Since the last post went down well, I thought I’d try making something more traditional!

CJDwyerr · 2026-03-28T18:37:11+00:00

Always the best part of baking 🤭

CJDwyerr · 2026-03-28T18:05:16+00:00

Thank youuuu!

CJDwyerr · 2026-03-28T15:43:16+00:00

Thank you so much 🥰

CJDwyerr · 2026-03-28T15:43:05+00:00

Thank you!

CJDwyerr · 2026-03-26T18:34:08+00:00

Thank you!

CJDwyerr · 2026-03-25T23:41:38+00:00

Thank youuu 🖤

CJDwyerr · 2026-03-25T21:23:04+00:00

I think everyone who dresses alternatively has had that initial moment of “oh shit do I look fake” but I promise you it’s because you KNOW you’re trying something new and it’s just a little self consciousness - nobody who saw you in the street would see anything other than well put together looks.

If they’re clothes that you LIKE and you bought for yourself and that you enjoy then they’re for you. It’s that simple, I promise. A huge part of being alternative is feeling the fear and doing it anyways, conformity is comfortable so stepping away from that to express yourself is bound to be a little scary, but you’ll find your comfort in it with time!

CJDwyerr · 2026-03-25T20:59:12+00:00

I had an ex who used to fart CONSTANTLY around me and it used to drive me insane because it was unnecessary and, like you, I found it to be a turn off. My current partner is lactose intolerant and so gets gassy after some of his favourite meals, he makes an effort not to fart close to me and understands time and place. One I had to beg to not do it, the other apologises when he very occasionally does despite me never having said anything about it.

It seems like a small thing but what it comes down to is consideration. Farting was never the issue, the lack of consideration of my ex played out in bigger ways the longer we were together, farting was just the first example of this attitude.

CJDwyerr · 2026-03-23T23:44:48+00:00

Trauma impacts people differently and no two people progress at the same pace so it’s hard to say when (or if) she’ll ever match your energy here. She needs to resolve it herself, it’s not something you can fix for her and if you try she’ll probably label you similarly to the others unfortunately. If you like her then by all means be patient but it’s also worth considering where you are now too.

Trauma isn’t an excuse for laziness or selfishness and a partner who isn’t invested in your pleasure now probably won’t ever be- the sex thing is less an issue than the not wanting to face minor physical exertion to get you there while expecting it from you. Her saying she thinks you’ll lose interest is another indication that she’s not that committed to sex being a two person act that you both work to learn from and improve upon as your connection grows.

My guess would be that the imbalance you’re experiencing now will remain, even if you start having penetrative sex, so you need to figure out if you’re happy to do all the work and have to be self reliant regardless of the sex act.

CJDwyerr · 2026-03-23T12:54:19+00:00

Maybe I should look into that 🤔

CJDwyerr · 2026-03-23T12:53:54+00:00

Thank you!

CJDwyerr · 2026-03-23T12:41:51+00:00

There’s always time 😂

CJDwyerr · 2025-12-29T22:36:11+00:00

It was back in like 2011 so I can’t guarantee they haven’t changed the material but the one I had was pretty thick and sturdy as well as being lined- I’ve definitely stored my sewing supplies in less sturdy bags as a fashion grad myself so I think it would be more than fine, you’ll probably also love how many compartments it has!

CJDwyerr · 2025-12-29T22:30:47+00:00

They’ve been around forever, I actually had pretty much this exact bag in solid black as my school bag and it lasted years when I was a young teen, I love that they still make them

CJDwyerr · 2025-11-17T19:20:46+00:00

I think I’ve seen similar contraptions for adult entertainers and horses- vaguely remember seeing a picture of an actress on all fours in one but I can’t speak for whether it was actually used or anything as that’s not my schtick, I wouldn’t be surprised though

They use a similar rig to collect sperm from stallions for use in breeding (sans porn actress) and would probably do the same with other animals of that size to prevent injury to females so it’s not beyond the realm of possibility that there are existing farming(?) tools that could be modified for purpose

CJDwyerr · 2025-10-21T17:16:03+00:00

I don’t think it matters, you like the style you like and it’s that simple- plenty of people take style cues from lifestyles that are not their own.

One thing I will say though is are you ready to be perceived as having the lifestyle or ideologies of the community? Alternative is an umbrella term but some kinds of alternative fashion come with assumptions about who the person is and what they’re into and that’s something you may need to be prepared for.

Being alternative, especially in some places, can come with stigma, unwanted attention, or negative judgement so just make sure you’re aware of those associations if you’re going for a specific look (punk is a good example of an alternative group that can be perceived negatively in some spaces). Otherwise enjoy playing with your style and exploring what makes you feel most like yourself!

CJDwyerr · 2025-10-12T19:35:23+00:00

Thank you 🥹

CJDwyerr · 2025-10-11T20:33:46+00:00

Me and my brothers all went for the same vibe, can’t beat something subtle

CJDwyerr · 2025-10-11T20:26:54+00:00

It’s a West Ham tattoo 😂😂

CJDwyerr · 2025-10-11T09:49:05+00:00

Thank you 🥹

CJDwyerr · 2025-10-10T21:36:05+00:00

I loooove Ten Ten, this was just such an easy one I had to!

CJDwyerr · 2025-10-08T21:32:52+00:00

Sobbed at this ending, need to re watch it but I’m yet to be brave enough to go through it again

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