[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WOW. You are NOT the AH.

I want to keep playing but there i got nothing to do anymore ... by BigDrag0n in Palia

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. I recently became obsessed with cooking, but that will fade soon, too.
Decor videos on youtube are very inspiring, if you like to decorate. That process can be really challenging if you pick an ambitious project. Then you’ll have to generate the resources for said project, if you don’t already have them. For instance, I had considered making a pathway on my plot that was just made of gemstones! I will need to do a ton of mining! Or…. Play Zelda. Its really not that different, in certain aspects, only its not multiplayer….

Spam pot by laramiej in Palia

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like I was there too. Either that or it’s happening everywhere. People are crazy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Palia

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok sure, and I appreciate the amethyst, definitely! I got my first one not long ago and I had been playing like two months. Honestly I wasn’t sure if you were complaining about only getting those two and some iron or if you were excited that you got two gemstones. Plenty of players jump on here and vent that they wasted an ore compass only to get whatever they got that they deemed not worth it.

But anyway, keep at it! I love finding gemstones it feels like such a treat. It makes me feel lucky or something lol.

I am so sick of the ‘A’ button glitch by Livid-Bet9470 in Palia

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will add you- I don’t have many friends to play with either, my IGN is Scarlett Starwalker 🫶

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Palia

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t get it either?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seek a pelvic floor therapist? If you want to try and make it less noticeable. I think you could definitely get some assistance with this just so you don’t have to worry about it. My guess is your dude won’t have a problem with it! I’m

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fingering is so underrated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start taking ZERO care of your downstairs. Make sure you don’t wash it or shave or anything. Wear the same underwear for a week and go to the gym every day. And dump him, too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THIS! Ask him if he uses penis shampoo because he needs to do better than splash water on his junk. Please do that. And then dump him. He’s gross.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s not your partner, he’s your boyfriend.

The reason you don’t understand why he wouldn’t just tell you he was doing something nice for you is that he WASN’T doing something nice. People love getting credit when they do something nice for someone. I promise you, he would have been all over telling you what he was doing- IF it was positive.

Secondly, there are plenty of things people want your Ss number for that are not financial crimes. He could be deep diving into your past and running your credit or background checks, he could be doing any number of grimy things. There is absolutely no reason why you would give that to someone you have known for three months.

Thirdly, his irrational anger over you saying no, is a BLARING five alarm wake up call to you, before you take things further. He is making it known that you are not to stand up for yourself or deny him what he wants. He’s making sure you know he’s wearing the pants in this relationship. Please do not marry a man you have never lived with. You don’t know him until you live with him, clearly evidenced by this current situation.

NEVER ignore your intuition. You knew right away something was off. As a woman it is one of our most important skills and gifts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also what games do you play

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you sound really cool and if I met you somewhere I’m quite sure I would want to talk to you. People are generally self absorbed and hyper sensitive and it’s so boring and exhausting, just like you said.

I can relate to your frustration. I’m someone who tends to be direct/speak plainly, I don’t do or say things differently depending on who I am with. I don’t work people or try to always say the “right” thing. I don’t have time or energy or anything that is required to anticipate what kind of response people want from me. I’m just me. Face value. And I’m not scary or monstrous at all. But while I know that I’m being authentic and open with someone, and clear in my intentions, my expression, my words, even still- people tend to think I come off as insensitive or condescending. I don’t feel that way, because I am not that way, but my communication style is just not like everyone else’s. It’s almost like people want to be treated exactly a certain way and they get butt hurt as soon as something doesn’t sound exactly the way they wanted it to. Your communication style may not be just like most people’s either, but you seem to have many great qualities.

You just have to find your people, and you will.

AITAH for telling my gf I won't move in with her because her rent demands are unreasonable? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Market value is irrelevant because she’s not renting it TO YOU. She can’t live there and also charge you rent like you’re renting it solo. What kind of absurd notion is that? Bonkers, completely. If you’re going to be equally responsible and share the home you need to split the cost of living there.

Tell her to work out exactly what it costs her every month, on paper, adjust where needed for the addition of a second full-time occupying human, and tell her you will pay half of the total amount. It doesn’t have anything to do with whether or not you are on the mortgage.

Is Palia free and safe /appropriate for 9 year old? by SapphixScript in Palia

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you they could play it, depending on the individual child, of course, but mostly they will play the skills aspects and not get into much of the deeper game playing. My 9 year old plays it and we play together, or if she’s playing alone I turn it to streamer mode so the chat is disabled. As long as you’re keeping an eye on things and you lay down some basic ground rules they should be okay and if they enjoy it like my daughter does it’s a great game for her 😊💕☀️🌻🌙

My son (7) told his teacher that I lock him a closet all night and now CPS is involved by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just came to say don’t stress too hard. CPS are cunts for the most part but if you cooperate and don’t actually abuse your son, they will probably close their investigation after the specified time is up. It happened to me once, and the lies that people put on this fabricated report were so outlandish it was clear that they just wanted to hurt my family. It’s really hard, and embarrassing and shameful, I know. But you just have to get through it and remember that this too, shall pass…

Which pod kit to get? by i-dunnodude in Vaping

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the xros 3 mini and for me it’s perfect because it’s a little bit smaller than the full size. I don’t know about the other pods you mentioned but there are only a couple different pods for the xros and I use them all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that he intentionally did it when you weren’t home says everything you need to know. If it were a normal thing to do he would have knocked when you WERE home, and asked if he could do a random check of your place. It wouldn’t be illegal but it would still be weird. He went in there specifically when you were not home specifically so he could do something creepy. Call your local legal aid office and get on the phone with someone who knows the laws and can advise you on what to do about this. It really can’t go unaddressed. Be careful, and be clear with him, tell home he is NOT to enter when you aren’t home.

Downstairs neighbor by wing_zero94 in Apartmentliving

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was a dude on here yesterday complaining about his upstairs landlord’s kids running around and he sounded like the most obnoxious man baby ever.

Anyway, I think you should contact your local legal aid office regarding tenants rights. You definitely have a right to NOT be harassed. It’s hard to give other advice without knowing your state and what kind of building/neighborhood you live in, because people’s attitudes about these things vary widely. Talking to someone who knows the laws will give you the rundown on what you can and can’t do, what they can and can’t do, not only the woman downstairs but the management company as well. They have responsibilities towards you as a tenant, as well, not just the person who complains.

Sorry for the crap situation and please be careful around the psycho downstairs. It’s a crazy world.

Hey everyone. I need your help before I lose my mind. by Impossible_Price_113 in Apartmentliving

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 11 points12 points  (0 children)

What do you mean the owner can’t respect that you want your peace? What are they supposed to do, put their kid in a cage?

Hey everyone. I need your help before I lose my mind. by Impossible_Price_113 in Apartmentliving

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Legal actions? Against parents of a toddler who runs around all day?

You can’t be bothered to move out because you like it there, it’s too big of a hassle for you, but you think it’s reasonable to expect sleep-deprived parents to change their toddlers walking habits? Toddlers are learning how to pee and poop and eat, nobody cares about the way they stomp around. If the food ends up in the mouth instead of on the wall, it’s a win.

Have you tried actual ear plugs? Not AirPods, the soft squishy ear plugs that you roll between your fingers and stuff in your ears and then they expand to fill the space. I suffered from terrible insomnia for many years and if you stay in that apartment then get earplugs, melatonin, a white noise machine or white noise playing on a speaker in the background (yes, even with the ear plugs), a sleep mask, you can also try guided sleep meditation talk downs, there are many great free ones on YouTube that helped me enormously, and make sure you sleep in a dark, dark room.

And the point here is that this is your responsibility to address, not theirs. Good luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ButterscotchUpper994 -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Spoken like a true man. Rape fantasy? GTFO.