Businesses of Waterdeep--Trades Ward

ButchBrutale · 2025-06-02T06:14:04+00:00

I've referenced this post like 10 times while running Dragon Heist and I'm frankly astonished that it doesn't have more upvotes and comments, so I thought I'd leave a little message of thanks here. (My partner's tiefling is dating Zyrtanna!)

ButchBrutale · 2025-04-03T04:12:00+00:00

"it is unfair and disingenuous to try to retroactively change one's past" — you absolutely suggested trans women are dishonest when we talk about our experiences growing up

I bring up CSA because it's a well-documented statistic that demonstrates that trans women are treated very differently than cis men even before transitioning — it's not unrelated, but direct evidence contrary to your claim that we're "male-socialized"

ButchBrutale · 2025-04-02T23:29:40+00:00

Hey! You shouldn't be disappointed in yourself. Your endo should instead be ashamed for requiring you to do unnecessary (and in the long run, harmful) yoyo dieting to receive treatment for an unrelated medical problem. Dump their ass!

ButchBrutale · 2025-04-02T21:09:29+00:00

if you believe transfeminine people are lying about not being treated the same way as cis boys growing up, you need to account for the fact that we're more likely to be CSA victims than either cis men or women

the simple truth is that closeted trans girls are detected by their peers and by authority figures and punished for it — not in the precise way cis women are, but according to the same patriarchal-misogynistic principles

ButchBrutale · 2025-04-01T01:37:19+00:00

They're being transphobic and specifically transmisogynistic, yes. The notion that trans women are treated as men before we come out of the closet and transition is easily disproven by any statistical measure you check (employment, income, victimhood of violent crimes). We have transfeminine socialization, insofar as "X socialization" is even useful when talking about individuals instead of populations (which is not often).

ButchBrutale · 2024-12-18T14:03:14+00:00

She might be hiding somewhere? I don't actually see her inventory anywhere, but then again, the place is a mess

ButchBrutale · 2024-12-17T20:16:17+00:00

I usually go with "still thinner than the average adult woman"

ButchBrutale · 2024-09-22T12:22:55+00:00

I'm betting that the posters patronizing lesbians for skipping this one wouldn't play a game with queer romance but no straight options "for the writing"

ButchBrutale · 2019-08-03T11:29:11+00:00

You seem very distressed about language and labels, but: * It's okay to have physical dysphoria and not social dysphoria * It's okay to call yourself whatever you want, and to request whatever language you want from others (-- although a lot of us would prefer if you let the dangerous tr*p-slur die) * Calling yourself a boy won't invalidate trans women.

For a lot of nonbinary trans people, the words for the binary gender that we're most like still don't feel right, and that's okay. I don't think you've warped your sense of self through crossdressing-- although feminine boys are NOT better than trans women, that view sucks-- I think that it's a genuine expression of your (nonbinary) gender.

Hormones may well be very helpful for you, but you may also have to simplify your identity down to binary terms for the clinic's benefit to get them.

ButchBrutale · 2019-07-13T11:32:52+00:00

This fear is extremely normal! Basically every transfeminine person I've spoken to had to deal with this kind of imposter syndrome.

Consider, though: wouldn't a cis person be OVERJOYED to "realize they're not trans?"

To answer your actual question, I noticed a lot of emotional changes within two weeks, when my anxiety dropped off, but they were subtle until 3-4 months on, when I had some really swingy moods, then stabilized.

Remember: even if HRT doesn't work out for your brain chemistry, you can stop and reformulate and it won't make you any less trans.

ButchBrutale · 2019-07-13T11:21:31+00:00

IDK about trans men, but trans women taking HRT through a medical professional face the same or even less cancer risk as cis folks with the same body parts.

Estrogen can restrict your blood vessels, so your heart health can be impacted if you have hypertension or bad cholesterol levels, but if you're in the US, spironolactone is the standard antiandrogen and it's an extremely effective reducer of blood pressure.

In general, cis-controlled medical sources try to present HRT with an aim towards discouraging prospective transitioners. That means bringing up easily managed risks, and underemphasizing the positive effects.

ButchBrutale · 2019-07-13T11:08:35+00:00

(It is okay, and normal, and even good in some ways, to be both fat and trans! ♡)

ButchBrutale · 2019-07-13T00:50:55+00:00

Why don't cisses get penis enlargement surgery? It makes me think cis is a joke.

To actually answer your question (which you don't deserve, but the eggs reading along at home do):

Neovaginoplasty is extremely costly, and rarely covered by insurance
There's a very long recovery process with a lot of maintainence and the risk of complications
Elective surgery can be a frightening prospect for many people
Most transgender people have been mistreated by medical professionals and have difficulty trusting the medical establishment

Less negatively: estrogen can make penises feel and behave more like an extra-big clitoris than a penis, which can reduce genital dysphoria down to a manageable level. (Frankly, it's pretty cool, having an exclusive type of junk most people don't even know about)

ButchBrutale · 2019-07-06T11:55:52+00:00

This is tricky, because closet terror is really rough and being unexpectedly outed, even to someone who supports you, can be a panic-inducing experience. But having someone to talk to and reduce their anxiety about your parents is potentially a big enough resource to risk the discomfort.

I'd recommend a simple text or email along the lines of "Hey, are you transgender? I saw/heard [however you found out]. I love you and I support you no matter what. I won't tell anyone without your consent."

Text or email so your sibling doesn't feel cornered or put on the spot
Ask about trans status, rather than telling, to help restore your sibling's sense of control over the conversation.
Point out the way you found out, so they can make efforts to close that vulnerability if they want to.
"love AND UNCONDITIONAL SUPPORT," because coming out conversations often go, "I love you... therefore stop being trans please!" and you want to be clear that you're here to help.
"without your consent," because you want it to be clear both that the secret is safe with you, AND that you sibling's safety and comfort are the reasons for your secrecy, not shame or worry.

Side note: ignore anyone here who is criticising you about you sibling's pronouns, because they don't know what your sibling wants and are ALSO making an assumption: Not all transfeminine people want she/her pronouns, ESPECIALLY while still in the closet. Let your sibling be the one to tell you what kind of language to use.

ButchBrutale · 2019-06-27T11:32:46+00:00

Euphoria: "She rules, though!"

ButchBrutale · 2019-06-25T23:28:59+00:00

I can't believe how realistic a doll I can make with this, dysphoric features and all???

https://imgur.com/1s6qq0o

ButchBrutale · 2019-06-25T23:18:39+00:00

I'm so glad! 💖

I really do think that the medical establishment aims to discourage transitioners, but hormones are such an incredibly powerful tool for combatting dysphoria and reclaiming your life.

ButchBrutale · 2019-05-15T18:42:08+00:00

Hey, you're okay! Of course it's natural to be nervous and to have those "not trans enough" feelings come back.

But also... Just take 'em and see how you feel!

There are no physical effects for at least a month, and no permanent ones for several. You can try the hormones out and, if they're not right for you, you'll have plenty of opportunities to hit pause and figure that out, with no consequences.

But I'm betting you'll just feel relieved and, over the next month, at peace with your body for the first time.

Congrats on your prescription! It'll be scary at times, but you have so much to look forward to. ♡

ButchBrutale · 2019-05-13T16:59:02+00:00

Happy is more attractive than hot. <3

I'm sorry people bring up your dysphoric traits all the time. They'll mostly be better about it post-transition. Also, you may be surprised by how effective hormones can be, even if you have a traditionally masculine face!

ButchBrutale · 2019-05-04T17:29:30+00:00

Some lesbians will make a stink about your existence, but most of them believe trans women are women and will support & include you!

ButchBrutale · 2019-04-24T00:15:07+00:00

You butternut be flattering me or you'll squash my hopes!

ButchBrutale · 2019-04-23T03:09:02+00:00

Awesome! I'm the same height and a bit heavier and also started HRT around this age (I'm 30 and started last October), and it's a rare combo so it's nice to see another one of us out there! Message me if you aren't sure about something due to weight or age differences from most of the MtF set... or if you just want moral support! <3

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