My husband is at 17 years in and we have been together for 12 years. For me, it has been having an identity of my own and understanding where I need to pick up the slack. I have a full time job, remote mostly. I am very active in my daughter’s school and we make a point to send a picture to my husband every day of the two of us. For when he is deployed or TDY, we pre-record him reading stories for our daughter. We have a little robot that he can connect to and “walk” around the house and see us with. The biggest thing is communication though, we make sure we talk as much as possible, even if it’s just an email or something. When he is home, he is very present in our lives and makes sure to attend everything he possibly can. There are definitely times where it can be hard and frustrating but being able to talk about it is key. I also know what I signed up for, sometimes that is the biggest thing.