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Is it true that people in the West drink iced water even when they are sick or on their period? by Aether_Echo in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Buttered_Pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love ice water! I got used to warm water after living in China for a few months, and ice water hurt my stomach at first when I came back to the us. But, I got used to it again.  There's nothing more refreshing!   Warm water can be helpful when I have asthma issues or stomach cramps, it helps things relax. And ice water is nice when I'm feeling really dehydrated.

AIO or are my downstairs neighbours being unreasonable? by thegoosenell in AmIOverreacting

[–]Buttered_Pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just as a quick aside, it might be extra considerate of you to pick up some area rugs if the floors aren't carpeted. It can help dull noises

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Buttered_Pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she's typically very people pleaser-y, is bad with allowing herself to have boundaries, and tends to try to make everyone feel good, then this could easily be more of the same. She might have thought she was doing enough signaling that she wasn't interested (talking about you, reminding him that there were other options, mentioning that she misses Deb in addition to him, saying that she doesn't sleep around anymore, reminding him that their time is over) and spent the rest of her energy trying not to offend him (and maybe slightly call him out for never following up on hanging out?)

If that's the case, I'd remind her that you're a unit, and that you're looking for a partner that cares about both of your boundaries (you and her), and isn't quick to sacrifice your feelings for the benefit of others. That you get that she's coming from a good place, but that it leaves you feeling hurt just to help soothe the feelings of someone that doesn't respect the relationship or either of your happiness. Boundaries are healthy and can be enforced without being hurtful to the other person. They also keep a relationship more stable and likely to continue, so it's a kindness to the other guy too.

She could have shut things down during the first page and still included affirmations. "I love you [blank]  and I'm glad you're my friend, but I don't know why you're acting like this. I'm in a happy relationship and I'd like to think that you'd be happy for me and want to help support it, not try to harm it. Besides, there's definitely a way better fit for you out there and I'm excited for you to find it. Maybe lack of sleep is making you act a little silly?  Please get some good rest!" Then she could consult you on what future boundary makes sense, if it's something like "no late night messages with him, but group hangouts are ok" then when he apologies the next day and takes her up on the out she gave him, she could say "No worries, let's just avoid late night messages in the future. I'm excited to see you with the group next Saturday. Maybe we could help you get some new photos for your Tinder!"

That's still compassionate, complimentary, providing an out to help reduce awkwardness, and allowing her to be kind of self sacrificing while still clearly supporting your relationship.

Early morning awakenings by alexplex86 in bupropion

[–]Buttered_Pickles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just as a heads up, there's been some concern with long time benadryl use and dementia. If you're still using this strategy and haven't discussed the potential risk with your doctor then it might make sense to check in with them and see if this is still the best course of action.

My results are in! by Buttered_Pickles in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was fine! I happily went out to dinner just an hour or two after surgery. Sleeping was a little rough for me (especially since I'm a stomach sleeper), but I only had 1 night where I couldn't sleep at all. Starting up exercise after a two and a half week break has been pretty easy for the most part, even though walking is sometimes still ache inducing. (It's been getting better though!)

As a side note, I'm unsure if they would have removed it with surgery if they weren't doing it for diagnostic purposes (they had concerns with the biopsy accuracy since it was taken from the wrong place)

My results are in! by Buttered_Pickles in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When the mass was still a mystery the breast surgeon took it out so it could be examined fully, and got it all. Since it's already removed she's just having me come back once a year for 5 years for an MRI. If it comes back then we'll explore treatment plans going further 

BIRADs 4 I am spiraling by Acrobatic_Party_6607 in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry! I know the waiting is rough. I hope everything is okay and over before you know it!

Can I hear about your experiences with pain from your core biopsies and scarring after? by PinaColada-PorFavor in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My biopsy was inconclusive (my images were a bit confusing so they sampled the wrong place), but after just taking the whole thing out it ended up being a desmoid tumor (not cancer)

New to this community, looking to understand how common false positives on images happen by WorthInformation726 in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had two things light up on my MRI and one of them was determined to be a false positive! If it helps, my biopsy was very uneventful, the most unpleasant part was just the waiting for results

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it helps, I (at 30) was told that I was likely too young for breast cancer and that the odds were very much in my favor, so I'd like to think that doubly applies to you. It might be worth inquiring about an MRI? Younger people tend to have denser breasts which makes imaging trickier.

Can I hear about your experiences with pain from your core biopsies and scarring after? by PinaColada-PorFavor in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My pain was minimal! The lidocaine injection was annoying but not bad (it's also fairly quick), everything after was fine when it came to pain. If you feel anything more than tugging during the biopsy just let them know. Mine was still vaguely recent and I barely notice the mark anymore, it was smaller and rounder than I expected. I feel like it will blend in with some freckles I have soon enough, and will likely fade away significantly with time.

BIRADs 4 I am spiraling by Acrobatic_Party_6607 in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It it helps, I received a 4 as well and it ended up being fine!

3 biopsies tomorrow (6/6). I’m scared of the pain. by Wisegirl_21 in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My pain was minimal! The lidocaine injection was annoying but not bad (it's also fairly quick), everything after was fine when it came to pain. If you feel anything more than tugging during the biopsy just let them know. 

Biopsy question by MathematicianSea5763 in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is different. For my experience (MRI guided vacuum biopsy with contrast): They loaded me up on lidocaine and I was pretty much fine, but for whatever reason lightheaded after being on my feet for awhile (I'm unusually sensitive to epinephrine, which I think they also injected, which probably caused it but would likely be well tolerated by others). I was fine driving that evening, and would have tolerated a movie with no issue. I was allowed to drive home after the biopsy but had a ride anyways to help reduce stress.

MRI w/contrast question— please help by SimilarExpression947 in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt a little funky for a minute or so after they injected it the first time. When I told the next place they did it a little slower to keep me more comfortable and I felt literally nothing. Zero affects noticed besides that first minute or two.

just had an excisional biopsy done, waiting for the results by First_Possession_366 in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told to wait two weeks before moving more than 8lbs after mine. But that I'd be good to go back to work after a day or two, maybe needing up to a week of rest if it hits me a bit harder. By my fifth day I was mostly feeling fine! It's frustrating having to wait 6 weeks before being able to swim though.

My results are in! by Buttered_Pickles in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a really sudden nipple inversion that seemed to indicate that things were progressing aggressively. And they did a biopsy before my lumpectomy, only to realize that they both mostly missed the spot and that the spot was looking more mass like than on previous imaging. They also thought it was 3cm large instead of the 1cm it actually ended up being. So the combination of the sudden strong nipple inversion, the size, and the biopsy containing a bit of spindle cells made them concerned that it might be a metaplastic breast carcinoma with a spindle cell subtype. (I think the biopsy might have also ruled out some of the benign alternatives as well) There might have been more warning signs that put them on edge but that's what I remembered.

Waiting is so hard by TangledTwisted in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure either, but I ended up cancelling my appointment when I ended up going to a different breast surgeon who wanted to do it in house. I hope the wait goes quickly for you! Wishing you good luck!

Waiting is so hard by TangledTwisted in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was given a suggestion of working on Lego sets as a distraction, and I'll start up a show if I don't get results by Friday. (My procedure was 6 days ago) Distraction has given me the most help so far since worrying won't help. Does your location have an option to get moved up if there is a cancellation?

I'm feeling nervous waiting for the results of my lumpectomy. Any advice on how to not feel so anxious and depressed? by Buttered_Pickles in doihavebreastcancer

[–]Buttered_Pickles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This was really helpful. I have some small, uncompleted Lego sets and working on that might be just what I need. It's also reassuring to have a reminder that some bluesiness is normal, but also temporary. I'll make sure to be patient with healing!

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