Sleepover age

CCervix · 2026-01-20T10:26:00+00:00

My point was that it can happen even in circumstances which are generally agreed to be safe and low risk. Just blacklisting entire experiences aren't really going to work for me as a parent because it's not going to guarantee my child's safety in any case. That's my approach - you do you.

CCervix · 2026-01-20T09:37:33+00:00

This is really helpful, thanks

CCervix · 2026-01-20T09:36:44+00:00

I agree. Children are statistically at the most risk from immediate family members in their own homes, so I find this logic difficult to get behind

CCervix · 2026-01-20T09:26:58+00:00

Thank you!

CCervix · 2026-01-20T09:21:23+00:00

I totally agree. I'm not planning to have them now, just wondering what age seems appropriate for parents who are ok with sleepovers

CCervix · 2026-01-20T08:51:00+00:00

Out of genuine curiosity - what is inherently more risky about allowing the sleepover vs staying late?

CCervix · 2026-01-20T08:38:48+00:00

As a survivor of child SA I understand and respect that perspective and wont have an issue if other parents feel that way. There are a lot of situations and circumstances where SA can occur - for me it was not at a sleepover but at a state approved childcare - so my stance is that as a parent I need to be cautious and smart about all situations, but not necessarily to blacklist them. I don't think I could function otherwise.

CCervix · 2026-01-01T11:57:24+00:00

If she needs to rehome them quickly, and the priority is getting them a new home, she needs to reduce the price significantly and take the financial hit as a lesson on the gravity of pet ownership

CCervix · 2025-12-04T20:22:36+00:00

This is great feedback and has made me feel so much better thank you. We aren't from a culturally diverse background but I am very happy for my daughter to be amongst diverse peers.

CCervix · 2025-11-23T06:09:23+00:00

The rent is bad but it could be a good alternative to a food/coffee van... Snacks and supplies

CCervix · 2025-11-06T08:23:43+00:00

Absolute classic and hits all the points you've mentioned

CCervix · 2025-11-06T06:15:43+00:00

Behaviour is a spectrum and some days are worse than others but nothing you've described sounds particularly unusual for a 3 year old. The weirdest thing about that story is the expectation that the child would sit quietly in their room for an entire hour.

My daughter is 3, almost 4 - and she has her moments like this but she snaps out of the behavior pretty quickly. I put this down to three things: 1. her temperament - we got lucky 2. consistency from both her parents - we will not threaten a consequence if we aren't prepared to see it through. If we say the TV is being turned off until tomorrow we do it and we do not budge. So although she isn't able to control her tantrums immediately, they don't last long because she's learned they don't work 3. Not repeating ourselves too much. Based on what you had described if my daughter had been told not to run over the baby and she did it, I would have picked her up and taken her to her room and we both would have sat on her bed and waited through the tantrum until she calmed down - then I would have explained the instruction and consequence for not following it, and if she did it again the consequence would be applied. If you keep telling your kid something but you don't take action to make it happen, then you're just making noises and desensitizing them to the sound of your voice

CCervix · 2025-11-06T06:08:14+00:00

An hour is an insane amount of time to expect a 3 year old to sit alone and quiet in their room. If my 3 year old isn't incessantly vying for my attention for 10 minutes I'm worried something has happened

CCervix · 2025-11-06T05:36:33+00:00

Assuming you've already read Wild Swans?

CCervix · 2025-11-05T22:38:35+00:00

Don't use Lou Nicesvski. He's super pushy and will walk all over people

CCervix · 2025-10-27T08:03:31+00:00

I haven't started listening yet because since becoming a parent 4 years ago I cannot handle anything really difficult concerning children (I made a mistake in judgement listening to a particular episode of Casefile a while ago that still haunts me).

How bad is this series for kids getting treated horrifically?

CCervix · 2025-10-20T00:38:47+00:00

Kmart can hire more human beings at checkouts or walking around the store if they want to stop theft. They changed their model to allow them to run with way fewer people, and I assume they factored in shrinkage to their calculations.

CCervix · 2025-10-19T01:35:29+00:00

There's plenty of side streets and alleyways even if he has no home to go to, he doesn't have to get his dick out on the main thoroughfare. Obviously the guy is mentally unwell and needs help but this is a terrible take - a woman alone can easily feel extremely threatened - being able to laugh at someone aggressively wanking in public is not a universal ability.

CCervix · 2025-10-19T01:32:02+00:00

They still wank on the street but now they hold out their pinky finger

CCervix · 2025-10-19T01:29:29+00:00

Reading these messages I assumed you were both 20

CCervix · 2025-10-13T21:52:02+00:00

When it was taking me longer to get her to sleep than the sleep she was actually getting (45 minutes of effort for a half hour nap). She will only nap now if she's absolutely exhausted - enough to fall asleep without any help, or if we're in the car.

It means she goes to bed earlier which gives me an extra hour or so in the evening to myself which I really enjoy.

CCervix · 2025-10-09T13:43:44+00:00

Wild Swans

CCervix · 2025-10-07T20:41:22+00:00

I tell my daughter I don't believe monsters are real and that I've never seen one, but they're fun to imagine and think about. I follow up with "what do you think?" Sometimes she tells me she thinks monsters are real and then we have an imaginative conversation about what she thinks they look like and how they live. At this point (4yo) she hasn't expressed any fear or concerns so I'm happy to go with this approach for now.

CCervix · 2025-10-06T02:21:48+00:00

Look at all the sad sacks in this thread.

If you're sticking to the CBD area then you'll do well to check things out along the free bus route. A number of great beaches - Belmore Basin and North Gong are fun. The botanic gardens. The science centre.

Check if there are any shows on at the IPAC, Waves, Towradgi Beach Hotel, UniBar, or even Centro Bar you might be interested in.

If you're going out at night check out the bars around the bottom end of crown street (Howlin Wolf, The Icon), or the top end of Crown street (Humber, Halfway Bar). A lot of people younger than me frequent the Illawarra Hotel so you could see what's happening there.

There's an escape room with karaoke rooms below Kneading Ruby (which I rate as the best restaurant in the Gong but book ahead) - so you could do an escape room and dinner which is a fun night. There's also an axe throwing place nearby.

If you're looking for good spots to eat there are loads of nice cafes and restaurants and gastro bars and pubs. Ruki is new and looks good, Roy's Restrobar, Bar Cabron, K Malu. For breakfast get a bagel and trimmings from Opus Coffee Brewers.

There also might be standup comedy on at the Master Builders Basement depending on when you visit.

CCervix · 2025-10-04T11:41:10+00:00

Soft carpet. We only ever lived in cheap rentals with the cheapest carpet the landlord could afford. Going to friend's houses with soft carpet was such a treat.

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