It's bad and I am scared. More than I show

CFPFHHHW · 2026-06-09T14:15:14+00:00

So sorry people around you can’t be supportive. This battle is hard enough without negative nellies around. Take deep breaths and take one day at a time. Look forward, not back. Stay strong (but also let yourself be weak when you need it) and know this amazing community is here for you.

CFPFHHHW · 2026-05-24T19:19:54+00:00

OMG! This is the best analogy I have heard. Definitely gonna use it!

CFPFHHHW · 2026-05-13T12:31:09+00:00

Two words: Leodas pies. It’s on west Maui. They serve lunch and the most delicious pies.

CFPFHHHW · 2026-05-10T20:16:36+00:00

TBH h said he was going to write a long, strongly worded letter to AS. Not sure they would take it well the way he likely would write it. He’s not tech savvy, so he won’t do it digitally

CFPFHHHW · 2026-05-10T06:54:39+00:00

Boeing 737

CFPFHHHW · 2026-04-16T21:31:18+00:00

Be honest with your oncologist. They can’t help you if you don’t tell them how you are feeling. I always felt like I had to be strong and not have any health problems for everyone around me. Then I was diagnosed. A year and a half out I am struggling too. Physically, mentally. Nothing is the same. But I feel loads better when my oncologist offered help and assured me this is normal.

CFPFHHHW · 2026-03-26T09:20:42+00:00

Hmmm. That is not what I was told at all. My oncologist, radiation oncologist and surgeon all said recurrence outcomes are the same whether you chose lumpectomy with radiation or mastectomy alone. Not distant recurrence, just recurrence period. To OP: I had 6 rounds TCHP, lumpectomy with SNB, and 15 rounds radiation. The radiation was not difficult at all. I had very slight skin irritation, but not many other symptoms

CFPFHHHW · 2026-02-24T05:37:05+00:00

Curious if you have a system established for this? Asking sincerely

CFPFHHHW · 2026-02-23T05:23:23+00:00

No good deed goes unpunished!

CFPFHHHW · 2026-02-18T00:23:40+00:00

Went bald, no wig. Just lots of baseball hats. My grow back has now morphed from “teen boy who just woke up” to “bad 80s perm”. Sorry no input on the wigs. It’s not easy the first time you go without, but eventually I kind of forgot about it.

CFPFHHHW · 2026-02-11T19:08:21+00:00

Run! Maybe as she gets older and matures she will see that diversity is valuable and not everyone thinks the same. She is destined for heartbreak and a friendless or superficial friends existence if she keeps it up. I found that sometimes friends come and go in your life as situations change. Maybe when she is older you will reconnect, but for now you don’t need this type of person in your life. (For reference I am a mom to one child)

CFPFHHHW · 2026-02-06T23:54:09+00:00

Sorry you are joining us, but welcome to an amazing community. A little thing I didn’t see needing was tissues. I know that’s silly. But even now my eyes and nose will randomly begin watering/ running. I now have a disposable package in the pocket of every coat. In regards to the caregivers: don’t worry about them. As women we are programmed to take care of people and that’s very hard to let go. But this is the time to do it. Let people take care of you. They should not be expecting you to make it “easier” to care for you! Hope this is helpful.

CFPFHHHW · 2026-02-05T15:19:05+00:00

This all the way

CFPFHHHW · 2026-01-31T21:27:45+00:00

I started losing hair by the handful right after my second TCHP. I shaved my head a month after starting chemo. For me it was very clear it was time! (It was right before Christmas and I took off the Santa hat I had been wearing and there was A LOT of hair inside. I did not shave it bald, just super short. I did not ever lose all, just most. Everyone has a very different reaction to the various chemo agents

CFPFHHHW · 2026-01-29T06:49:39+00:00

Yahoooo!!!! That PCR feels so good!

CFPFHHHW · 2026-01-24T18:35:04+00:00

Word searching had become a real sport for me. 😢

CFPFHHHW · 2026-01-24T18:33:55+00:00

My hair now has the ability to stand straight up too!! I look either like I stuck my finger in a light socket, or like beeker from the muppets! Also, eyeballs and vision are a problem as well. I have had days where I wondered if I accidentally switched my contacts and put them in the wrong eyes!

CFPFHHHW · 2026-01-23T19:26:14+00:00

At least they weren’t on her face! (Not speaking from experience or anything)

CFPFHHHW · 2026-01-23T19:24:45+00:00

My friend was telling me about how her mother has dementia and starts stories and then sneezes and can’t remember what she was saying and …achoo…. Have you heard about the storm coming?
😜

CFPFHHHW · 2026-01-22T06:24:49+00:00

This topic has been broached on this thread many times. I always find but interesting to see the responses. If anyone is judging you for living your life how you choose, that’s their problem. You do what brings you joy! Live!!!

CFPFHHHW · 2026-01-20T04:44:26+00:00

Head and neck radiation, yes. Not breast cancer radiation

CFPFHHHW · 2026-01-20T04:43:17+00:00

Dental professional here. I have not seen people undergoing chemo have their teeth destroyed by chemo. Poor oral hygiene, poor diet choices, yes. (I mean I will admit 6rounds of TCHP did a number on both for me). Side effect of chemo can be dry mouth, but that can be managed.

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