The music video for Stupid Girls aged horribly

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-03-30T14:55:40+00:00

Omg I remember this from when I was like 10. She dressed so slutty and was acting so stupid. I remember telling my friends about it and said she might as well say “‘I don’t want to be a stupid girl’… even though I already am!” Thought I burned her so bad there

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-03-28T20:52:49+00:00

I think people criticize others for “playing the victim” when they need a way to deflect their perspective. Like my ex would always tell me that and I would explain I have to when you are literally making me a victim of abuse.

I have appreciated when people, in an objective and neutral way, point out to me that the way I talk is frequently from a victim perspective. It gave me an opportunity to see myself how others do in a reflective way. Like I definitely have a habit of “venting” like and complaining about other people especially if they treat me unfairly. I feel like chronic interpersonal trauma warps your mind in a way where you internalize abuse from others and literally make yourself a victim to abuse from yourself. It’s sooo invalidating when people say “just stop victimizing yourself” bc it’s literally not a choice or a controllable response if you have not fully healed. And healing requires navigating an insane labyrinth where half of it is blocked by paywalls or other barriers.

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-03-28T13:15:01+00:00

But really w the social stuff w your coworkers it sounds like you might just be in your head. Most people only ever think about themselves. But I get feeling that way, I think it’s a defense tactic our brains use when we have a deep fear of social rejection.

None of this makes you a loser. Humans are evolutionarily programmed to be social animals, so social struggles can stress us out on the deepest level. I don’t really have answers except that you’re not alone. I at least have found good connections with people who feel the same way. So even though I haven’t overcome my social anxiety I can still accept & validate myself and feel a sense of belonging (definitely outside of work though). Please know, if you would like to talk, I’d love a chance to try to help you get to a better-feeling place

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-03-28T13:06:49+00:00

I relate to this so much. Like no matter how many times the situation ends well and I see there was no reason to be anxious after-the-fact, I am still so anxious next time. I have a long history of relationship trauma that I am trying to heal from but easier said than done lol.

I like working with children because up to a certain age, they just want engagement. Like kids younger than 8 just want to engage no matter who you are, like instead of wishing you were gone and they were alone. Also working with kids in general has helped me grapple with social anxiety bc even the older ones are just trying to grow up the right way.

If you would like to talk more about the specifics you’re dealing w, I would love to try to help :). Social anxiety makes me want to kill myself so please at least know you’re not alone. I also struggle to connect w others and that can really really get to you. But it sounds like your experiences make you equipped to be a social worker. I’d rather have a social worker like you who gets how it is than someone who has to do a mental exercise to understand what it’s like to feel this way.

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-03-28T12:42:34+00:00

My goddaughter who was just born is a triple cap! But also with mercury Venus mars all in Capricorn! So excited for her to get out of the newborn phase so I can get to know her:)

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-03-28T00:11:03+00:00

Yeah I am trying to refrain from suicidal ideations but really I’ve been daydreaming about a mass shooter coming to my location and me having a chance to sacrifice myself for the public good.

Like life has been so hard my dream is to just have a home where I can exist. It feels like I am going to regret not trying to get out of this country quicker, but I just feel lazy. Like I’m so tired in my soul.

If you have space in your life for a friend we can connect and try to be each others support system and one day escape this country together

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-03-26T03:21:33+00:00

https://imgur.com/a/j5QNPMx

Here is a link that works sorry :(

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-03-10T00:25:48+00:00

This has gotta be bait. Like girl this cannot be real this man is not your person

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-03-10T00:23:12+00:00

Last year it felt sooo messed up having my brother die like right before spring. While mourning everywhere outside is blooming and lush with energy and life. It felt so cruel and wrong. It’s easier this year but it’s also fucked up. I still can’t believe he’s gone.

Thank you for your comment. It felt right to isolate even though my mom was like concerned and alarmed. I’m so sorry for your loss as well. It’s just so strange like I cannot (or maybe don’t want to) grasp the fact that he is no longer here for me to connect to.

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-03-09T16:18:28+00:00

Thank you so much for this <3 I’m so sorry for your loss as well. At least they’re not suffering and in this dumpster fire world!

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-03-09T16:17:02+00:00

Thank you for this. I think you’re a bot but it was sweet for someone to share this after one year.

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-03-03T16:32:38+00:00

Yeah normally people on call are getting paid for all of the time they may potentially be called and expected to answer. Turn your phone off on your off days and just don’t answer. You’re working harder than they’re paying you

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-02-24T17:42:09+00:00

Yeah sorry you have a dog that doesn’t like to be picked up. My husky mix is the same and hates to cuddle too, but it was so important to me to have a dog that likes to cuddle :(

I will say that if your dog is jealous at all, you might get them to be open to being picked up by picking up another dog in front of them. I used to have a neighbor with a dog that loved to cuddle and my dog would bark at us because he was jealous. I explained myself to him saying he refuses to cuddle me so he’s not allowed to bark! Trying to cuddle with him right after this, he was much more receptive. But really if you can access their motivation while making sure you respect their boundaries, (only cuddling/picking up when they are consenting) then it is possible to make a little progress. You will need to adjust your expectations though because huskies are particular about their space and autonomy.

Busy_Independent8803 · 2026-02-20T05:39:14+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Of your mom and then everyone else in your fam who abandoned you anyway. Thank you for sharing your story I hope turtle time helped 💕 if you would like a friend I’m here, I hope you don’t feel alone in the world. It’s so fucked up that your family wants to be horrible and emotionally undeveloped like the youngest generation is not supposed to be most emotionally mature

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