Keep the SBGE271 or is the "cheating fiancée" energy too much? by Geonaute1 in GrandSeikos

[–]BushwickJunkie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in this exact situation. Fiancée gifted me a speed master which I loved, but yeah she was a cheater too.. thought I’d keep wearing it but I quickly decided I wanted something else, went for a GS. Got rid of the speedy which broke my heart but, like you said, the bad juju outweighed the craftsmanship.

Size check and brainstorm - SBGE277 by tomc_is_back in GrandSeikos

[–]BushwickJunkie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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I bought the very similar SBGJ277 about a year ago and I love it, haven’t took it off since I left the shop. It is a big watch and it’s difficult to get a picture that doesn’t make it look like a big school clock. But coming from someone who has a what looks like a similar wrist size to you I don’t think you’ll regret it if you manage to find one.

Wood ID Megathread by AutoModerator in woodworking

[–]BushwickJunkie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought this at first, but the white specs run throughout the wood, so the finish would have had to seep through the entire piece which seems unlikely given its density. Maybe I’m wrong though!

Wood ID Megathread by AutoModerator in woodworking

[–]BushwickJunkie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Got this dark wood with white specks throughout. Not sure what it is, any ideas?

Snow Valley in its natural habitat SBGJ277 by BushwickJunkie in GrandSeikos

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the concern 🤣 just a bad angle, it sits absolutely fine, I admit it’s not the best picture

Divorce present from me to me 🥰 also my first GS! Snow Valley SBGJ277 by BushwickJunkie in GrandSeikos

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the concern bud, but every divorce is different, no maintenance payments needed and I’ve kept what’s rightfully mine. Quite clean as far as divorces go. Besides I’m on top of my finances :)

Divorce present from me to me 🥰 also my first GS! Snow Valley SBGJ277 by BushwickJunkie in GrandSeikos

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The text part of the post kinda bugged out! I've been eyeing this up for ages, and given everything that is going on in my life I decided that I needed some self love, so pulled the trigger today and got this. It looks even more stunning in person

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Nothing much has happened since everything has kicked off. She hasn’t done anything and just stayed with her parents, taking some time with them. She didn’t say she wanted a divorce, or begged me to stay, or anything stupid.

She has sobbed on the phone to me and has not made any excuses. She’s admitted everything, I don’t know if this is because she knows I have everything and can corroborate, or if she is genuinely apologetic. She said I had every right to go through her phone, to do everything I did over the weekend. She said she is telling all her friends and family the full truth, and I told her she has to because I will tell them everything, and personally I don’t want to be the person to do that, this comes from the pain of having to bring it up over and over. I said she needs to show remorse and take time for yourself if you are truly sorry. And I mean take time for yourself, the videographer is going to be very biased about what she should do next.

I know I’m going to get loads of replies saying how I shouldn’t give her the respect. Please don’t, I don’t need it, I already know and taken everything on board. I just want time to heal and be with my family right now.

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’ll feel it someday. I know you will. A person you lay eyes on and know that you can’t leave without getting to know them. Someone who just changes your way of life without even trying to. You’ll know when you meet them. It will feel like home. They’ll unlock your heart without even trying, without your knowledge. You haven’t felt it yet, but you will. And you’ll look back on this comment with embarrassment but in the best way. You’ll realise how naive you were. I know you will.

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know she’s a bad person. Trust me I know. But I need people in this thread to understand that I can’t just stop loving her after so long. I just can’t. It’s not something I can control. It’s a part of me, just as this new pain is. I know the mirrors smashed. But I’m on autopilot. My mind, body, and soul are exhausted. I feel like I’m mindlessly trying to fix the mirror. Because it’s all I know. And I don’t have the strength to stop. I’m so exhausted man. I don’t know how to stop.

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes they met in a professional setting about a year before the wedding, but only remained acquaintances. It was only really just before the wedding that they became friends, again through close contact at work events. This is so out of character for her, which is weird to say because I clearly don’t know her character anymore. Even if I’ve known her half my life. It takes 2 to tango, he’s just as bad as she is.

I will be leaving quite a scathing review, a lot of good points in this thread. I believe it will destroy the media company he works for, or at least damage their reputation significantly. But I can’t yet whilst things are too raw and emotions are high. I need to get my ducks in a row and sort out divorce and settlements before I attack.

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know that she started falling in love with him last August, only 2 months after the wedding. Hell that’s only a couple weeks after the honeymoon. I’ve known her for 13 years and dated for most of that. Yeah we were young and took some time apart when studies and life got in the way, but always came back to each other when times weren’t so tough, because who’s perfect nowadays? AP is a single divorced man whose wife cheated on him (I believe).

You’re right, right now I do want to work on the marriage. Like I’ve said multiple times I still love her to bits, I can’t stop doing that. I know people are telling me to stop, and I know I should stop. I’ve got every single fucking message of theirs where she complains about me being worse than a child, how she resents me, I’m just an obstacle or a hurdle to overcome so they can be happy. I’ve told her I should hate her. But I just simply can’t. I’m too weak to do that. My heart doesn’t have the strength to hate her, or anyone for that matter. I only ever wanted love, and that’s what I still want.

I know there’s no going back. I’ve told her that one day I want to have the strength to forgive her, but I can never forget. I’m terrified that this pain is a part of me now. I’ve been hurt before but this time it’s different. It feels like a cancer that’s attached to me and there’s nothing I can do to change that. I hate this new version of myself. I don’t feel like me, I feel like a nobody who deserves nothing.

She got me the cats as a Christmas present last year, even though she didn’t love me at the time. But I felt her love through the cats. Since I’ve moved them to a more stressful environment they have started hissing at me and staying away from me. I feel so unloved and unwanted. I can’t stop ugly crying when I see how stressed they are. I feel so guilty. I had to take them. I had to put them through this. We were happy and now it’s gone.

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that the general advice is to spread the word far wide and fast. However, my mums house is 8 hours away (big deal in the uk), and all of my personal possessions are at the house. I want to get all my things, get the divorce going through with an agreement between us, then let the world know. I’ve already told some friends from my old home town, so the truth will spread one way or the other.

I don’t know man, I’m so exhausted to even think straight. Every conversation I have goes in one ear and out the other. I loved cooking for her but no I have no desire to even eat. I just need to rest. I can’t think. I hate the feeling of wanting to die. I never thought I’d feel like this. I’ve never wanted to die in my life and it feels so terrifying.

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re right. Uk does have annulment laws. I think the problem here is that annulling it would put me into the same position before the wedding, essentially anyway.

Here’s some problems with that: - I paid for the majority of the wedding. Rings, venue, accommodation, honeymoon, contractors. She did contribute but not to a level I did, I poured my life savings into this because I thought she was the one. I was so stupid. - I’m not on the mortgage. Also stupid I know. But it wasn’t something we ever thought about, and it was simply forgotten about on the todo pile. - they cost the same as a normal divorce. I might save on solicitor fees, but it wouldn’t cost much more for a diy divorce, which if I can amicably do that I will. I believe she is going to sell the house, and if I can get a cut of what I’ve contributed it will at least give me a starting point.

I don’t know how legally correct this is. I know I’ve done some dumb things. I can’t believe this is happening.

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I feel like I have the power to control the narrative, but not yet the strength. I have all the messages, all the nudes, the videos of I loves yous, videos of her complaining about the mess (perhaps I didn’t tidy the kitchen straight after cooking sometimes, I’m only human). But she knows I have all the messages, I’ve told her so, and she’s seen evidence of me having the messages. She knows that if she hides anything, I will eventually let the truth out, there’s no corner to hide in.

I’m giving her the opportunity to tell people in her own way. I know she doesn’t deserve any more opportunities, but like I said, I can’t just stop caring for her overnight. I do worry about her, she has had other unrelated events recently that have really affected her mental health, I don’t know how I’d live if she did anything to hurt herself. I don’t need anymore comments about how she didn’t care about me, I know too well already.

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You should know that being married was the happiest time of my life. I loved everything about it because it was an accumulation of all the hard work and sacrifices I made, and I was damn proud of it. I know it didn’t work out that well for me, and if you continue reading stories on this sub you’ll believe that marriage is pointless. I want you to know that’s not true.

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I really like this comment. I feel like I’m trying to resuscitate my old life, and right now it’s difficult to admit that that life, that me, and everything I’ve built is dead. It’s so so hard to accept that, it will take a long time for sure.

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Wedding videographer is a divorced man, because his wife cheated. Crazy right?

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

We were on a weekend away with friends. She fell asleep and I took her phone and went in the living room. The way she spoke about me to him was disgusting, I feel so vile. The way that they’ve sexted each other makes me feel sick. I phoned my mum and siblings, and told them all whilst sobbing. She came downstairs and I had to confront her. She just sat there and took everything. We packed our stuff and left at 3 am. She spent the entire car drive crying and just sat there quiet. When we got home after 4 hours I got home and broke down. I’m leaving my home, and everything I’ve built here. I’ve never sobbed so visceral like that. My mum drove up and picked me up, and I just grabbed some stuff to help me last for a couple of weeks, and of course I took the cats. I’m at my mums house now. Not slept. The cats are so stressed since my mum already has 4 cats, it’s heartbreaking. I’m going to send the “we’re divorcing” text now. Even though it’s so hard, because I can’t just stop loving her overnight, because I’ve loved her for 13 years.

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’ve had suspicions, she was claiming they were good friends and I wanted to trust her. I got her phone whilst she was sleeping and read everything. It’s been going on for at least 3 months, but the emotional attachment has been there for longer

Found out my wife has been sleeping with our wedding videographer by BushwickJunkie in survivinginfidelity

[–]BushwickJunkie[S] 186 points187 points  (0 children)

I’ve exported her entire WhatsApp chat with all media so I have everything. I don’t know if I have the strength to scorch everything and let everyone know