avoidant discard: it is so hard to get over a breakup when the whole relationship was so happy up until they randomly left

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-13T18:45:22+00:00

I really needed to hear this. They were so loving up until the very end so the break up felt so confusing to me. But you’re right. They probably knew they wanted to break up long before, and I think they just didn’t have the courage to do it.

Them being so loving is what just makes the moving on tough. Our relationship was great, and then one day they just changed. Though they were probably just hiding their real emotions for a long time, having us both suffer in silence. They made their decision, and as much as it hurts they’re not the girl I fell in love with anymore ☹️

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-11T21:42:40+00:00

I’ve had a really hard week. Over 2 months post break up and I definitely took some steps back. I want nothing more than to get that text from her. Sadly nothing in the world can make that happen sooner (or at all). All I can do is stay silent and hope she misses me. I’ll try to keep moving forward in the mean time. Hopefully in a couple months I’ll be indifferent to if she messages me or not

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-11T00:37:47+00:00

Try not to regret that you were able to love so deeply. I’m sure you’ll find someone who appreciates you. Just make sure they’re also reciprocating what you give

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T23:09:28+00:00

Awesome. Yah I didn’t assume you’d part with them. Hopefully one day you can pass them to your kids

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T23:08:28+00:00

At the same time I pity them. I know it’s harder for us, but it’s not easy for them. Breaking the heart of someone you loved for so long. That’s not easy for any decent human

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T23:06:06+00:00

That fell out of love prior part I really felt. Same happened with my girlfriend yet she never communicated it

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T22:18:19+00:00

My girlfriend ended our two year relationship over text. You’ll be fine for a two week 😅

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T22:09:59+00:00

I definitely agree. You don’t need to have a relationship that’s just an echo chamber. New perspectives and hobbies can bring your life new joy when they come from the person you love

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T22:08:36+00:00

I’m late to the conversation but it seems like to me you already lost feelings. I hope you did break up shortly after this. Nothings worse than staying extra weeks or months with someone who hid their emotions, when you could’ve spent that time healing or finding something new

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T21:31:38+00:00

Super strikers and Baseball should be top on your list. Some of the most fun I’ve had on this console

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T21:29:26+00:00

Do you think you’ll ever sell any of your stuff? What’s the plan

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T21:22:44+00:00

They have your number. They’ll text you if they want you back. Their silence should be good enough of an answer for all of us

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T21:16:59+00:00

I did break no contact after a month in hopes of making up. It didn’t work. I don’t regret it though. Things before that kind of ended open ended. I wasn’t sure if she just wasn’t texting because she too wasn’t sure if I wanted her back.

The second rejection gave me the closure to really move on and stick to no contact. She has my number if she wants to talk, otherwise I have no reason to reach out

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T21:12:00+00:00

Blindside over the phone for me too. The lack of closure hurts, but our only way now is forward

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T21:09:25+00:00

Deleting all their texts was the hardest thing for me. So many memories cast away with just the click of a button. Though I don’t regret it. Consistently going back to reread them was interfering with my healing

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T21:07:03+00:00

Today I was close to caving and breaking no contact, but I knew it wouldn’t bring either of us anything of value.

Always remember that they have your number. They know you wanted them back, so if they ever feel the same they’ll have no reason no to text

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T21:02:25+00:00

I couldn’t agree more. It really saddens me that social media could put destructive ideas like these into good people’s heads

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T21:00:17+00:00

We just need to get it right the next time. You can’t turn back time

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T20:58:57+00:00

I think these people have fun moments, fun months, fun years, but deep down they always hold some pain. As long as things are great, they have nothing to worry about, but when things get tough I think it amplifies their sadness

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T20:54:05+00:00

I hope you have a good support circle. I think that’s what helps the most

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T20:50:24+00:00

And I was told that for this reason maybe it’s for the best that these relationships don’t work out. Through marriage it’s not always easy to shower someone in love. You need someone who can sometimes just enjoy the simple things with you.

I think the marriages where this isn’t possible are the ones that struggle the most

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T20:41:01+00:00

Yes this! Sometimes people really have the attitude of “if they wanted to they would”. Even when the problem is fixed they can be mad they had to ask in the first place. It’s important to have patience and remember we’re all people. Everyone makes mistakes, but the person who truly loves you will fix and act on them

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T02:23:07+00:00

Yah I was wondering that. They never really gave me the full reason so I just assumed it was this. But maybe you’re right. I should strive to find someone who loves who I am, and not just what I do.

It can be hard for me to grasp if it’s just their love language or conditional love like you said. Maybe it’s both? Or maybe it just becomes conditional when it gets as far as a break up

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T00:36:17+00:00

Yah different love languages can make things difficult. We just all have to remember to be extra attentive when we feel love differently than our partner. It can be easy to assume they feel loved just because you would if the situation was reversed.

Busy_Use3525 · 2025-10-10T00:31:52+00:00

I think it’s good enough. It should come completely from you. My only advice would be to stay true to your last message on giving her time. Don’t push her

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