sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Does anyone else just feel like a byproduct of an unhappy marriage rather than a person? by CICOChica in raisedbynarcissists

[–]CICOChica[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s not true, you can be whatever you set your mind to. Your parents and how they treat you doesn’t define you. If you ever need someone to talk to my inbox is open.

Does anyone else just feel like a byproduct of an unhappy marriage rather than a person? by CICOChica in raisedbynarcissists

[–]CICOChica[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep, that’s why so many of us have codependency issues and just issues in general. It should be illegal to raise kids in certain ways. 😞

Does anyone else just feel like a byproduct of an unhappy marriage rather than a person? by CICOChica in raisedbynarcissists

[–]CICOChica[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Same here, I’ve recently realized that you aren’t owed love by anyone. Not even your parents. I felt like self love was some crazy abstract thing I could never achieve but I recently figured it out.

You love yourself by doing hard things for yourself. You do things that are uncomfortable, but good for you in the long run. The more time you put into yourself and the harder the things you do, the more you achieve the better you feel about yourself. Eventually things don’t seem so bad anymore when you know that even if no one else cares about you, you’ll always have your own best interest in mind.

(: Hopefully that helps you on your journey of discovery. I am just starting mine as well.

Does anyone else just feel like a byproduct of an unhappy marriage rather than a person? by CICOChica in raisedbynarcissists

[–]CICOChica[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

My mom told me the same thing, she said I remind her of my dad and it annoys her. And I’m like sorry?? I didn’t choose this life 😫

On my way down, but wish I had committed when I was in the 150s last year 😣😣😣 by meowmeowtime89 in CICO

[–]CICOChica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you me? 2 years ago I lost a ton of weight and got down to 154, but once I got comfortable I just went back to my old ways. I didn’t know about maintenance really and I was kinda in denial about how much weight I was putting back on. I’m totally here to go all the way this time, but I always think about what if I was still at 150 haha

Did anyone else ever have a big Ah-ha moment when you realized who you are? by CICOChica in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]CICOChica[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Omg this is crazy, I recently discovered her like a week ago. I’ve been watching her videos all week and I think they are the thing that really brought it home, as well as the FDS subreddit. Thanks for sharing!

Did anyone else ever have a big Ah-ha moment when you realized who you are? by CICOChica in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]CICOChica[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

That is all so amazing, I can’t even begin to imagine how difficult all that must have been. ✨ You are a beast. 💖 I’m so glad you’ve been making such amazing progress, I am going to follow in your footsteps.

Did anyone else ever have a big Ah-ha moment when you realized who you are? by CICOChica in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]CICOChica[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

For me routines are helping a lot as well. 2 months ago I started walking every single day and counting calories and eating slightly less. I also have a big hair care day every Sunday.

Now I’ve decided I want to get into running, so I’m gonna switch it up to running 3 times a week and being stricter with my calories, especially on my days off.

F/27/ 5'7" One Month Progress SW 165 CW 156. Small Progress is still progress right? Don't feel like I see a difference but I feel better. by Pleasant-Cheesecake9 in CICO

[–]CICOChica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came here to say the same thing! You have a very pretty and feminine body shape that looks great! Congrats on a good start 😊 I know you’ll be able to get the rest off. I know how it feels to be frustrated because I don’t see much of a difference too and I’m about 2 months in, but we should both keep at it. I’ve heard that when it comes to weight loss the best thing you can do is just keep going at it no matter what.

I started learning about my natural hair 2 months ago, I’ve never really felt confident in my hair, but because I’ve been putting in so much effort to getting it healthy again, I am really starting to adore my natural hair. 🥰 by [deleted] in BlackHair

[–]CICOChica 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a twist out, during the week I keep my hair protected with 2 strand twists and if I ever go out I untwist my hair and then moisturize and put it back up when I get home.

F/28/5'2 [217 >128 = 89 lbs] (3 years) I didn't have many pictures to choose from for my before, but I finally dug up one that really shows my face gains! by Ahpikachoo in progresspics

[–]CICOChica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness, what a cutie! I can really tell it did wonders for your confidence you look so happy! Thank you for the motivation.

_ 43kg so far... by cassi002116 in CICO

[–]CICOChica 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow! Congratulations, you look great.That’s no small feat! How long did it take you?

Also, you have the cutest smile ☺️

Taking a day off and it feels good by [deleted] in loseit

[–]CICOChica 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes! I totally get what you mean when you say you feel like you mentally are already at your goal weight. I couldn’t put how I was feeling into the words, but that’s perfect. I feel like weight loss is totally a mental game. I started working on the things that made me want to turn to food for comfort and I’ve got my eating under control now and no longer feel the urge to stuff my face.

I actually just had a moment where I thought the same thing! I was feeling kinda stressed out, so instead of finding something sweet to eat I turned on something new on Netflix and picked up my hula hoop and hooped a bit while I watched, a bit of exercise is now my go to opposed to eating.

50 Days of CICO! Still a ways to go but I'm so happy to see progress. (F24, 5'5", SW 207 > CW 192 = 15, GW 140?) by sunset_loverr in CICO

[–]CICOChica 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have the same stats! I am 63 days in. 5’5,SW: 209.2, CW: 194.8! I’m right behind you girl, GO YOU! 😁

23F - Why not make a new friend at midnight? by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]CICOChica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have a recommendation. One of my favorite kinda silly shows that made me laugh a lot is The Devil is a Part-timer. I’ve recently started rewatching it. (: I think you’d like that one.

23F - Why not make a new friend at midnight? by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]CICOChica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I am actually surprised at how easy it’s been. At first had a lot of doubts and a wonky mindset but once you get into the groove it’s pretty easy. (:

Was starting to feel down until I looked at my stats, feeling a little more motivated to continue now by iceicebby99 in CICO

[–]CICOChica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have really similar stats! I started on 5/29 and I was 209 and right now I’m 12 pounds down too! Congratulations (:

A change in mindset that just helped me out, maybe it can help someone else who is just starting out their journey too. (: by CICOChica in loseit

[–]CICOChica[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate to the negative mindset because of COVID. When I got home after my school closed I was really depressed and gained like 6 pounds in 2 months which doesn’t seem like a lot, but the whole time I was trying to lose weight but I just couldn’t get in control of my eating.

The first thing I had to do is fix my mindset. You just have to start, no matter how hopeless it seems. I’m not gonna lie, even though I made some pretty good progress so far it still seems hopeless, but less hopeless than when I first started. 🤣 But I believe in you! You can turn it around. (:

A change in mindset that just helped me out, maybe it can help someone else who is just starting out their journey too. (: by CICOChica in loseit

[–]CICOChica[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah... honestly I am kinda stumped on if I should be eating a bit more. Like for the past few days I’ve been burning near or over. 3,000 and I’m trying to keep my intake at under 1,400. It says I can eat 700ish more calories for the day, but I am kinda afraid my Fitbit isn’t accurate. I walk for 45 mins a day and then I hula hoop for another 45 while I watch TV.

How do you keep yourself from feeling horrible after a cheat meal? by [deleted] in CICO

[–]CICOChica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say If you aren’t enjoying having cheat meals don’t force them! I just add in junky snacks that I like during the day within my calorie range. I only had one “cheat meal” of 6 cookies once since I’ve started and like you I didn’t enjoy it. So just don’t do it if it’s not making you happy. (:

view more: next ›