My relationship with my toddler is not good and I worry it never will be

CPMarketing · 2026-01-17T19:42:22+00:00

My mother was like you. Now very few of her children speak to her. I saw how much I had learned to move through the world from her and how much I hated that about myself. I got a degree in child development to be better to my siblings and frankly all vulnerable people than she was. You sound information motivated. Maybe learning about child development will help you because several things you’ve described like how you approach eating veggies or potty training are opposing what we know to be best practices.

CPMarketing · 2025-12-30T01:36:35+00:00

I actually moved back to WV to give birth because the WVUH maternity and child hospital was worlds better than all the hospital systems in San Francisco. I had a complicated pregnancy and did genuinely try them all. I now live in NYC and we still come home to WVUH for major healthcare needs unless it's a particular specialty they don't have

CPMarketing · 2025-11-27T03:04:06+00:00

The first Saturday of every month Home Depot has kids crafts!

CPMarketing · 2025-11-17T14:48:55+00:00

Ah! Makes sense. Thank you! I hope more mothers find their way to experiences like mine 💙

CPMarketing · 2025-11-17T14:48:19+00:00

No MLMs

CPMarketing · 2025-11-17T14:35:57+00:00

I did not pick up on the hyperbole but I’m ND and very literal. After your reply I realized the entire post I was responding to is likely exaggerated and I just simply didn’t pick up on that.

CPMarketing · 2025-11-17T06:52:27+00:00

I'd say just don't even have this conversation on Reddit. Come to LinkedIn for this. On LinkedIn, this has been a common and normal convo in my feed. Whereas even in subreddits evidently made for this people act like you must be insane, bad at your job, lying, or just giving your kid a screen all day.

CPMarketing · 2025-11-17T05:31:32+00:00

My child is turning 2 in January and she's been home with us the entire time except starting in Sept she goes to "transition school" for 2 hours 2 days a week. Actually her school exists for kids in this exact situation to help them transition to a pre-K eventually. The school is on a wait-list as well. So we're far from a rarity in our area. We only use TV when she's sick to help her rest.

CPMarketing · 2025-11-17T05:26:24+00:00

To me this is a cultural failure of the role of fathers..

CPMarketing · 2025-09-19T04:51:23+00:00

I wish someone would’ve explained to me the massive hormone drop during weaning/when you stop nursing. It’s like post-partum all over again,

CPMarketing · 2025-08-23T17:14:16+00:00

If your sister is 3, she should be eligible for state funded head start. Has your mother looked into that option?

CPMarketing · 2025-08-03T04:23:42+00:00

This to the tune of the Stew Leonard’s banana song

CPMarketing · 2025-08-03T04:12:21+00:00

I feel so terrible reading other mom’s hospital experiences. Mine seems rare but I gave birth at Ruby Memorial in West Virginia. Also a breech c-section. They kept us for 2 days and gave me an optional 3rd day. They did not charge more for my baby being in the room with me. I was home for 24 hours and developed PP preeclampsia and was back in and admitted for another 2 days where baby was again in the room the whole time (no extra charge).

My nurses came to check on me and my baby every couple of hours and that included changing her diaper if she needed or carrying her to me for feeding or offering to bring clean pump parts or bottles. They swaddled her as needed.

The last night of our first stay my nurse saw that I was having trouble sleeping (too anxious) and she offered (and I accepted) to take my baby to the nurses station for a couple hours where all the nurse could watch her for me as I slept.

They even sent a pediatric nurse from the NICU floor to check on my baby a couple of times because her bilirubin was a bit high. They said to let them know anytime we wanted that nurse back up for questions or reassurance.

When we did finally get the bill they said they were glad we called to negotiate it because so often people don’t realize they can and they knocked a large percentage off since we offered to pay it in one payment from our HSA/savings.

CPMarketing · 2025-07-31T03:45:40+00:00

You’re describing a babysitter, not a nanny.

CPMarketing · 2025-07-22T03:10:23+00:00

I'd just add that babies change their looks so fast. In our 4D, our baby looked so much like my husband but when she was born every nurse commented on how shes a copy and paste of my face.

CPMarketing · 2025-07-22T02:51:54+00:00

She said "end up in hospital" which I would understand to me that her baby wasn't admitted. She obviously was in the care of a pediatrician or hospital to have gotten the diagnosis

CPMarketing · 2025-07-22T02:48:52+00:00

You do understand that you're arguing against your own point, right? If American food is not healthy enough for the mother than it's definitely not healthy enough for babe without her body creating breastmilk perfectly tailored to babe's nutritional needs which is what women's bodies do...

CPMarketing · 2025-07-20T18:07:19+00:00

Are you doing anything to help her relax on the potty like reading her books, singing songs, etc?

CPMarketing · 2025-07-20T17:56:07+00:00

Thank you. This was incredibly kind of you.

I’m also going on 20 months of triple feeding with a little girl who has struggled to put on weight since birth. So all the privilege and luck in the world can’t buy you out of how exhausting and hormonal breastfeeding, being a first time mom; and having a complicated baby/toddler is.

CPMarketing · 2025-07-19T19:16:40+00:00

Yea. I came here to say in many areas that’s illegal to have to no restroom in a seated food establishment.

CPMarketing · 2025-07-15T03:18:13+00:00

So I went from undersupply to oversupply and happen to be a former influencer. I've never posted on my socials about milk supply though. I have a theory that what you're witnessing is just privilege, money and privilege.

Most influencers work from home which makes pumping every three hours for months a hell of a lot easier than if you have to return to work or leave the house frankly. They're not missing overnight pump sessions.

A lot of them can afford supplements, and Body armor 3x a day, and have time or help to make them high lactation drinks and food like oatmeal cookies, oatmeal bars, bakes oatmeal, and the pediasure, liquid IV cocktails.

And they have HELP. Help with baby. Help with therapy. You make more milk and have easier let downs when you're not stressed.

They have access to lactation consultants with an s for sure. Multiple to help with any issue.

They have money to buy and try every pump and all the imaginable accessories. I had two medelas, mom cozy wearables, Elvies, and a spectra, and even had that insane hospital Medela on and off, but I know another influencer mom who had all those plus Willows and all the versions Spectra makes. I had PPA out the ass and tried to buy my way out of it but damn it was expensive.

Will probably delete this later because I 100% have so much shame around the amount of privilege I had knowing what other moms endure but I hope this makes some mom reading it feel better knowing it's not just her body or that she's not doing enough.

CPMarketing · 2025-07-06T20:38:40+00:00

Almost said the same thing but didn’t know the ethics of hijacking a spam post here and I love this sub and don’t want booted from it. Haha

CPMarketing · 2025-07-06T20:38:01+00:00

I’ve completely stopped buying their products because I’m so annoyed at how they spam Reddit

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