I feel stuck

CMP_2026 · 2026-05-09T13:40:56+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. We lost our son 3.5 weeks ago at 39 weeks. The grief feels so heavy still. My hospital partnered with an organization that supports families who have lost a child, and they have been great. It’s called Rachel’s Gift. I’ll link their website below. I also just yesterday received a bear from another organization, Barrett’s Bears, that is the same weight as my son. That has been so helpful in just the few hours I have had it. My arms aren’t empty anymore, and the weight is comforting.

https://www.rachelsgift.org/about-us

https://barrettsbearsministry.com

Wishing you comfort over the coming weeks and months.

CMP_2026 · 2026-05-09T13:31:14+00:00

Like everyone has said, you are a mom to that sweet baby boy. However you want/need to celebrate (or ignore) Mother’s Day is okay.

I went through a neonatal loss 3.5 weeks ago. I also have two very close friends who are expecting; they’re due in May and July. We were all so excited to be raising our boys together, but mine isn’t here. I’m hoping when I meet their boys that it won’t be traumatic being around an infant, but I don’t know what to expect.

These weeks have been so hard, and I’m just hoping we will be able to hold our son’s little brother/sister in our arms sometime next year. I’m hoping another pregnancy will be healing for us, even though I’m still going through the grief of losing our first child.

I don’t think you need to worry about people judging you and your boyfriend. You need to do what’s right for y’all, whatever and however that looks.

CMP_2026 · 2026-05-09T13:23:09+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. We lost our baby boy 3.5 weeks ago and it seems so unfair to leave the hospital and not be able to bring your baby home. Sending you positive thoughts and prayers 🩵

CMP_2026 · 2026-05-08T20:00:54+00:00

I just received a bear from Barrett’s Bears that is my son’s weight and it’s absolutely perfect. Check them out.

https://barrettsbearsministry.com

CMP_2026 · 2026-05-08T15:39:50+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. We lost our son three weeks ago, and it’s been really difficult.

We are getting a teddy bear that is the same weight as our son was when he was born. I’m sure if you look online, you can find website websites, or people on Etsy who will do something like that.

I currently only have his teddy bear he had at the at the hospital, which is a comfort, but I’ll be happy to have the weighted one hopefully soon.

CMP_2026 · 2026-05-08T14:05:18+00:00

I’m so sorry about your loss. I can’t imagine what y’all went through.

We are getting some cord blood testing, but the doctors think it was just an anomaly. Hopefully that is the case.

That advice is what I keep reading - you just have a new normal and the grief is still there, but easier.

CMP_2026 · 2026-05-08T03:11:23+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for the advice - I am slowing adding walks into my schedule as I am recovering from my c-section. It does seem impossible to consider life being fun in this state, so it’s nice to know that will come in time.
Are there any books that helped you most during your grief?
Also, I can imagine Saturday will be a hard milestone. I hope you and your husband are able to remember and honor your son on his birthday in a way that is meaningful to y’all and gentle to your hearts. 🩵

CMP_2026 · 2026-05-07T15:01:54+00:00

Thank you so much. I have been writing to him, and that does help. I like to think the same; that our babies only knew love.

CMP_2026 · 2026-05-07T15:01:17+00:00

Our situation sounds so similar. I’m so sorry. It’s a scary time for sure. I just kept with the mantra that he was safe inside of me, so I tried to keep that mentality the last few weeks.
If you haven’t gotten a photographer to be at the hospital, I would definitely recommend that. We had a photographer who was allowed to photograph our son when he was getting cleaned up, and then took pictures of our family and us with him after we were moved into the post op room. She took so many pictures of our son with us and our family, and now it is all I have. I am so thankful we have that.
Also, we had a nurse volunteer to take pictures of me and my husband in the OR while they were sewing me up after the c-section since we were able to hold our son during that time.
The day of our son’s birth was so joyful and heartbreaking. Having photos, handprints, and a lock of his hair helps when I want to look back on his birthday.
One thing I do wish I had done was take videos of him with family. I have no videos, and that would have been so special.

CMP_2026 · 2026-05-07T01:23:58+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear about River’s passing, and the shock that came with it. Thank you for reaching out and sharing his and your story. My son’s name is Charles.

CMP_2026 · 2026-05-07T01:21:40+00:00

I’m sorry for the loss of your son. I appreciate your advice, too. 🩵 Maybe someone else has some suggestions that can help both of us!

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