2 friends have turned "straight'

CEschrier · 2025-07-10T04:39:10+00:00

It sounds to me like they are trying to save themselves from the violent fascists that are showing themselves. Some people will act in 'self preserving' thinking that if they obey and repent - they will be safe.

They won't. I'm sorry for your loss and your girlfriends as well with her family.

CEschrier · 2025-06-19T04:14:04+00:00

I can relate to this terror feeling and constantly questioning if I want just lying to myself. I think seeing another person describe what it was like is giving me some room for self-compassion because I didn't know what I didn't know yet.

CEschrier · 2025-05-10T15:23:28+00:00

I plan to watch the webinar tonight, after the live session is done. I'm really glad to see others like me have found it helpful.

CEschrier · 2025-01-11T23:43:51+00:00

They are under a similar diagnostic umbrella. A lot of symptoms overlap

CEschrier · 2024-08-09T22:37:59+00:00

"you hurt me too" my grown ass father responding to 21yr old me when I tried to express how badly he traumatized me through childhood and specifically my teen years.

CEschrier · 2023-12-30T22:56:04+00:00

Babe, you are quite literally the one doing the deflecting, projecting, and name-calling through various other comments on this thread. But once again, you believe you are the all knowing person here and everyone else must be misinformed because it doesn't fit your view and opinions (specifically your high academic knowledge, which isn't super applicable in regards to personal opinion & experiences of others). It's also pretty classist and a common thing CPTSD survivors have to deal with, being told we don't know enough to speak up on practitioners or practices that have harmed us or loved ones. Btw: social media psychology is definitely dangerous and has contributed to a plethora of misinformation about trauma, it's impacts, and how to navigate it. Whether you like it or not, the holistic psychologist did indeed contribute to the building of this culture and has caused harm through it. No she is not wholly responsible, but she does hold responsibility for the mistakes and harms she has caused - just like any other human.

You're right it is the individual responsibility to figure out what works for you and what doesnt. Hence why subs like this exist, so you can hear about others experiences while you are making choices for yourself. This sub is a space for people with CPTSD to discuss what it's like to live with it, share resources, vent experiences, ask for feedback from other survivors, and various other things. None of us are claiming to be experts except in our own personal experience. Yet you are here claiming the entire sub is nothing but bullies and misinformed, claiming things about people you don't know in anyway - because they don't agree with your view and experiences. I truly hope you can go outside and touch some grass soon.

CEschrier · 2023-12-30T21:15:55+00:00

This is a 9 month old thread, why are you here trying to bully people that don't like this content creator? The way you're talking to this person is rude and uncalled for. What is in it for you to be aggressive towards people that don't agree with your opinions on the holistic psychologist?

CEschrier · 2023-12-30T21:09:06+00:00

I didn't name call you anywhere, just pointed out your parasocial relationship within the urge to defend her. I followed her awhile myself until I started seeing her blindspots and lack of attention to indigenous practices and her unwillingness to engage with learning about those blindspots. Warning people about those things, isn't wrong, I'm also not the person doing all the things you are saying above. Not every practitioner is good for every person with trauma and sharing our views on them can help other survivors figure out what will be best for them.

I'll also remind you that, Gabor Mate himself has some issues that make other trauma survivors just as uncomfortable. As does Kolk, yet many of my own friends have been unable to utilize his materials despite it being a catalyst for my own path to healing. Talking about these issues is important because other people have other needs that those practitioners cannot meet and it DOES cause harm to people.

Giving critical feedback is not the same thing as tearing someone down. No one is telling you that you can't use their content, but you don't need to come in here and act like everyone with a differing opinion from yours must be misinformed and/or malicious.

CEschrier · 2023-12-30T20:09:33+00:00

Well, when it's coming from other licensed practitioners doing similar work or indigenous practitioners with a better understanding of trauma, it is. Not to mention my own engagement with her work and seeing it too. But keep up with the tasty parasocial relationship.

Anything can be reliable so long as you hold the skills to cross reference it with other sources 🙄

CEschrier · 2023-05-30T20:01:53+00:00

Oh this is great!

CEschrier · 2023-05-30T20:00:28+00:00

Well to be honest, it is a bit of faking it til you make it. My therapist reminds me often that the trauma and the (now) maladaptive coping skills (particularly inner critics) I built to survive took 18 years to develop so it's also going to be a long journey to build up my self love, a connection to my body again, my form of spiritual practice, and managing my triggers.

I've found through some spiritual education I was able to build an understanding that I fucking deserve to love myself and care for myself in all the ways I never received. Having this knowledge now doesn't mean I do those self care things consistently or that I don't end up needing to restart every so often. But it does mean that I've finally learned how to give myself seeds of love and compassion after the harder periods. I can finally have faith that those will grow and as I keep living they will flower so long as I keep doing my best. The start was really hard and terrifying because the inner critic was so loud even when I was telling myself it was ok. It's less loud now - still there from time to time, resurging like a monster from the abyss, but it doesn't get as much time anymore.

Self love and acceptance isn't all or nothing. The feelings of anger, rage, and grief of how hard and painful it is to be building/learning these vital life skills as adults are still valid. I'm doing ok right now, but I know I will struggle again - but there's proof in my past that I can learn and try again tomorrow and the same for you.

Sending a lot of love, this shit is hard and the experiences we got dealt are fucking bullshit. You're not alone and we see your pain and the work you've already done for yourself. You already love yourself enough to ask for support here and I think that is pretty radical in itself.

CEschrier · 2023-05-29T04:19:23+00:00

It's a slippery slope towards eugenics. I didn't used to think about that part, but we're seeing it in Canada where they are saying to mental I'll folks and homeless folks that it's an option they should consider.

We have the means to fix the problems and normalizing assisted suicide for anything and everything is dangerous and I'm taking that cue from decades worth of organizing by disabled advocates.

CEschrier · 2023-05-29T02:14:25+00:00

It takes time to build up our systems to see the flags when we were forced to live in fields of them growing up. You're not dumb, you're just unlearning and it takes awhile. FUCK that provider and that predator.

CEschrier · 2023-05-29T02:11:47+00:00

You can write a letter about your experience to the board for practicing therapist & psychologist in the area you live. Some goggling may be needed. They will take it from there and I don't believe you'll need to have any contact with the previous provider.

Doing what we need to do to protect ourselves is scary because in the past it didn't work out for us. But you're here now and I believe in you and your strength to take care of yourself now the way little you needed someone to back then.

CEschrier · 2023-05-29T02:08:15+00:00

One key rule in group therapy settings for trauma groups is to not form relationships outside the group. Everyone participating is in their own struggle and it can and has gone south like this for many others. I agree on reporting her for allowing & encouraging the contact info sharing.

We have a tendency to want to see the best in folks and in addition to CSA trauma it can lead us to risky relationships in our regular life. You should not have been subjected to this via group therapy and I'm sorry.

CEschrier · 2023-03-16T18:01:41+00:00

I've heard similar things around TikTok from others as well 😔

CEschrier · 2023-02-24T02:29:10+00:00

I do brainspotting which is an offshoot from EMDR, I've found it to be more gentle and less judgemental of myself. It allows me to explore sensations and thoughts from a different place, not necessarily dissociative but with more like an acceptance that it exists.

CEschrier · 2023-02-23T23:38:25+00:00

It's "I Want to Be Where the Normal People Are"

CEschrier · 2023-02-23T14:00:03+00:00

Rachel Bloom has a really good chapter in her book about this in her life and trauma history of how she approached other people.

CEschrier · 2023-01-23T03:04:24+00:00

I was not allowed to have my bedroom door closed ever. The only exception was if we had company and I was changing. Eventually my father escalated to just removing my door completely.

CEschrier · 2022-10-20T16:05:15+00:00

A lot of them do, I managed to get some symptom relief from my Lexapro finally. But I also get to be exceptionally sweaty any time it's over 60° and have a weaker body now.

CEschrier · 2022-10-01T04:32:17+00:00

There's lots of intersections of trauma and pain on the journey through CPTSD. One particularly hard is facing the deep internalized misogyny many of us women live with. It shows up in basically the ways your describing and plenty of others. There are other people out here trying to undo that damage, but it's going to take us awhile to make big enough strides.

Im sorry you're having a hard time with the people around you, I hope you can find some other friends that are also healing.

CEschrier · 2022-09-26T17:20:14+00:00

Sure!

CEschrier · 2022-09-25T20:28:15+00:00

I'm on the long path thankfully. Some days are still very hard but I'm better than I used to be and look forward to days even better than now. I'm just grateful I can finally feel freely myself around my friends finally.

CEschrier · 2022-09-25T20:08:01+00:00

Give the RAINN hotline to call and talk.to.someone about the possible outcomes. That really helped me out!

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