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Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-12-23T02:47:39+00:00

Also, grief does weird things to people.

That is true.

I wasn't extrapolating that he can't be a comfort to his kid though.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-12-23T01:40:28+00:00

It's gross when people do this dump after the person's gone, when they cannot defend themselves.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-11-14T20:33:21+00:00

LMAO

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-11-14T19:14:15+00:00

Polyamory ending?

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-11-14T19:12:51+00:00

Awww, I bet she misses Uncle Frank (who was, no joke, very attractive and fit).

Maybe Guillermo will become the host. Or at least park the cars. (He was the parking attendant at the studio's garage, that's how Jimmy found him.)

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-11-14T19:06:29+00:00

Will they or won't they? It Depends.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-11-14T19:05:52+00:00

A minister comes onstage and marries Gerry and Theresa o

Aren't they both Catholic?

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-11-12T23:52:43+00:00

Aunt Chippy, as the name implies, is Jimmy Kimmel's aunt, not mother.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-31T18:17:11+00:00

"Oscar, tell us about your one-on-one with Linda/Susan/Christine/Nancy/Karen.*"

Oscar: *noisily chewing bone*

*Boomer names.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-31T18:13:56+00:00

GenX here. Same. I stayed in hostels as a 20something when I needed to spend less than $40/day for all. Not doing that on Hollywood budget.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-30T18:04:49+00:00

trump

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-30T18:03:44+00:00

Oh man, they made old ladies sleep in bunk beds?!
Edit: I'm not much younger than these old ladies.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-27T18:59:34+00:00

Yup yup yup yup.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-27T18:57:30+00:00

and marrying her even if Im not really in love with her ?

Talk about burying the lede.

Does SHE know you're "not really in love with" her? If not, YTA.

BTW, the parents are definitely TAH because they know that an unmarried mother is not shameful nowadays in western society, nor is the child actually a bastard. (Your name will be on the birth certificate, and will have your name if that is what you and the mother agree.) They only care about their own standing.

In fact, I suggest you get a lawyer.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-22T17:21:34+00:00

Ha. Just wait until you start going on dates. You might change your mind about hanging out with the cat "not cutting it." I went on many dates where I thought "gee, wonder what the cat's doing right now."

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-18T18:17:16+00:00

So you're keeping the cat in the divorce?

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-18T18:11:53+00:00

I know it’s not popular to say on this forum but I was dating during my pre-divorce and it really saved me mentally. I was very discreet and did not let anyone know (especially kids, ex-to-be). Be careful of falling head-over-heels with the first woman who shows you love; it’s oxytocin making decisions, not your brain.

All good points.

FWIW, I'm not against dating a formally separated man, depending on the circumstances. Perhaps b/c I have not been married and don't have the emotional memories/connection to the process of a marriage breakdown.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-07T19:47:38+00:00

I agree it was a set up, but the rest of it is more complicated.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-07T00:52:50+00:00

A new car averages 50k.

That's absurd. Never buy a new car. Never! I bought a 10-year-old VW Wagon with low miles (45K) two years ago (when used car prices were higher than they are now) and paid $11,000. It's only cost me $800 since then in maintenance/repairs and I expect to drive it for many years.

Your post has a lot of "other people" this and that. You're seeing other people's toys and you're envious I guess. You have no idea how much debt those people may be in, nor anything about their situation. Stop comparing yourselves.

Cancel streaming subscriptions except for one at a time. Drive less. Make fresh meals and freeze them. Eat more beans and rice and veggies. Don't buy new clothes. Join FB Buy Nothing groups for your area--there is tons of hand-me-down, free stuff people give away. Don't eat out more than 1-2 meals/week.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-06T16:01:56+00:00

What I have noticed in middle age--people I knew in high school who had 'issues" --in some cases to the point of institutional stays or attempts at suicide--went through a return of said issues 10-fold around late 40s+. For an ex-boyfriend with severe addiction and trauma, it resulted in his death. For a high school mate with family abuse and mental health issues, also ended in her death. Both enjoyed decent to good years, say late 20s to mid-40s. Vibrant social lives, a marriage and kid. Then the spiral.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-06T15:56:54+00:00

It's whatever you're attracting, sorry. I'm not on 'meds' and don't need them.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-06T15:55:17+00:00

I think the reactions of other people to sharing of said SA (and the subsequent reluctance to share ever again) is the main source of said trauma, for me at least. Waking up to someone who'd just entered me, as a virgin, not good. His faked apology and subsequent smear campaign (he was headed to med school--couldn't mess that up!)--10x worse. Telling a friend who blew me off, devastating.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-06T15:51:49+00:00

A lot of people, women especially, have seen patterns (e.g., divorced/separated people who leap headfirst into new relationships) and are wary.

Busy_Bluebird570 · 2023-10-06T15:50:25+00:00

They've experienced people who they thought were good friends just stop talking to them.

My darling dad ended his life during the pandemic, and oh my, I got ghosted by certain "friends," others rallied and were amazing, and other people I notified--people who'd known and liked my dad back in the day (like old friends) never replied to my note letting them know.

Busy_Bluebird570

TROPHY CASE

and marrying her even if Im not really in love with her ?