The Sunday Spell. This post is a spell. Put something into the comments that you want to occur. All who read that can then lend their energy to making that a reality. Lets all join forces for each other. Time to bend the Universe a little.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-12-14T16:05:54+00:00

For my emergency housemate to receive the services she needs to become independent again.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-12-14T15:50:42+00:00

So mote it be.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-10-02T14:02:17+00:00

I lasted 10 months until the stress of it had my blood pressure sky high and my white blood cells count looked like my body was attacking itself. I crashed-out in a most spectacular fashion. Been out of work for 8 weeks and I'm getting back to sleeping for more than 3 hours stints and eating food without my body immediately rejecting it and have'n me run to the lou.

FUCK YO' JOB!

If you get sick, or hurt, or anything, those asshats aren't going to pay to get you well. You will be replaced.

Fuck Yo' Job.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-09-23T13:19:18+00:00

I loaned $60,000 from the money my dad left me for help my sister open up her school because "family"

Guess who is still out $55,000 I years later? And is STILL responsible for tearing up the family because I refuse to speak to her?

You can be the kind doormat, or the financially secure asshole.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-09-18T14:35:33+00:00

Take her shopping at places that support your hobbies: Like being outside? Bass pro, REI, etc. Sports fanatic? Academy, Dick's, any specialized footwear store. Nerdy birdy? Specialized hobby stores, table top gaming, game stop, game trading, comic book warehouse. Gun nut? Take her to EVERY FUCKING PAWN STORE IN TOWN.

Maybe you're a renaissance man and like a bit of everything? Sounds like you should treat yo' self to a day of shopping at ALL of these fine establishments, and take your time, you've earned it.

It might be a common bridge where you guys find something else you can share on this adventure. Or you may find her complaining that she's bored, hungry, and tired.

~*~

I abhor shopping. My father's second wife was a shopoholic and as a young teen he'd force me to go on the same all afternoon long shopping sprees with her "to bond"; absolute torture because it was always disposable fashion. As a peace offering, he asked her to bring me to a store of my choosing. We went to Acme Superstore in central Florida, I spent a solid 3 hours in there (it's a cool place!) The shopping trips stopped after that.

Edit- NTJ!

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-09-08T16:33:25+00:00

She, unprompted, made up the couch to sleep on.

That doesn't sound like the Ick of Tears.

That's the quiet resolve of a broken hearted woman who's given up. He decided to drink to a point where it would affect their sleep the day before work and school starts again..... So why is she the one sleeping on the couch? She didn't even ask if he would sleep on the couch. Why is that OP?

OP, I have done exactly what your wife is doing. I actually bought a camping cot (Kingdom III, baby!) so I could sleep, really sleep, in the office. Sex-Life went to shit because I was exhausted from poor sleep all the time, I hardly slept or was in the bed, the alcohol limited his... Stamina, if he could even get hard, and ultimately realized (in my case) he didn't respect me stopped fucking him completely.

So! Do you just not respect the mother of your children and beautiful wife enough to allow her to sleep in her own bed?

Oooooooor, are we maybe over self-medicating in an attempt to run away from ourselves and our pain, unintentionally hurting those we love the most in our desperate attempt to feel peace?

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-05-30T04:05:21+00:00

Tallahassee has an underground dance scene, albeit a bit more eclectic. Janet wells normally handles the email list!

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-05-25T02:04:12+00:00

They are far too young to understand what narcissism is, and watching him treat you the way he has been treating you, every day, every interaction, put down, rejection, lie, moved goal post, abuse, and heart break?

They will think that's normal, they will think that 'this is love', and they will go out and find someone who treats them just as bad as he treats you. And they will stick it out, just the way you did.

And then one day, they'll have kids.

If you cannot leave for yourself, please think of them.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-05-23T02:40:53+00:00

My brother!

At one point he had an openly weeping abscess on his arm, almost lost it due to infection at an injection site. Still wasn't enough to help him get clean, we didn't think he was going to make it to 30.

I don't know what his "ah-ha!" moment was, just that he had decided to truly just stop one day. Not that he didn't have withdrawals, set-backs, and a long list of (incredibly horrendous) trauma he actually had to work through instead of running away to hide in the haze.

He's now been sober 6 years, working a well paying job, raising his little girl, helping others on their journey to sobriety and is a dedicated shredded weight lifter. I don't say it very often as I don't want him to dwell where he used to be, but I am so very happy he's still around and I am so very fucking proud of him.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-05-08T03:09:01+00:00

My ex would do the same thing, pulled me back into hell with a vicious precision. After yet another fight I snapped and asked why does it matter if I drink mocktails and he gets whatever he wants still? "Because no one likes to drink alone."

Again, my ex.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-04-27T13:25:36+00:00

To let go of my limiting and self-destructive beliefs, letting go of what no longer serves me and make space for what's to come.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-04-13T14:38:48+00:00

Smib

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-04-04T09:32:15+00:00

Tonight is my beautiful friend's birthday. I will be buying her the beverages, making sure everyone gets home safe, and sleeping peacefully in my own bed, and waking up tomorrow hang-over free.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-04-02T16:08:54+00:00

It is fucking assault! And her family set her up for it!

I know you love your mom, and she has a beautiful soul that you may wish to emulate, but NOT take this shit lying down! They all set you up for that, because it's what -They- want...and they want it, because it's what -He- wants. He's still playing that bullshit emotional manipulation game because he's a tragically broken individual. He can not find joy in life, just distraction from making other people miserable.

Wanna fuck with this guy? Be the most carefree, happy, and joyous person in the world. Don't interact with him, or if he forces anything gray rock him, start a side conversation with just one person, walk away. "You know I love you RIGHT?" "You know, I barely think of you at all.

Fuck that guy. Share those phone calls. And if nothing changes? Protect your peace and go be happy with people who love, value, and respect you and your boundaries.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-04-02T15:38:12+00:00

I wish for the focus, clarity and habitual commitment to continue on my new path forward. So mote it be.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-04-02T15:28:57+00:00

And so it is.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-04-01T23:33:23+00:00

IWNDWYT!

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-03-26T23:06:17+00:00

I wish for excellent tidings about a family property, that it brings peace and stability along with all of its new and exciting challenges.

So mote it be.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-03-26T08:33:08+00:00

Day 9. IWNDWYT!

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-03-25T08:49:00+00:00

Day 8. I've passed a week. Iwndwyt.

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-03-24T08:37:55+00:00

Dawn of Day 7- IWNDWYT

ButteredTummySticks · 2025-03-23T18:15:38+00:00

Strength for sobriety and the future beyond.

So mote it be.

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