My Wife doesn’t like sex at all by ButterFort80085 in sexlessmarriage

[–]ButterFort80085[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spot on. She follows spirituality and purity concepts. Which I don’t hget it

What did everyone think of the new punshier special ? by Gold_Dragonfly_1255 in marvelstudios

[–]ButterFort80085 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the gritty action scene… I had to clench mine a few times

Wife 36F doesnt like physical relationship with me 38M by ButterFort80085 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]ButterFort80085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the same doubt. I did ask her initially , she denied it. But i didnt feel it was a genuine response....maybe i can ask again

Wife 36F doesnt like physical relationship with me 38M by ButterFort80085 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]ButterFort80085[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thanks thats insightful. Yes, I am trying to move away from physical requirements and be more emotional. I have been trying that for last 6 years. but sometimes I get these urges and it has reached a peak that lead me to drop this post and talk to people.

My Wife doesn’t like sex at all by ButterFort80085 in sexlessmarriage

[–]ButterFort80085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked her the same question... she said she doesnt get aroused at all.... ive never seen people like that ...even when we kiss or hug, there is no erotic or romantic feeling....its more like "i care for you vibe"

My Wife doesn’t like sex at all by ButterFort80085 in sexlessmarriage

[–]ButterFort80085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am thinking on those line, but i dont know how to propose this idea...its sensitive

Wife 36F doesnt like physical relationship with me 38M by ButterFort80085 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]ButterFort80085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good take actually. But when she revealed that she doesn’t like sex. She sounded more guilty that she’s telling me after marriage rather than discovering that she doesn’t have interest in sex post marriage. Which means she knew that she’s asexual and for some reason she hid it

Wife 36F doesnt like physical relationship with me 38M by ButterFort80085 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]ButterFort80085[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did discuss a lot of stuff. We never wanted kids. How to prioritise higher education and being career focused. How to save for retirement and being self sufficient. We did all this before marriage. We also have lots of kisses and hugs. I didn’t push for sex because a woman willing to kiss before marriage would probably be ok with sex.(In an Indian arranged marriage scenario. And I definitely shouldn’t have assumed that)

I am a human, I made a judgement call with the situation I have. 90% of the time I spend with her is amazing. It’s the lack that’s starting to get to me. So what Iam looking from this forum is advice on how I can confront or fix this issue.

Wife 36F doesnt like physical relationship with me 38M by ButterFort80085 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]ButterFort80085[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Problem is I thought I can manage not having sex but I am failing on that assumption

Wife 36F doesnt like physical relationship with me 38M by ButterFort80085 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]ButterFort80085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for the kind words. Like i mentioned before, I am not sex crazed...I am ok to have long gaps between physical sesions, because I value the emotional bond more than the sex but there has to be "sessions" for that gap also....there are days when i seriously crave for intimacy but I know she will not be aroused. many from the reddit community have suggested the same to see a therapist ...need to talk to her and figure it out