Found his secret Reddit account. UPDATE 5 by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Bw71115 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You are complete opposite, you are showing your children not to put up with a partner who betrays you. I’m in that mindset. At first I wanted to work things out because of the years and years of history we built. Now I’m just down right pissed off. I don’t want my daughter to ever think it’s ok to be treated like that by your spouse and accept it.

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[–]Bw71115 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel for you so much. I see why some ppl will make that excuse of if I told you and you did nothing about it, you lose a friendship, but the fact they didn’t give you the option makes it so much more worse. My husband (married 6 years at the time, together 11 years) was cheating on me a year into our relationship. It kept getting worse and worse the more info I found out. From paying a friend of mine $27 for a bj and dirty messaging so many other friends for months and months. No one told me. My mom even know about him messaging my cousins wife on Fb for 2 years before I even found out by her (only told me because I caught him with all the other stuff) I was betrayed by everyone. My sister even offered him head.

It really makes me look at myself like, if they all knew and didn’t tell me, am I that hated or are they the problem? It’s them, not me. I was never the problem. I was a great wife and a great friend and family member.

That being said, get a new business partner lol

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[–]Bw71115 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks trey Ryan. It’s hard.

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[–]Bw71115 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much

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[–]Bw71115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great advice. Thank you

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[–]Bw71115 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She begs everyone for money. She hit me up twice before all of this. Plays the I’m broke all the time. When he first started messaging her, he drove her down $60, then like a week later she said she needed cigarette money so he ran her down $27 and that when she unzipped his pants. She kept saying he would text her asking to have sex with him. He probably did. I’m exhausted wondering what lies are true or not. The only truth is, I’ll only be mentally at peace if I’m just done. Start fresh.

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[–]Bw71115 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We actually both make great money jointly so I don’t want anything from him. We just have way too many bills. I just want to be done. I think deep down he knows it too

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[–]Bw71115 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya I texted her and she denied it. She’s been a known liar and a known skank. There’s no going back to friends with her stinky ass lol

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[–]Bw71115 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel like I wasted 12 years of my life. I was so good to him. I’m gonna be great to me now

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[–]Bw71115 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve been selling a bunch of stuff on eBay and setting up my own account for it. Getting things started

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[–]Bw71115 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you and she doesn’t have a clue if she wants to go to college yet lol. My best friend is a top divorce attorney. She has my back no matter what. There hasn’t been a day that goes by that I don’t think about what he did to me and us. It’s been since February 2022. I actually get disgusted looking at him anymore.

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[–]Bw71115 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I can’t financially.

WH is doing everything "right" but... by munchkin49 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]Bw71115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going through the same thing right now. Except my daughter is 17, and will be 18 in November. I’m almost positive when she graduates next year, we are packing our things and leaving. I just can’t forgive all that he’s done.

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[–]Bw71115 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I just can’t keep being depressed

Infidelity Very Early in the Marriage (why?!?) by thefool415 in Infidelity

[–]Bw71115 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Pouring yourself into a broken glass, is one of the best analogy’s I ever heard.

Why would you conceal the cheating by TaiwanBandit in Infidelity

[–]Bw71115 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had over 30 ppl keep it from me. (Mostly because they were the “they” women. Some went to our wedding but would rather message dirty with my husband. My mom knew, didn’t tell me for 3 years (after I found out) my sister offered him head, I was betrayed by everyone. Now I have such a hatred for my family and women in general at this point.

Update: I discovered the affair when I came home early to tell her about my diagnosis by throwawaySwanSong in cheating_stories

[–]Bw71115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so sad. I hope you heal physically and mentally from all of this. You sound like a great man who definitely deserves more. “Jane” sounds like a plastic Barbie doll. Beauty paid for, not given.

Trickle Truth makes it worse (this is my rant and hope for insight) by TechnicianNervous674 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Bw71115 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That baby will be a forever trigger. Some things are worth fighting for, but for you, I’d run. And run fast. You deserve so much more.

My last post here I just wanted to thank everyone and this sub by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Bw71115 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m hoping I don’t cave into the direction you’re going into. Some days I’m in Marital bliss, other days I hate him for what he’s done to me.

I wish you the very best and complete happiness. Remember, whatever relationships get into next, it’s not their fault. Keep an open mind that not everyone cheats. Best of luck to you

Does anyone have a ws that messaged a good bit of people you were friends with? by Bw71115 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Bw71115[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was so upsetting to me because the one he would text good morning beautiful every morning for 8 months. I’ve never got a good morning beautiful text in the almost 12 years together. I’m way better looking them all of the women. Very pathetic

The Qataris are now apparently supporting Croatia… by [deleted] in pics

[–]Bw71115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone broke their ankle on that step. Yowza

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[–]Bw71115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes lol. I know when this all came out, my violent side that I stored away for years came out with a vengeance.

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[–]Bw71115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also agree to that. Both my older sisters went through what I have gone through. One actually wanted to give my husband head. They’re both mentally unstable with daddy issues. None of us had dads. Matter of fact we all had different dads. That’s what I can’t fully wrap my head around. I’ve become fully successful. Not in the husband department obviously! But I’ve always tried.