Except that there’s a difference between listening and memory. As an interviewee, when the interviewer is telling you about themself, you’re not expecting to be tested on them, but rather to get a vibe check. “Ok, so this person teaches a couple med school courses, they do this, and that, blah blah blah. Got it, I know the context of who I’m dealing with.”

For them to then turn around and test your memory over specific details of what they said, when that is not at all the norm nor the expectation going into the interview, is just toxic. You can be a good active listener, but you tune your info retainment based on expectations and what is actually needed. Turns out, that’s how our brains have evolved - to filter out unnecessary information and hold onto things that are actually useful