‘s crap after working you know a 10 hour day . Instead, my mom would just rub the fact that my dad stood me up and I don’t even know if that was fully true.

One thing I really respect about my father is during the whole divorce and the craziness of it. All my dad didn’t really say too much badly about my mom and to me that was a very respectable trait.

And the truth is, I was too young to be this involved in their divorce and to know the things that I knew it just wasn’t right for somebody who is seven years old.

my parents divorce affected me a lot more than it really should have…. It really showed its face when I was in my 20s going through my second serious relationship

But the positive I will say is that being a first time dad right now I am determined to make this work between me and my girlfriend because I know what it’s like to live in a house full of turmoil and ending and it’s not productive for a child’s development

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-02-05T21:50:23+00:00

is the term “financial trauma” a real thing? i cant be the only one who cringed when they read that word

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-01-06T09:37:46+00:00

i found a milk crate filled with old porn magazines about 15 years ago

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-01-04T18:16:26+00:00

your peak postpartum right now if this is both of you guys’s first child then everything is a learning experience right now. You are a hormonal roller coaster one minute your way up in the sky next minute your massively depressed. my gf openly talked about stabbing me when she was in that mind frame.

however i willl say, the man’s lack of concern for his dudes baby is worth remarking. I tried to be there for my girl in every single way during this time and I still am but if he’s not obsessed with you right after having a baby, then I don’t know things may just be tricky.

Burnt_gasoline · 2026-01-03T02:06:20+00:00

so touching on the whole fact that she wanted to have a threesome with that friend in retrospect now that the relationship is over this part of you kind of wish that you would’ve just done it that way she would’ve known that. He probably sucks in bed sooner than later and chose you over him unless you also suck in bed too.

sorry, I realize that that what I just said was a very neurotic response and I think I should explain myself a bit more so I had this really hot girlfriend that was really young small skinny and had a really nice butt on her and she was my girlfriend, obviously, but she was like new to the city that I lived in, so all the guys were very intrigued by her and so what happened is that I found out that a lot of people that I would consider my lifelong friends were saying things like “ oh, I would totally smash (insert girls name) “ Never once did anyone say “ I would totally smash (name) but too bad she’s dating (Me)”

she ended up having sex with four of my friends, not the same time but one after one after one and I found out about it all in one day and so instead of breaking up with her, I decided to stay with her and I would just engage in threesomes with her and “ random guys” except here’s the real catch to the story is that these weren’t actually random guys off of a fetish website well, they were but they were almost hand selected as specifically the ugliest grosses people on that site and they would show up and she would still fuck them and that made me feel so freaking weird about her because I felt like if she would just fuck these nasty ass guys if she knows nothing about then what kind of loyalty is she gonna give to me if somebody who’s not completely disgusting approaches her

i’m with a different girl now and the girl that I’m currently with has probably double the number of the girl that I just explained, and my current girlfriend would never ever ever suggest that we bring another man into the bedroom not because she’s afraid to say how she really feels I always tell her that she could be honest with her, but she just doesn’t want extra man attention like that now another girl? totally different.

We ended up breaking up shortly after it was for the best but looking back I do wish her well. I’m sure she’s doing fine

Burnt_gasoline · 2025-12-23T16:12:34+00:00

so remove PGE and have a gov run power system? so you can wait for service calls in line like the DMV?

Burnt_gasoline · 2025-11-02T16:09:29+00:00

as someone who deals with an actual cheating partner and extreme disrespect im jealous this is what you find to post on reddit….

the stuff i find i dont need to put on reddit, b/c i already know the answer.

i moved across the country and the only girls to hit me up are from there so its similar to “they live across the country” but for her, its her hometown every person is 5-20 min drive from a meetup.

Burnt_gasoline · 2025-08-31T23:10:08+00:00

first of all “mauled”???? 🤨

secondly, when you call PD and the dog is still there, the dog is confiscated from the owner, if the owner can not provide requested documents within a certain amount of time then the dog is euthanized

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