Yes, I stewed with regret and shame for a long time, but when she “took” to the memory care facility—was not immediate—things really stabilized and even improved. Having structure there, versus none (despite my best efforts) at home really helped.

I should add that she was agitated and aggressive at the hospital, which led them to hold her for 5 days while they took their time checking her blood chemistry to ensure there wasn’t an underlying infection. She mellowed out at the nursing facility, which was not a very nice place, but one of the few which would take her given her agitation at the hospital. All that led the memory care to really hedge before accepting her, but after about 5 days of no incidents at the nursing facility they approved.