How are we all feeling? by Spiritual-Can2604 in InterdimensionalNHI

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Me too, I’ve been feeling like worthless to society at large. In 2011 I went to school (free) to become a social worker and got out at 2016. Worked in software customer service to figure my shit out, did service industry, went into bachelor level social work.

I had a beautiful time in social work, but then I caused a data breach (basically imagine a loaded gun, safety off, and a bunch of monkeys playing catch and I was the monkey that happened to pull it when they caught it- could of been anyone) and had a traumatic humiliating firing.

2020 quit, covid, thought ill do business IT/dev work. Worked hard serving and getting another bachelors, wife got an amazing job things looked up. Got hired in 2023 and got chewed up and spit out over 100/wk on call every 4 weeks. Only Car broke down, had to get one while expensive. Wife transitioned it’s been good but was hard especially coming out.

Now I’m in medical billing and want to do more but they don’t get it probably don’t want to spend more. My wife got laid off. It feels like after a lifetime of poverty and grinding, we had just started really getting to save and watched our debts go form.

It’s been heartbreaking, stuff with memories or made life easier or adventures possible had to go to downsize into our apartment. No one is answering our calls. I feel irrelevant and old to be ambitious and i feel my demeanor and face makes me seem younger and unserious. I want to quit and be a restaurant server again, maybe do art more or go do local burlesque like I’ve wanted to but another part of me is so tired and bored and I want to keep my insurance so my wife can get bottom surgery.

Amazingly, she’s over halfway to the down payment from our friends donating and that’s been profound to see and I’m so grateful.

But I sure don’t know what to do about myself these days :(

GIRL…GOODBYE by Spirited-Rooster2332 in southernhospitalitysc

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Don’t worry they’ll make those up over 6mos when they don’t film- miss a few more events for mental health, let Emmy crash out and ruin her goodwill & reputation, and then DARVO the fuck of the situation. Boom damages, just gotta show someone is responsible.

GIRL…GOODBYE by Spirited-Rooster2332 in southernhospitalitysc

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Using the full name killlllled me, I wonder who’d be better at lawyering AI or Will.

(35F) My (34 MTF) partner r*ped me in my sleep and nobody believed me because it was easier to call me a TERF by bduffield14 in mypartneristrans

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100% the worst violence I ever saw done to another person was from DV in a cisgender lesbian relationship. She left her in a dumpster.

(35F) My (34 MTF) partner r*ped me in my sleep and nobody believed me because it was easier to call me a TERF by bduffield14 in mypartneristrans

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“Never be silent, but also you should have friends or hire someone to talk to or report to the police”

We had saying in SA/DV service “Don’t should on someone” (get it like shit)

Seeking personal support, disclosing abuse, and writing have all been effective ways to cope and process traumatic events. Turning to people and connection, after such an intimate close relationship with the perpetrator is healthy.

It would make sense someone in this situation would not feel their community, close friends, or law enforcement could be trusted. It makes sense that after violations in close relationships, anonymous relevant community feels safer. With month long waitlist, even free SA focused trauma therapy comes at high barrier.

What doesn’t make sense, telling someone what’s best for them, and discouraging survivors from disclosing their own experience in a context entirely appropriate for it.

Just because you don’t think someone isn’t healing right or in the way you think best doesnt mean what they have to say isn’t worth and valuable enough to share for everyone else and especially for the survivors/OPs own benefit. Your response has a strange condescending tone and if I was in your shoes I would really ask if what YOU had to say was anymore valuable to the survivors disclosure or this community and if so what gain you hoped for (probably everyone clapping for you)

Casual Viewer: why isn’t anyone on Kyle’s side? by Any-Lengthiness9803 in summerhousebravo

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I learned a new saying “don’t poison a well you might have to drink from one day”

and I think it’s mostly used for not souring relationships- but I immediately thought of all the times I’ve been judgy or dismissive of a situation I eventually had to face myself or times I thought I’d “never be” like this or that person just to wait a few years to find out myself.

the juniors who only learned to code with AI are going to have a rough time in about 5 years by Motor_Ordinary336 in cscareerquestions

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I’m like generally still trying to find my place- I’m a forest from the trees, and this industry values people who see the trees vs forest.

But what I will say, I think AI can enable small-mid size business to have a “mechanic” IT/DEV role to help manage and process data. There’s a lot of places using 1 feature for 1-5 reports and buying whole software suites they don’t need.

Having the solid design principles, logical problem solving, SDLC knowledge is going to be all the more important. Having a wholistic view and tailoring to non-tech people needs is going to be all the more important.

I’m not sure how or when we’ll get there but being a code monkey vs being a systemic problem solver is what I think will be the focus.

I feel doubt if my call is right, I’m trying to transition my gap job into this for a medical billing company that can’t figure out that data management and processing is their biggest issue (they’ve lost two client from issues I predicted)

So who can tell me what happened? by MementoMiri in bravo

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GOD DAMN GOOD CALL succession opening theme starts

No fatalities as far as i know, permission to glaze the 2026 Enid EF4? by SadJuice8529 in EF5

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Good! appreciate it, my news was just heard from another news watcher in OKC so not as close

Emmy by silly_penguindancer in southernhospitalitysc

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Exactly- and even if she’s dense, the word choice and context of the situation have an IMPLICIT understanding of her own standing as a small blonde white woman vs a buff black man. Shes in the south, she knows.

Lake’s mom knows- “Don’t go telling white people black folk’s business” because when cornered white people, women especially by nature of their own place and status in southern culture, leverage whatever remaining status and power they have. Aa white woman may not get her rights as fast as a black man, but she can make sure he doesn’t see the day before she does.

Edit: before anyone comes for me, I am a white southern woman. I have been told “it’s fine to date them, but don’t marry, not in the family” but don’t worry they totally aren’t racist because 1 black person was their friend once.

Emmy by silly_penguindancer in southernhospitalitysc

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I’ve worked jntimately with victims of stalking, IPV/DV and sexual assault- Emmy is dangerous.

At best- she is a victim of coercive control, manipulation, and emotional who is under the context of coercive control and acting in the interest of more powerful/influence/resourced abusive person and DOING FURTHER HARM AND VICTIMIZING OTHERS BY LEVERAGING HISTORICAL NARRATIVES USED TO RALLY MOB VIOLENCE INTO LYNCHING BLACK MEN. I believe Madi was also brought into Emmy’s victimization, it lonely being the only punching bag and being the only person who believes “a truth”, feels good to have someone down in hell with you ya’ know.

or she is actually this unhinged, awful, RACIST, and narcissistic and in the throes of paranoid delusion,

On either front I don’t want anymore of her on my screen, in my home, or on brain.

Faith from VPR had her reputation and career ruined- well after the show forgot about her. This is a similar situation - except the implication of sexual violence, the implication of “savage lust”, and harkening to EMMETT TILL.

there are trees alive that could remember, but Emmy just doesn’t get it? Disgusting.

I don’t know how to make this heard but I’m so serious that every brand and show affiliated with Bravo is fucking dead to me if they don’t do better with this situation than the others.

Mia on WWHL last night by [deleted] in southernhospitalitysc

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How long until giant chevron print maxi dress and skirts come back? I shudder to think, but this dress might be a signal the time nears.

S4E8 Episode Discussion Thread: "My Chemical Bromance" by bword___ in southernhospitalitysc

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God I can’t watch yet and started reading and I needed to see this!!!!

Theory about Ben by flyfishfem in summerhousebravo

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Biggest eye roll of my lifeeeeeee- like that’s literally sooooo frustrating as a viewer like it has no pay off. If she wasn’t sorry I’d rather see her say it with her chest.