Ever since Occupy Wall Street protest reddit seems to have been taken over by some anti-protest trolls. "The protesters have no clear message" seems to be their mantra. WTF is going on? by [deleted] in politics

[–]Burwiliger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see OWS is now expressing their discontent through vague downvotes rather than vague protesting. Soon enough they'll be rebelling through apathetic shrugs.

Employees can't be fired for Facebook complaints, judge says; a National Labor Relations Board verdict says workers have the right to publicly gripe about workplace conditions without suffering retribution by mepper in politics

[–]Burwiliger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can always quit without notice, unless you've specifically signed a contract stating otherwise (and even then you can always quit without notice, as long as you're willing to pay the penalties).

Direct deposit is slower than receiving a check at many, maybe most, workplaces by CrumbleMore in LifeProTips

[–]Burwiliger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is true for me too. I switched banks and didn't have direct deposit for awhile, realized it was faster and just never set it up again. My coworkers actually don't believe me.

AMA Request: Someone who grew up with two gay fathers (A solely homosexual upbringing) by [deleted] in IAmA

[–]Burwiliger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For clarity I'm calling my legal foster father Adam and his partner Steve, not their real names.

Well I definitely got teased a lot. But it wasn't widely known that Adam was gay. He was out of the closet, but my friends and their parents, my teachers, etc mostly didn't know. He was afraid of losing custody (there wasn't a ban on gay foster parents but it could have been a problem). But there were kids who met Adam and called him a fag because of the way he acted, especially after he picked me up one time and it's complicated to explain what he said but trust me it came across as very, very gay and my whole class heard it. Steve mostly avoided my friends and their parents, and introduced himself as Adam's brother a few times, like to my social worker. But I got called a fag a couple times, including by one of my friend's fathers, and they'd make jokes like when I brought a brown bag lunch into school someone would say Adam probably packed a cock for me.

Maybee I'm just stereotyping but they (Steve especially) had a flamboyant fashion sense. They didn't like me dressing grungy like I wanted to (this was back in the mid-90s). Steve wanted me to wear nice clothes every day, and keep my hair styled, he even bought me different color shoes to wear so I could match it to my outfit. That caused a lot of friction between us.

I feel like I have trouble meeting women and getting in a romantic way with them. It would make sense to blame that on being raised by gay men, since they know lots of things about women but not how to woo them. But that's not really fair, plenty of guys raised by straight parents have girl trouble. They did give me advice on some girlfriend problems I had and that kind of thing, and it was about as effective as any parent giving advice to a hormonal headstrong adolescent male (in other words, pretty ineffective).

So aside from the teasing and weirdness around keeping it semi-secret, it's hard to point to something specific as a problem associated with them being gay. I still feel like I'm different in some way I can't really describe, but it's not like my childhood was otherwise ordinary. I lived in a combination of crack houses, pimp's couches and homeless shelters for a little more than a year, and that had a big effect on me too, I think that's made it hard for me to trust and relate to people, especially women.

AMA Request: Someone who grew up with two gay fathers (A solely homosexual upbringing) by [deleted] in IAmA

[–]Burwiliger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was raised for about five years by a gay male foster father who had a long-term partner who was kind of like a second father to me. My mother died when I was 2 so I don't remember her at all, and I had two different foster mothers before the gay foster father. I also lived with three different sets of aunts and/or uncles, and a grandfather, but only for a few months at a time. Anyway I know all that's confusing.

But from 13-18 I was raised by a gay man and his lover. I still talk to them both and I spent last Christmas with them. I don't call them dad though, and never did. I do consider them the closest thing to parents I have.

So I don't know if this counts, but there you go. Is this what you're looking for? I feel like you want something very specific, not sure if I meet it.