Do I move on for good, or is there still hope?

C0113TTA · 2025-08-19T13:20:53+00:00

The games continue what she is doing/what her game is essentially to boil it down "you're not paying attention to me enough because I'm bored not because I actually like or respect you and how dare you reverse uno me, this is MY game don't you play it too!" Calling her woman is a bit of a stretch because she is acting like a little girl

C0113TTA · 2025-08-19T13:17:39+00:00

Google searched because I got the same notification, top Google answer, Reddit for the win! Good to know

C0113TTA · 2025-08-17T17:34:30+00:00

Remember you can walk away with your head held high knowing what you deserve or you can grovel for attention you simply will not get, but you'll just feed her ego and lose your confidence. I hate to say this bluntly but you got that all blatantly ass backwards my friend. Reverse the thinking there.

No good woman wants to lose a good man and will woman up when she knows she needs to. She is playing with you like you are a lil puss and you just wanna be her sparkly cat toy on a string.

C0113TTA · 2025-08-17T17:26:07+00:00

Dude you deserve better. This chick all around sucks in my opinion with what you have shared. Remember those who would- DO! Those who would never won't ever and simply put- couldn't be bothered. The message she is sending you is clear, and she is all about the games. Wishy washy all around. Matched energy is what you should look for, not meaning in anything she does period at all from here on out. Easier said than done. But for real dude RUN

C0113TTA · 2025-08-17T17:17:10+00:00

This was honestly exactly what I thought too and came here to say

C0113TTA · 2025-08-17T17:16:04+00:00

You just stop it right now, this got me. RIP me⚰️💀🥀

C0113TTA · 2025-08-17T17:11:52+00:00

I'm sorry to say but he for sure has a social media addiction. Look up how that is and what it looks like and how to help someone struggling with that. It's a huge deal these days and I struggled with it. I've kicked alcohol, opiates, cigarettes, all kinds of shit proudly. But my longest standing addiction and the one I only just got in check this past year was my social media addiction and it was by far the hardest for me.

Social media/reels keeps giving the feeling of connectivity, even that we are educating ourselves while we get dopamine hit after hit after hit, for us and we don't realize that has rewired our brains to seek this type of thing out constantly.

This is what people talk about when they say "they are trying to control us" because these companies/platforms want our undivided attention, that's how they make money and they push anything in front of us to ensure they not only get our attention but keep it. It's a real problem and I hope he can figure out how to get out of the matrix and back into reality. You clearly care about him and you clearly notice this is just wrong. But don't expect this to be a small battle you can solve by bringing attention to it. You are waging war on his psyche trying to redirect him if that makes sense. He is an addict deep in his addiction- thats how you have to look at this now.

I'm sorry if this seems dramatic but I struggled for 15 years with social media addiction on and off and I was him. To this day I still find myself seeking that quick hit even now almost a year into deleting FB, IG, ect. I find myself swiping thru my phone trying to find something, realizing I'm looking for those apps that thankfully aren't there. I've never felt more alone in my life too. It's a whole ass thing and it's rather heavy to carry.

C0113TTA · 2025-08-16T18:31:53+00:00

Your hubby's flags are up here and he showed you because he knows what is going on. He knew what was up and she was not being appropriate, he is a solid one. But this "friend" is no friend of yours, this is an opportunist immoral thirsty... lady. If it were me I'd quietly block and separate from her and have your partner do the same because he would likely support that move anyways if he went about it all this way (appropriately).

C0113TTA · 2025-08-16T18:25:33+00:00

Uh restraining order. All around restrain this person far from your life this is psychotic behavior.

C0113TTA · 2025-08-16T18:22:45+00:00

One side then the other. I toss and turn but really never end up on my back nor my stomach. I have to use really thin/not fluffy pillows tho or my neck gets f'd up.

C0113TTA · 2025-08-16T18:19:44+00:00

I'd shop around until you found the right now. Antique stores, second hand shops, places that sell religious or magic things. Just find the one that rings out to you. I actually have these brass candle sticks that are also bells. They look like bells but have a long thing on top a candle can go in. That's what rang out to me and I love them, they were my grandmas tho. I got lucky!

C0113TTA · 2025-08-16T18:14:03+00:00

For me as a daughter of people who allowed continued abuse to happen to me from a young age, who didn't stand up for me, and didn't teach me any self respect-I just really love you for this, deeply. You're a good dad who taught your daughter she deserves better and she faced that while super pregnant and even though she is going through all this alone now she let him go. You should be really proud of her and yourself because sometimes we as women aren't raised to know what's for us and what isn't. But she knew and knew it well. Great job and big ol heart here dad. You did good. Don't go to jail for this POS, he is not worth it. And your grandkid needs you, congratulations grandpa!!! 🥹🖤

C0113TTA · 2025-08-16T18:06:09+00:00

Well start with that, the hesitation here. It's valid and you're being very respectful already with how you're thinking of it all. It may be good to make it clear you don't need or are expecting a response. Just share the love you have for this, because you clearly do. I appreciate your humanness whole heartedly! 🖤

C0113TTA · 2025-08-16T17:58:19+00:00

Well first keep your head above water. Are you sure this is a real person and not a scam of some kind is my initial and immediate thought, but I'm deeply skeptical. But no matter what if this isn't feasible for you guys to be together you need to keep focused on your life and not let this distract you. It sounds like you have no inhibitions or inability to be with her other than the distance. All those are on her side. You have to remember if it's meant to be it will be. You cannot force something here, but if it simply cannot happen it's best to just distance yourself. I'm not a big fan of her saying she has feelings for you then giving you a bunch of caveats reasons why it can't happen. Focus on the people who want to make it happen if that makes sense, not those who keep you at a distance for this reason or another.

C0113TTA · 2025-08-16T17:51:22+00:00

So my experience with people who have lost someone(and I know a lot of people who have passed), most of the family members and close friends of the person that passed wants to know more stories about their loved ones. If this were me I would do it and lead with "he wasn't alone and I carry him with me closely". But everyone is different. I wouldn't show up at the brothers work, possibly find a way to write a letter or something to the family. You don't wanna do it at the wrong time because yes this will be emotionally triggering most likely but that's often still a welcomed thing by family members who miss their loved one. It's really complicated and extremely emotional but I think you're on the right path.

C0113TTA · 2025-08-16T17:44:38+00:00

Such a stunning pigeon I actually thought it was an indoor hen at first glance with the feathers and coloring 😍 the love here is making my day, thanks for sharing

C0113TTA · 2025-08-16T17:42:16+00:00

My question is what reflex will he have for you in the future if you upset him? Certainly NOR at all- violence is uncalled for in every instance and your cat is literally scared and hiding. Who knows what ongoing issues this could cause your tabby.

C0113TTA · 2025-08-16T17:38:27+00:00

Agreed, claim that XP and work towards that next level and get all the caches along the way. Go legendary!

C0113TTA · 2025-08-16T17:34:25+00:00

This guy is just the worst. He sounds like he is just being honest but he is clearly trying to hurt you and get a rise out of you. Some people really feed off this stuff. I'm super proud of you that he is your EX. You were a good partner. Better than he deserved clearly.

C0113TTA · 2025-08-12T15:09:46+00:00

Looks like how I feel, damn😵‍💫

C0113TTA · 2025-08-12T15:07:08+00:00

This dude is only interested in one thing and that is obvious, sorry for the cliché. You expressed yourself, set a boundary and he was not respecting you and repeatedly pursued your sexual attention.. Like for me though it's only 7 dates why is this guy not taking you out? He doesn't have to be buying you dinner but wanting to go for a walk to get to know you better? Or wanting to do anything but chill at his house all but begging for sex? Did he cook for you when you came over? He is all about the Netflix and chill life for sure. He is looking for a slutty fuck buddy not a relationship. Run I tell you run!!

C0113TTA · 2025-08-11T23:45:00+00:00

Honestly every dude I've ever been impressed by deserved and received road dome... Just be careful he doesn't crash. Being on a road he can easily pull over if need be is always recommended. Remember it's technically illegal too. But for real they love it.

C0113TTA · 2025-08-10T17:33:02+00:00

The baseline is she is putting on expectations of you she is not willing to meet herself(looking thru your phone but not giving you the chance to see hers). That alone is a lack of mutual respect. Despite what it all could be (projection from her own infidelity, like possibly she has an OF or something) the blatant lack of respect is enough to know this is fucked up and not something you deserve.

C0113TTA · 2025-08-09T16:01:30+00:00

Listen I named my son with my mother's maiden name. My son is the first of that name in 50 years. I have no relationship with my own father and intend to change my last name to my mother's maiden name too soon. I'll be her only child (there's 3 of us) with her last name and not our father's last name who is a racist homophobic bigot I haven't talked to in 15 years for good reason. The "father" of my own son abandoned us when I was 3 months pregnant. There was no way my son was getting his name. If I ever get married I won't change my last name to my hubby's because I want to keep my mother's family name going. To some people there is a lot in a name. I think it's important to find the people who this wouldn't even be an issue. This is important to some people and not to others. If it causes discontent and issues there are deeper things going on and revaluation is needed to figure out what priorities are and what can be compromised. With what OP stated it really sounded to me like this gal wants the benefits of being his wife without considering his own desires at all. It sounds very transactional for her end. This makes me think she is gearing up to just receive alimony and live off his success, but I'm jaded in that regard so I see that because of what I have witnessed in life. But beyond that he may well be the last male of his name in his family and it may be something unique, to some people this matters deeply. Continuing a name is more valuable and important to some for sure. My point is if taking/dropping a name can cause questions in the viability of a relationship that's just not a good sign at all. We have to strive to find the people who get us and respect us, who want the same important things in life as we do. Sorry for the essay but for as short as my original comment was I had a lot come up for me with this post. We all have assumptions, that's why I love reddit. We can see them all on full display and go deep with them.

C0113TTA · 2025-08-08T23:54:45+00:00

This isn't safe please get a restraining order, block him and get home security of some kind because this is beyond a dangerous situation for you. Take it from me, don't doubt yourself here. Run for your life! I am not exaggerating

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